Blaming others for your own fault

I fully agree with your post that one should take the blame for his/her faults, but I find most of them try to pass the buck. If they commit mistakes, they will always try to give some lame excuses to defend themselves, which look very funny to me, at times. If I have committed a mistake and later on it comes to my notices, I immediately accept the fact that I did commit the mistake, instead of giving some excuses. If I point out any mistake committed by my better half, she would not accept it at the first instances, she would try to justify why did the mistake occur. She will straight away does not accept the mistake. We cannot do anything with those persons, who are not inclinded to accept their mistakes, we can just tell them that it is better to accept the mistakes, instead of putting blame on others. Excellent Post

Absolutely totally correct! I bet quite a few people who will/are responding to this is that person, but of course they don't know it, so they will point the finger, yet again...lol! I can't stand it, it's so irritating!!! I try n tell them about themselves, but they are so stuck in their ways, I might as well be talking to myself. Know it alls, do rights, no faults, no mistakes, wow, you're not perfect, come down off the high horse- REALITY CHECK!!!! Taripre$

I do not know whom you are specifying, still i will answer. I have not blamed any one for my bad luck. But there are somethings in life which make you think that the fault is not solely yours. i have faced many of them

I would like to know which one should we answer because there are two different discussion in your little paragraph. (1) Blaming others for your own fault - This is as to look at in more than one ways because if you decide to settle down with someone and you both decide that one will take care of the bills and the other grocery and when it comes to bill payment time and it is not pay because the other neglect it this could never be that person fault. Now the the other part of the discussion is about perfectionist. These type of person I stay away from. Even when they are wrong and it is staring in his/her face that it is wrong you cannot do anything to change that attitude. My philosophy in life is you cannot change someone who does not want to change so to not stress myself I move on.

yeah...i personally know people like that...i think these people are afraid of taking the risk they have done...they blame it to others without even the knowledge of the other person, what hurt the most is that if the other person who was accused wrongly has ruin his/her reputation and name...this is totally wrong...but some people never learn, they were used by that attitude, they are even happy doing that..so if you know people like this, much if they were your friends, say it directly, it may hurt them, but probably it will lead to something good...but if you observed that they dont change, inspite all the advices you've given, then just get rid of them...if they are really true friends, they would listen for the good of everybody, somehow maybe this would teach them a lesson... hopefully may we lessen this kind of people by doing an action and show some concern about what they are doing...we should give them some advices that would lead them to be a good person! happy mylotting! have a nice day! God bless!

i hate when people are like this. i had a friend one time and she always did that every time she would get herself in to some type of trouble or she did something to someone she would always try to turn it around about someone else. no matter what it was or how stupid she made it sound she would always try to turn her problem onto someone else. it was so pathetic she tried to do it to me and after a few times i was done with her for doing that.

I have some in laws who are like that. I will call them out on it and blantly tell them it was their fault and I don't want to hear and whining about it. That they need to learn from their mistake and move on.

I know 2 people like this and I dont know if it has to do with their Bi-Polar or what. NOW Im not saying that if you are bi-polar you are like this. It is just an observation I made knowing these 2 people. However as the 1 has grown up some he acknowledges now that he is the one that made his life as it is and he hopes to become a better person and live better. The other person who will be 18 soon still blames everyone else for her wrong doings and or problems. Does not take responsibility in life for anything. I have never seen a person quite like this. Hopefully she will come to grips and reality will sink in. It is hard dealing with these this in people. I however do tell them the truth and tell them they need to think how EVERYTHING that happens to them is someone elses fault everytime. I also then tell them that they need to work on them and stop blaming everything on other things. That everyone has problems and in life you need to learn to deal with them. Yes they get mad but at least they know Im not going to play along.

Hello, ellie26. My brother is like that many times. Something bad happens, but he does not blame himself. He blames others. He blames me because I said something and distracted him, then he was killed in the game. He blames the dog for walking in front of him and making him fall, but he doesn't take the fault for falling. He was distracted, the dog has nothing to do about it. It is a really bad habit. When something bad happens to me, I try to see where is my mistake, instead of blaming others next to me. It is useless to blame others for your mistakes: it will only make you miss more. We should all take the fault and face the consequences, and only then we can become better and avoid further misunderstandings. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

It depends on who it is and what has happened. I'm a care-worker and I see a lot of bad things that happen to people that they haven't brought on themselves, and so tend to be a bit less sympathetic to others who have. We all tend to look for somebody or something to blame when things go wrong but those who always do are the type of people that don't like being told they are wrong. If it's a friend or family member I might say something but if it's someone I don't know well or work colleague I don't as it just causes arguments. Even if you can prove them wrong they don't want to be told!

[i][b]you are correct, why do we have to blame others for our faults....well there are some of them who blame time , some may say " O; it was such a bad time" or "its sucha bad day today... " its never like this the time isn't bad , i mean think over it how can time be bad or a day be bad... but people do so.... [/b][/i]

Although people realized that it is there fault...however they flame others in order for them to get away from the angry of other person...Which in fact it is really their fault.

There are people that dont accept the mistakes they ve done. that is also the reason why i dont give advices to people. because i dont want to be blamed. If I ask advice from others, i never blamed them because I was the one who decided what to do.

I happen to have a couple of sisters that are just like this and they tend to blame everyone else especially my parents.Granted my parents made a lot of mystakes but parenting does not come with a hand book and we all make mystakes and learn from those mystakes. But even though my parents made mystakes they are not responsible for the choices we make as adults. I am a very straight forward type of person so I do tend to get into it alot with my sisters about this issue because no one made them make the choices they made but themselves. My sisters have always felt they were perfect and that no one is better that they are the best mothers, the best person, that do no wrong and it is everyone elses fault. I do tend to tell them right to there face that no one else is to blame but themselves for the choices they have choosen to make in life. Sometimes it is hard to handle these type of individuals and to tell them the truth as they say the truth hurts but it needs to be done.

Yhea your absolutely right about that. There are people who easily blame their own mistakes to others. And about your question maybe it depends on the person who done that, if she is my friend and I'm totally concern about her personality I will tell her that she is wrong and give some advice that not to blame others from her own mistakes. But if the person is not closed to me I will not mind to tell her anyway I will just leave it to her own friend that is close to her.

You are right they blame others for their fault and even we are in front of them the time they do a mistake they still keep on denying. That is my problem here at home were i am living in my parents in law, i cannot imagine what is the reason why they will deny things happened because of their fault, i sometimes think that maybe they want me to know that they are old enough not to commit any mistakes, but then i know that all of us here in the world, we are living on earth as a sinner because no one in the world, like normal people who never commit any mistakes. But then i could not say right on their face that they are not always right because no one is perfect.

My boss always blam other stff. In fact it's his own fault, but he never know this and even he know that it's his own fault, he still blam others never do a good job. So all of us work unhapily but can't say anything, just keep silient, and do whatever he ask us to do and bear whatever he blame us. No one will say he is wrong.