What my MOM told me about women in violent spaces!!

India
October 25, 2008 2:41am CST
One night I was sitting in my parents room watching TV alone I was watching a show called "Lounge" its a talk show that discuss some very adult issues. That day the topic was "Women in Violent spaces". There this Miss Taliban was sitting, who has won this beauty pageant and is a very successful Independent woman!! She shared her story how her own boyfriend got insecure of her busy life and at the end he beat her up for 8 hours!!! Something SHE thought could never happen with an independent woman like HER!! But it happened!! Another lady told that when she was 16 a model, again successful woman got thrown out of her Own car with a very hard slap from her Own boyfriend while SHE was driving around 2 O'clock in the morning!! Because of her fall she broke her one knee and her left side of face disfigured!! Then Of course I am an adult now (soon going to be out of my teen age) asked my mom what dose she has to say about this. She told me that this is why women has to compromise.. They have to stay in their limits.. means she should not argue and stuffs (ya she can have a job) Because women ARE be it this way or the other are some how weaker than man.. say physically.. I think that yes if thinking smartly then physically not every women can be a weight lifter (like other women) But I don't agree with Mom that one should not Speak up for what is Wrong!! What do you guys thing about this? Do you agree with my mom?
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@SViswan (12065)
• India
25 Oct 08
Though I can understand what your mom says (my mom says the same), I do not agree with it. I think I need to stand up and speak for myself...and not just let things go because I fear for my life. I have experienced similar situations where men try to show their power physically and try to make me cower....but that has only made me stronger to speak out. Maybe it's because of the kind of person that I am. And sometimes, I tend to brace myself even before an attack is even intended....but I guess that's because of my experiences. We might be physically weaker than men..not all men are physically strong....but I feel that expecting respect as an individual has nothing to do with gender, strength or power.
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• India
25 Oct 08
Yes these boyfriend says they will give you there love whole of their life!! I should say ..Learn to give respect first!! And all moms are like that .. old values.. But I would consider my mom smart. She knows when to keep quite and when to speak up.. Timing matters a lot. She says that women have this tendencies .. words out of her mouth can become oil for a burning fire!! So be SMART that's what she says to me SViswan.. Thanks for your response.
@SViswan (12065)
• India
25 Oct 08
Oh yes...I agree with that. Be smart! But not the old view of taking any cr*p from men. My mother is smart too...and it helps that my dad is smarter..lol
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• India
25 Oct 08
ha ha ha .. in my case my mom is little smarter than my dad.. lol But my dad is a very aggressive man too... she handles him.. Just as being his daughter I can handle him..
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
25 Oct 08
wait.... what?!?!?!?! that is unfair, does it mean that just because we dont have what guys have does not mean that we are less important then them, or that we will have to listen to them, be abused by them since they are the head of the household. i cannot stand guys who think they have the right to abuse us since they are the ones who bring home the bacon. that is just....wrong. men who abuse women are cowards, and women who are being abused SHOULD speak out! but, it is very difficult, so maybe thats why some will be abused for years.
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• India
25 Oct 08
Exactly!! All should speak up for it. Some women face this all of their life.. They some how finds their comfort zone in between their husband and abuse.. Specially those one who are totally dependent on her partner. Thank you for your response raclie
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
26 Oct 08
no. i always speak my mind. i dont care. i always tell men what to do.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I think that you do need to wise in who you talk to.Some people are not worth talking to in the first place..As for boyfriend issues, if the guy is already violent, you shouldn't be his girlfriend, you are just asking for it.. If you are concerned about being out on your own, you can learn some kind of self defense like Karate to protect yourself and you don't have to be big and strong to do that..