have you ever seriously misjudged someone?
By raclie
@raclie (1732)
Singapore
October 22, 2008 9:20am CST
well, since 9 months ago, we have a maid who, although hardworking, rather lacks common sense.
she will try really hard, but she really have no idea on what should she do to have an easier time cleaning the house.
but since i was used to having a maid who knows what we want done and how to look after the kids well, i was not very nice to the new maid, heck, i am awful to her!
so anyway, i have learnt my mistake, and have changed my attitude towards her to the better.
it's not easy to be a domestic helper, so i hope being nice to her helps to ease the home sickness a bit.
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4 responses
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
22 Oct 08
Well.. yeah. I have misjudged someone for a long time. It's been almost two years, I thought those people are good persons, and I thought they are very truthful and credible. I thought older people are wiser and think better. I really thought that they are the people I could trust. It is seriously damaging your trust towards someone when you find that person really hurt the trust you have given them. It was really devastating, and I promise myself not to trust them ever again.
Just like what you did, I changed my attitude towards them. And not only that, I started to re-evaluate all relationship I had with people around me. I should be able to see which one is righteous and which one is not.
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
7 Nov 08
Think of it this way. She is here on a job, much like you would when you graduate. The only difference is, her office is your home. And her boss is your parents. Her senior managers are you and your family members.
If your boss or your managers where to mistreat you, how would you feel?
And if you are tied to a contract and cannot leave the company, what would you do as a disgrunted employee? The natural reaction is not to do your best in your work.
Now, imagine, this situation in your maid's shoes. If she is disgrunted, there is a million and one things she can do to you or your family. Remember, she is human too.
Your decision to treat her better is a good one. Keep to it. And if she is happy working with your family, she may even go beyond her duties to actually care for you as well.
It is a basic human nature. When you are nice to people, people will naturally be nice back to you. 
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
27 Oct 08
This hs never been something to happen to me. I'm usually pretty good at telling how people are when I meet them. I can usually spot average (just a regular person), exceptionally wonderful, or "this person's scary, nuts and dangerous. Run NOW!" I've never had problems with judgement.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Oct 08
yeah you are right you are awful!hehhee how about you do this job so that someday if you want to marry you have idea how to taking care of your family?
