Why do you have depression?

United States
October 23, 2008 6:14pm CST
For those of us who suffer from depression, I just want to know what do you think has caused this? I know there's a million factors such as genetics and whatever else. I'm just wondering about particular life events. Did you have a rough childhood? Do you have a negative body image causing your depression? Etc Etc. What is the environmental aspect that has led you to have depression? For me, it was my upbringing, along with my body image. I won't get too into my upbringing.. mostly because I don't have the space. It's quite confusing really as I had 2 moms. So far as my body image, well I've never really been a perfect size. Since birth I was always sort of chubby. My mother is extremely overweight, and as a child some people would always tell me that I would grow up to look like my mother. In my foster home they would oink at me when I walked into the kitchen. Needless to say I've always had a problem with my weight and with food.
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
23 Oct 08
It is a good thing to know what your source of depression is in order to make the steps in the right direction to get past it. Mine is two fold, a life situation and a chemical imbalance. I grew up in a seemingly functional family but had unrealistic expectations placed on me to be perfect. Nothing I ever achieved was quite enough. And even though I have faced that demon I still expect too much of myself. It is a daily struggle. It never caused depression just caused me to push myself to exhaustion at times. Second, In my late twenties when I was having a hard time getting pregnant the doctors began to put me on first one medication and then the next. I was a hormonal wreck and then on top of that faced with the monthly realization that it had not helped again. My marriage began feeling the strain of it all. And then as you can imagine..... I began to see myself as a failure. I had been raised to try a little harder, push a little further and I can do anything I put my mind to. But nothing I could do would bring about the results we wanted. I fell into a huge depression and even now, years later I occassionally feel the chemical imbalance causing a huge shift change every so often. Doctors want to change up meds again and I feel completely out of control. I want to be in complete control of my own health and I push myself too hard to get there sometimes.... often making things worse. It is a vicious cycle. But as I started this response by saying, it is all about understanding what is causing the struggle, and then never giving up the fight. I'm sure you understand, katsmeow, it is my son and his happiness that keeps me fighting and makes my feet hit the floor running every day.
• United States
23 Oct 08
I can't imagine how hard it must be to always do everything perfectly. It must be so draining sometimes. I'm sort of the opposite. Most of the time I have to fight myself really hard just to get off my butt to do anything. My house is always a mess, I rarely ever put on make up or even brush my hair. I just allow myself to "let go". That's a result of my depression, I take no interest in doing anything. Of course I eventually feel guilty about the way my house looks and the way I look, which causes further depression, so it's a viscious cycle... only sort of opposite of yours. I am terribly sorry about your struggles to get pregnant, I can't even imagine what that must be like. But at least you were blessed with a son, and he is probably the luckiest child on the planet.
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
24 Oct 08
thanks, kats. We understand each other more than we probably realize. I call myself a recovering perfectionist. I have come a long way with this. I don't expect perfection of myself like I used to. It immobilizes me more than anything these days. Instead of doing everything perfectly, I tend to not even start something if I don't feel I can do it perfectly..... which means I let a lot go undone, rather than do it poorly. Drives the hubby nuts!
• United States
24 Oct 08
Have you ever thought about talking to someone about that? I don't think not doing anything is healthy either.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
24 Oct 08
i get depressed when things don,t go right when i try hard for things to go right .depression is no joke no one likes to feel down and a lone.somtimes if it bad enough you have to take meication for depession,no i don,t have a negative body image my girl friend she also makes me feel good about myself so that helps i just feeldown at times thats all.
• United States
24 Oct 08
I'm talking about the disease depression. Everyone gets depressed now and then when things don't go right, but many people have depression for no reason at all. It is a sickness.
@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
23 Oct 08
yes I think it is a lot to do with the mind, the way we think situations out, I suffer from depression as well, and luckily most times i can talk myself out of it by thinking about the things in my life that seem to be making me depressed, and then thinking i am wasting my life in letting myself get depressed about these things and i just wont allow it any more...I look for the positives in my life and convince myselg I have it good compared to some others, and i will try and get on with my life the best i can as it seems it is running away with me time wisw, time is going so fast i just won't allow myself to dwell on the negatives....I hope you work things out for yourself....
• United States
23 Oct 08
My depression isn't really all that cut and dry. Sometimes I don't even realized I'm depressed. Mostly I get lazy and lathargic, and take no interest in anything. I may not actually feel depressed about anything. Sometimes I think it's normal. You know I get feeling depressed or hopeless about life and society, and I think it's normal because of the world we live in. So I don't really notice that it's depression until it's been going on for awhile. I can't pinpoint anything that's causing it at that moment, it's just a funk I'm in.
@besthope44 (12135)
• India
8 Oct 10
Not really when sometimes, too much work cant handle with any body pains..depression is more. Rest of that with kids its always a depression free.
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
The depression of the youth comes from the inability to find an enemy to fight - no cause, no situation, no dictatorship. Or to give them benefit of the doubt, they might know that their enemy is the way they live their lives - but then they are afraid to face their greatest enemy in the mirror.
• Qatar
24 Oct 08
There are several types of depression. Some people believe dat depression is normal in people who are elderly, have problems, have bad life situations, Many depressed people remain so simply out of a lack of the will to want to get out. If you or someone close to u is suffering from depression, the depressive needs too much attention.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
24 Oct 08
I have no idea, but I can tell you what makes it worse, the circumstances of life. It can be something chemical, and I do think that it is in the temperament of some to be melancholy or exuberant. You do not will yourself to be depressed, but if you are that way, and the authority figures make you feel bad, berate you, etc. you start to feel bad about yourself so you have the blues, the term I use for non-chemical based depression caused by circumstances over which you have no control. That is, you cannot physically or financially get yourself out of it. And even when years past, you will still remember. And either you will get more blue and try to lose yourself, or you will get to not feel anything and then you wonder what is worse.
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
24 Oct 08
im not really sure, why i have this depression. my husband always asks me the same question... but i havent pondered about it yet. maybe i should find time to think about this.