Are you an open book?

United States
October 23, 2008 6:20pm CST
Or do you like to keep to yourself? Are you comfortable with telling strangers all about yourself and your past? Me, I'm an open book. I don't mind talking about myself or my past, I actually enjoy it, even the things that should be painful, I don't mind talking about. The only reason I really don't is because I don't like to make those around me feel uncomfortable, and I do have some stories from my childhood that will make others uncomfortable. Any time I've told my friends of my childhood I've made them cry. I got this way from my foster mom. She was an open book as well, and she was loud. She would tell any stranger mine and her entire life story, and it would be audible from the other side of a crowded grocery store. Sometimes it was embarassing, because of course she liked to point out all the silly things I did as a child. I would definitly prepair anyone, like a boyfriend, before they met her. I'd make sure all my embarassing stories were told by me so she'd have no ammo against me, lol. None of them are really embarassing to me though, because I was a child and didn't know better. Even the stupid mistakes I've made as an adult, I'm not ashamed of. I'm a different person because of my mistakes. Yes I've done stupid things, but I learned from them and they are a part of who I am today. I don't mind sharing my stories. How about you?
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@bvdev234 (304)
• India
23 Oct 08
Sometimes being an open book can give trouble. I always keep a distance from new friends and strangers. A strange thing (not really strange), it that thieves used to watch television online programs nowadays. Through that they will get info on which house/area will be safe for their business! It is so that people will say the DJ, we will be going for vacation for 2 - 3 days, I (a lady) will be at home alone all morning, etc. So I think we can think over these... That doesn't mean being an open is not right. It is a good habit, though play safe.
• United States
23 Oct 08
I don't mean so much with personal details such as that, I mean more or less past events and things of that nature. Although I guess I am guilty of giving out too much personal information. I have posted pictures of my children all over the internet. It wouldn't be difficult to figure out my real name, or the area I live in. Perhaps not my exact town, but if you can find my last name, then I'm pretty easy to locate.
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@bvdev234 (304)
• India
23 Oct 08
What I said happens, which I read in newspaper. Peoples from village areas who are unaware of these will fall into it. When they get the line in TV program, they will be enthralled and they won't know what they are saying. Along with that the DJ (may a 16 y.o. girl) will ask for more info...
• United States
23 Oct 08
Oh yes I know it is a real problem, and I should be more careful.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
23 Oct 08
I am an open book to a certain extent. Once I have gotten to know you, I will have no problem relating my life story, I do not mind because whatever I say is the truth. I do not think you should be ashamed or embarrassed about the truth. My husband is also an open book. My sister is an open book, but sometimes she stretches the story
• United States
23 Oct 08
I used to stretch my stories as well, actually I would go above and beyond stretching and completely fabricate things. As I've gotten older I've stopped doing that though. There's no need to lie, my past is interesting enough as it is.
• Philippines
24 Oct 08
Being an open book is just being true to yourself and others as long as you do not add anything to your story or fabricate something just to add spice to your story... Certainly, I am an Open Book... I love telling my story to others as long as they are interested to lend me their ears... I dont mind telling my past or present life to other people coz I dont see anything wrong with that... I know that Im living my life well coz I am true not only to my self but to others.
@p1kef1sh (45638)
24 Oct 08
Katsmeow1213 I used to be a very "Open Book" but I have reviewed that stance and now I tell only what people want to know. I am happy to have jokes made at my expense and am willing to share experiences if they seem relevant. In the main though I do not believe that people are that interested in me so maybe it is better that I listen more than I talk. P1ke
• United States
24 Oct 08
I am becoming that way as well. When I was younger I would tell my story to anyone who would listen, but I have learned that there is a time and place for sharing my stories. I still enjoy it, and would love to have more people who would listen. I'm not sure why, I just like sharing my life with people.
@gemini_rose (16192)
24 Oct 08
Sometimes I am sometimes I am not,it depends upon the situation. If I think something from my past will benefit someone else by them knowing then I will talk about it, that is usually here. I would not and have never told anyone in my personal day to day life anything about my past and that includes hubby. One reason is because the people in my area friend or not cannot be trusted to keep information to themselves and the other is I do not feel that things in my past concern my hubby, he does not need to know and plus he is not too bothered about knowing much. Sometimes things are best left alone, it is not like they have any significant bearing on my present life.
• United States
24 Oct 08
But most of your past dictates who you are today. You learned something from it, there was something you took away, or perhaps it hurt you and made your more guarded. I can understand your hubby not being much interested, mine really isn't either because a lot of it makes him uncomfortable. But he still knows the basics of every event in my life, I just learn not to go into detail when he becomes uncomfortable.
24 Oct 08
I like this question, it really made me think, especially since I love books. I don't think I've ever been an open book, even as a child. I was probably more willing, as a child, to share a lot of pages in my book, but I never read the whole chapter out loud to anyone. Now as an adult, I'm more secure (somewhat) of who I am as a person, and would be willing to lay my book down on the coffe table for anyone to see, but even my closest and dearest friends will tell you getting the pages to turn is a totally different story. ***thanks for the question.
• United States
24 Oct 08
It's healthy and natural to keep some things to yourself, but I also see no harm in letting other people know.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
23 Oct 08
Yes, I am both. I am opened, when I want certain people to know about the real me. I am closed to strangers, that I don't feel comfortable with.. I love getting advice. But, in person, I am very careful on who I get it from..
• United States
23 Oct 08
Advice should always be taken with a grain of salt, regardless who it is from. Not everyone's advice will be the best for you.
@eagle_f15 (2052)
• Malaysia
23 Oct 08
No I am not an open book. I am definitely a closed book. Can't go tell strangers about myself or my past. I am very cautious and careful who I share my my conversation with. In the past I used to be an opened book and then I had to learn my lesson. Not everyone is for you. Some, after sharing will use your story or what you have said and turn against you. So I am very careful now.......
• United States
23 Oct 08
I've never had anyone turn anything against me... well except an ex boyfriend of mine, but it didn't bother me. There was something I did in my late teens that wasn't quite right, and he knew about it. He would throw it in my face when we were in a fight, and he even told all our co-workers about it. After I broke up with him I ended up dating someone we were working with, that's how I found out he'd told everyone. It was sort of embarassing, but it didn't bother me because for 1. I don't care what those people think, and for 2. If they'd asked, I would have told them myself. Besides, even though it wasn't a good thing to do, I'm not really ashamed, because like I said, it's a part of who I was and it made me who I am.
• Canada
23 Oct 08
I am the same way I am so an open book. I tell anyone and everyone that will listen my life story. My mother always tells me that I should learn to close my mouth and open my ears! But that is not possible for me. Just the other day I had a lady in front of me in a line she turned around and said "oh you have two beautifal children" I said to her thanx then I said to bad there father dont think so. Well that lead me and her into a huge discussion! I had another lady in a checkout say that my son looked really sweet and healthy. I said to her i know he looks great you wouldnt say he had open heart surgery just 9 months before! Again another discussion! This time i ended up chatting to her for almost 1 hour. Sometimes my mouth is great. I had a lady one time that i met in the mall she asked how old my kids were. I was changing my son and she asked me about the scar on his chest. I explained about his heart surgery. As it turned out she has a son that was about have the same surgery that my son had! I totaly helped calm her nerves a bit! Other times my open book life gets me into trouble. I had a friend one time that really hurt me and I was telling a so called friend of mine all about how bad she was and what she has done in her past that noone knew about. Well little did I know this friend was step sisters with the other friend. Needless to say Boy was my face red when i found out!!!
• United States
23 Oct 08
Hmm, yes I can see where that would lead to trouble. I probably would have found myself in the same situation. As I get older I'm learning more to keep things to myself. Every so often I get the urge to blurt things out, but it's usually in bits and pieces, not so much the entire story. I think I'm learning that from my husband because some of my stories make him uncomfortable, so I've learned to just shut up sometimes, lol.
• United States
23 Oct 08
I am more of an open book to my friends. They know of things that went on in my life when I was younger till now.I normally don't tell strangers though about my life so I guess I am more of a closed book towards strangers. Just the things that went on in my past well, its not something that I would shout from the rooftops.
• United States
23 Oct 08
Well I don't go around just blurting things out, but if someone asks me I don't hesitate to tell them. If I find a discussion here on Mylot, I will share an intimate part of my life if it has to do with that discussion.
@cristis12 (125)
• United States
23 Oct 08
I am Definetly a Closed Book and when you open it the Mystery begins lol in that sense I am trying to say that I keep to myself unless its a family member or something I just really need to get off my chest you know the whole world doesnt need to know my business but I have found that alot of my friends are open books and they just chatter and talk about anything and everything and maybe sometimes a little to much info lol.. but its all good everyone has there own perogative!!
• United States
23 Oct 08
I can certainly understand you wanting to keep to yourself, but I personally see no harm in telling others of my life. Since I'm so open with it, there are no surprises. Nobody can hurt me by holding something over my head. "Well I know this and I'm going to tell the world" so I say go ahead, because I don't care who knows. I have no secrets. Perhaps I got that way as a protection, because my mom was so open with telling others of my life, I felt like if I told them first then she couldn't hurt me. I guess it's just a habit that has stuck with me.
• China
11 Dec 08
I want to be an open book. It's not easy to be an open book. It needs full of self-confidence and trust. It's easy for a mean person to take advantage of your openness to hurt you or embrass you. But I still think to be open and simple can lead an easy and happy life.
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
27 Oct 08
i am a open book, i tell anyone what i've been through, and what i've done. because my pass isn't the best but i am proud of whom i became these days. i tell younger people all the time. maybe they can or be willing to learn from my mistakes. even as a adult i made so many changes within years, worked hard on my mental health issues that i am not med free.
@Ithink (10490)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Im an open book up to a point. I can open up if someone says or asks something be it here or in "real life". I however dont just open up to strangers out of the blue. If it is something really important I also only trust a few select. If I include someone to they are lucky as I dont trust many. Yet I have no problem talking about bad things in my past if asked. Now if it is about things that I dont think is anyones business Im a closed book. I do agree that all I have been thru makes me who I am today and I think Im a pretty good person!
@walijo2008 (4646)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I don't think I'm an open book, I don't really like telling people about myself. There are some things I'll talk about like my health, you wouldn't believe what all I've been thru, with my medical history, I'll talk about that, but most everything else, I don't say, because I don't think its anybody's business.
• Australia
25 Oct 08
I'm not an open person and I'm not a smooth communicator; as in not verbal-minded. Usually I'm uncomfortable talking personal and would divert the conversation away from myself. I even got complains that i ask too much about the person and reveal nothing myself haha selfishness. I'm not an open book but some people can read my feelings through my actions or facial expressions that i'm not aware of. So maybe something's gotta change- keep a poker face that is lol..
@23uday (2998)
• India
24 Oct 08
Hi iam a openness nature?I want to tell every thing to my frnds and i don't like that uncomfortable word but i like comfortable word very much.Iam a open book person,I will share every thing with my frnds and i talking about me and anything talking news.From my childhood iam open book person.Iam always painful whenever i talking with my frnds.Some people will not share their feelings.Even though they don't want to tell anything their frnds.Like they were feels like a uncomfortable. Always be open book and don't be the closed book...
@maru_047in (1007)
• India
24 Oct 08
I too come from the same category and that is what it keeps me charming and it creates positiveness in us which is very important for any human being and i keep telling this to everyone and they do the same and they keep themselves very busy and tensed and i don't mind telling my failures cause it is what gains success in life for us and then only we will know our mistakes and we avoid it and we also get solution for that from many of them cause suggestion can be given by anyone but leaving or taking is our wish we should do what we think that brings lot of happiness to us. Thanks Maru
@spyglass (37)
• Australia
24 Oct 08
i'm definitely a very private individual. with strangers, i will not talk about anything that relates to me personally and with newly made friends, it will usually take them awhile to get to know me. Before i share anything personal, i have to be certain first that the person will be understanding and who i will like. Nothing worse then sharing ur innermost feelings only to get berated and demeaned just because that person doesn't understand it. but once we've become close and comfortable, it will be difficult to stop me from pouring everything out haha. especially in a relationship, it's important that ur partner knows what s/he is getting into and u do want them to know too. So, to answer the question: i'm a closed book to strangers because there's no reason why i should tell them anything or why they should be interested in what i have to say, but i'm definitely an open book with those one or two special people in my life.
@camomom (7536)
• United States
24 Oct 08
I think it depends on the situation. I wouldn't tell someone certain things unless it was already brought up.
@hildas (3031)
24 Oct 08
I am a closed book. I do not like to tell to much to people. My mum is a really open book, she tells strangers in shops her entire life story and it embaress me so much. I think that is why I am the way I am today.