What would you do if the one you love says they dont love you.

Life is not always full of sunshine. There are ups and downs like the circle of a motorcar tire, or the wind mill. I am sorry to hear that after five years of loving your relationship finally came to an end. However I suggest that don't be so heart broken because you have to remember everything that happens has a reason behind it. Most of the time when a bad thing happens, as this time the ending of a love relationship, we will feel as if no hope. What we do not know is maybe in the near future we will meet someone else who is far more better than the one we have lost now. It so happened to me when I lost my relationship with my loved one. He was my classmates and we were very close together. We even rented on the same street and it was like a dejavu because we didn't plan it to be, it just happened. Like God has planned it for us to meet and fall in love. After two years our relationship finally came to an end. I was very heartbroken and I thought God didn't love me anymore. I thought I should die. But soon later I found a new lover and he turned out to be better in loving and all aspects of life agrees with us. So I am grateful to God and thank him because giving me the experience of how it feels like to be heartbroken. So next time I would appreciate love when it is there.

I am sorry to hear about what is happening to you . Heartbreaks are very hard and sometimes you need so much time to heal . I cant believe she said that to you . I dont wanna neb or anything , but what did she say the reason for the breakup was , and did you try to work it out and talk . Love remember should be easy , and people say it takes work , and yeah that is true , but the easy part is loving and forgiving that person , and just being there for them making them everything . I have been with the person I am with for 8 years and my whole world would be over if he said that . I will need time to morn and then move back home to my families and slowly hear , and vent , and cry , and go out with friends . Maybe she just said she dont love you to hurt you , but know there was a time when she did love you and know that being with someone that long there are feelings that may always be there in some form . You just need to take this day to day and remember to breathe . dont forget to breath . breathe in and out . know that you deserve to be happy , and maybe you will see some day that there is something better than you and this lady had . never settle . You know love is a risk too !

Wow, that is really tough; if my boyfriend told me that I would be devastated, I would become so depressed and heartsick for a long time. Five years is a lot of time to get to know someone, so I understand how that would be incredibly hard. I was with someone for a year and that happened to me, so if that was multiplied times five it would be so much worse, but when that happened I felt like I could never move on, though after a while he never came back and I just had to make myself a better person from the experience, though you don't want to think about it right now, there is probably someone so much better out there for you if she never does return to your side. I hope you feel better soon.

awww that's really sad. try to talk to her if you and her can still do something to work things out. if she really decide that she no longer wants to be with you then you might as well accept the fact. it hurts but soon you'll get over it

That's really bad I know you must have been shattered. When people whom we really value say such things it really hurts. But please dont worry something good and better is awaiting you. And my answer to ur question is: When my loved one says that he doesn't love me anymore,i'll laugh and say "stop playing" Because I personally feel if the love has been double sided,nobody would say such a statement irrespective of the misunderstandings or the problem size between them Cheers

First I have to say that I have never met such situation .But i can understand your sadness .Since you both have being dating for so long ,I advise you to try again to save your love ,However if she really does not love you anymore or she did not love you before ,she just cheated with you ,you should cheer up quickly ,it is no use crying or being sad ,go to find a better girl who are really fit to you .

She might have found interest in something else or someone else. You can also do the same rather than staying sober for the rest of your life. It always happen in relationships, so you are not alone.

My husband has just not said it, but he sure acts like it. I feel it is coming and at least I can say I am getting prepared for it. Sorry. You know you have to make yourself happy though. Take this time to refelect on yourself.

I am sorry to hear your story. However I am wondering if this is REALLY a surprise to you? The reason that I say that is because we typically "grow" into loving a person and likewise we "grow" out of love, as our feelings and lives take different paths. When we love a person, we often times don't take notice of the relationship going in different directions. Or we see the changes and think that the other person will come around to the same page as we are. We ignore the signs and fail to see or hear that the other person is vacating the relationship. We sometimes don't get the subtle changes and appear to be totally shocked when the words finally come out. I am sure that if you take the time to think about the relationship, you will be able to identify when and why your feelings took different paths. With this information it allows you to identify things that YOU could have done different. This doesn't necessarily mean that it could have saved the relationship, but it would have allowed you to be realistic about the relationship. Also it will allow you to see the signs, know the signs and not to be caught off guard. You now know that the way that you feel about the relationship is only one part of the relationship and you need another half to make it work. The big question...whats next? You accept the fact that your feelings may not necessarily be at the same place. You communicate with your partner to see if you can salvage the relationship. If not, then you move on. You find the strength and courage to take a good hard look at yourself and what you have to offer a relationship. You look for a person that will compliment those attributes and that can love you as you love them. Life goes on, like it or not.

well at least she was honest and told ou would you perfer to be in a loveless relationship so it,s better you know now how she feels so you don,t continue to love and get your feeling hurt. what you need to do next is move on leave this behind.

I was married for 5 years and in the 2nd or 3rd year, my ex hit me with the she don't love me anymore! It was a bit strange, we were in the bed about to go to sleep and started talking! Yeah, it hit me like a freight train, heart fell through my stomach!!!!:( I tried to work it out with her obviously, but she started getting more defiant and bold as time went on! Eventually, I had to get a divorce cause I couldn't deal with the outright disrespect anymore, you probably couldn't imagine! My advise to you homie, cut your losses before your heart gets stomped and scarred for life!! Taripre$

Sorry to hear this, but you have to hear and respect where she coming from and wh she told you this. I this past year told my boyfriend of 4 years that i needed a break from him because the love wasnt there no more. It mad him extremely angry and upset. I apologize to him for the way i felt but i needed him to respect my feelings. Trust me if its ment to be she will be back just give her some time to think.

Hi Its a very embarasing and difficult situation.For some people ,the heart breaks.But we need to understand that they dont love us any more. And we have our own life and if they have truely loved us,they never say no. But we should understand that life is precious and we have to get with our lives,thinking that they are happy without us and we should wish for their happiness. Love doesnot demand anything,even if they leave you ,just love them. **********Life is short ,so dont miss the beautiful oppurtunity.************

I'm a single, If I have a lover,I won't give up.

i think i have the same case like you.she and i have been together for almost four years,and three months ago,she broke with me,leaving me alone.,which made me sad until now,i think the reason maybe is on me,so i decided to go to her family next month,apologizing,hoping she can forgive me,but whether we can be together again i don't know,i hope so,because i really love her so much,i can't lose her.these three months ,i have never really been happy without her.

that is awful! so sad, but it won't happen if theres nothing happen between you and your girlfriend, if you only have a misunderstood situation, then try to make it up with her, if she did or you did something wrong, then discuss it with your open mind, tell her that you want to save your relationship because you really love her, try to reminisce everything with her that you have been so far in the past five years that you been together. Five years relationship is not like 10 days relationship that you can thrown anywhere without any reason. If she insisted then, then let her go, give her a space to think if it is worthful to give up a relation like that. Just think that it is not your lost, it's her lost...

I am so sorry this happened to you. I have been there, and now am in a relationship with someone who adores me, yet I still have the fear that he too will leave and stop loving me. The only thing you can do is to take the time to get over her. Don't jump back in right away but also don't shut your heart to love in the future. We never know what tomorrow will bring, but it is better she did this before you got married. If she after all that time just stops loving you you are better off and knowing this, you will be a little more guarded with you heart. But it will happen. I believe there is someone out there. So move forward, but be careful.

If you really love someone, set her free, if she comes back to you, she was meant to be yours...if not, hunt her down and kill her....lo.... joking... Just joking, let her go and go for the next, always there is a lady on waiting list... women deserve to get a bit of challenge, feel that they are not the only ones... like I said, the sea is full of fishes... good luck on hunting, or fishing...

that would be so devastating and so painful... i just hope you'll be able to move on, though it would take time.

wow that sucks. but you know when you love you are risking the possibility that you won't be loved in return. It is just so sad that it is when you are in love that you are the weakest and we can't help but think life is unfair. When someone you love tells you they don't love you, then just smile at it and tell yourself that you are lucky because you know how to love and she/he won't get the chance to be loved by someone like you because he/she had rejected you already. I tell you she's more at a losing end than you.