Friends..... Oh my dear friends where are you?
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
October 26, 2008 5:01am CST
I am starting to be bored here, posting discussions after discussions but getting pathetic responses. Where have all the pioneer mylot members gone? Those who never fail to respond to my discussions. I really miss them. I just wonder what makes them leave mylot, leaving all the friends here without a clue that they are leaving with no return to mylot. Loneliness is wrecking every bit of me and starting a new post is no longer a thrill. Though they are many newbies but they only bypass my discussions without consideration. Why bother to respond since I am not in their friends' list, they might say, but dear me I am not pleading but in the spirit of mylot we help one another for the continuity of this place. Nothing makes me excited more than having your request as my friend. I would not vet your profile before accepting and I would not push you to be my referrer but just to have more friends here to fill the void left by friends who has left mylot. It does not take you long to do it,just press a button and you are done. BUT if I don't interest you, no harm is done if you don't want to as long as I have made it known to you that I am here to support you. For all my friends who are in my friend's list, I treasure you most. Happy mylotting.
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21 responses
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Sorry you feel like you aren't getting posts to your discussions. I noticed that there are so many on here daily, it is sometimes hard for those of us who have just so much time, so answer and even read as many as we would like. We all can only do what we can do I guess. I do make an effort to answer those in my friends list, but even those I sometimes answer later than others do probably. :-(
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
oh I notice you have a nice number by the side of your username (666). I am not posting as many as before and I limit to 2 per day. Even here I don't see many on my friends list posting their discussions, only a few are posting regularly. I know there are lots of other things to do that doesn't permit them to be here always. That I am aware and is not expecting too much though.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
26 Oct 08
I'm sorry i am away for some days and i haven't been responding..i am catching up with your discussions right now..i found myself bored as well sometimes in here.you are right, some of our pioneer friends in here are all gone...i wonder when they will be back or if they will be back again...if on some days i fail to respond to your discussions its either i am away from my computer or i just lack input on your discussion but please do always bear in mind that i am reading all your discussions...
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
Oh... charming angel, I seems to be able to monitor your schedule here so I don't see any problem with you. As a matter of fact I run out of topics LOL something weird just cross my mind to create a stunt here. Nothing really is so serious about it. Well, I did really sounds in a very bad shape, didn't I? 
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
27 Oct 08
Maybe like me, they're taking a break. Of course when I do that for over a month - I find some of my friends who I respond to alot and vice versa take me off their list and find that many of my posts at first go largely unanswered - like now.
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@tahiti_rose (150)
•
26 Oct 08
Hi there Zandi, Im new here but am trying to respond to as many as i can, and your'e right, without friends helping each other i can see how this thing could be lonely, always responding only to strangers. Don't give up, new friends are just around the corner. Cheers.
@olivia18888 (33)
• Australia
26 Oct 08
What was the point of that?
Sorry, I'm new.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 08
the point is she is looking for all us mylotters to support her, to respond to her discussion, and make her feel welcome, new or
old you should have been able to see that, friend.Maybe you did
not mean this response to be so rude, it might sound like that to'
her!!!!!!!!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
26 Oct 08
Maybe you don't see the point now as you have just started here. When you don't have many friends here in your list your discussion is not being exposed widely. And when your discussion is not seen the chances is that it will no be responded it will be 'thrown' in the no response section and it will stay there until someone sees it and respond to it and again if it is not being spotted by the community your discussion is left unresponded. It takes effort to have a well written discussion to be posted here and at the end of the day if you don't have friends to view it it is just left there without getting any response and you really feel demoralize when you see your post with no response. Maybe not everyone likes to have a good number of responses but I do wish that I get many responses in order to motivate me to post new discussions here. Maybe this confuse you but slowly you will learn the system that is working here. Happy mylotting and welcome to mylot.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Well, if I am on your friends list, I do appologize for not being around here much lately, but I have been very busy, and not been posting on here as often as I used too for sure. I know I can do better, but sometimes there are other things going on in my life as well. But yes, a lot of the old timers on here have left on to better things. Some get bored on here, or find other things to do as well. I am still here, and have been here for over 2 yrs. now. Just go thru spurts when I am more active on here than others. Wishing you the Best.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I am still here, but have to agree. It seems like there are not alot left. I have to admit that I don't spend as much time here as I used to. I also notice that out of all my friends, and I have a whole lot of pages, I only am notified of a very few that start discussions. I hope you start getting lots of responses and are not so lonely.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
Let me extend my hand to welcome you to my circle of beautiful friends. It is not easy to request for friendships here as many are suspicious and would reject the request as has happened to me on few occassions. It leaves me dejected so I would not initiate and am only too willing to accept new friends upon their request. If I can't get notification from my email I will just go to that section under friends started and I get to see new posts from there.
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@Celanith (2327)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I get what your saying I have had similar trouble only get1, 2-3 responses, often none lately or on most my posts. Some have responses but a lot few to none. How about making some new friends along the way too. :)
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
26 Oct 08
So sorry that you have lost friend I too have lost them some have been banned for what ever reason some were hounded out and some hounded thier own selves out But I do wish they would come back thier are so many that had great posts and I also miss them but gla to have you for a friend hugs
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Oh my you do sound down. No my friend I'm still puttering about here on and off but I have to confess not as much....I've been so busy with other things lately and other concerns that's it's prevented me from being as active as I used to be. Since all my bills for just living have gone up, I've had to look for other means of making money...a lot just to be comfortable and believe me it sucks as I'd rather spend more time here.
I feel the same void though too...I've been here for two years and I've seen so many dear friends either disappear completely or just not as active either...and I don't like it either...I miss them like you can't believe...just not the same here, is it?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 08
hhi Zandi I think you are in my friends list, anyway I always'try to respond to your discussions. I also miss alot of people on
here that have left for some reason but I guess we just have
to move on. You are right we should help each other as thats'what mylot is all about. By the end of this coming week I may be off for a few days as we are moving up the coast so my computer may
'be off line for several days. But then I intend to mylot like'crazy again as I will be in a strange city in a strange
apartment within all my friends from back home. lol hope you
get lots and lots of responses my friend.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Hey zandi! I don't know what has happened here either!
I am confused and don't know where alot of friends have
gone or why! But don't be sad, there are still some people
here that you can talk to! I might take offense at having
my response referred to as pathetic though. That sure
isn't any way to treat your friends that you want to keep
around. You might try a different approach! Maybe it is
something about the discussions that you are starting.
I try to answer all the discussions that my friends start,
but if something doesn't pertain to me and I don't feel
that I have something of substance to add to it I'd
rather skip and let someone else give it a try. It doesn't
happen too often, but it does happen. For instance, I
have no children so I might skip a discussion about something
that has to do with children. That would make sense wouldn't
it?
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@junnustar2 (1)
• India
27 Oct 08
this type nof things, iam not getting understand.....of wat to do.............iam just gtting frustated......over here
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
I see that you are only one day old here and I welcome you to the world of mylot. I do not want to confuse you further here. You have to have many friends in order that your discussions are being responded by your friends. If you want you request me to be your friend and I will be able to see your discussions and respond to it. You can request for me as a friend.
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@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
30 Oct 08
I wonder. Perhaps some of the members are just as bored as we all are. Discussion after discussion. I think everyone needs a breather to get back writing up to par. It's also very disappointing, if our friends bypass our discussions, but I know that they too have lots of friends, and as I said earlier in some other discussions, the more we have friends here the more it gets impossible to accommodate everyone's discussions. As much as I would love to accommodate everyone in my humble friends list, I think I can't achieve to go through all of them in one day. So what I normally do is first go and see my email which discussions I have the capacity to participate as much as I can. There are however some discussions that I have totally no knowledge of so I skip that friend and hope that next time I might have something to share. I remember back when I started I responded to a women's discussion about make up. Hehehe. That was weird to some but I did get some experience about make ups when I joined some theatre group back in college. I would love to be your friend, and I will try my best to see your discussions. I am after all just human, I hope you can forgive my speed and may not be able to go through all of you at a time. Cheers!!!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 08
like you I can't reach out to all my friends discussions in a day but I try to accommodate as best as I can. Besides we have to go back to our responses so everyone is tight down in one way or another. We need to practice patience here to reach out to everyone, if possible. Thanks for your response.
@dsrtrose (166)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I am new to mylot, and in the beginning there were lots of discussions to rerspond to, then it seemed that topics became too silly to answer. Is not your fault , it is the other interests that I have chosen I am sure. I love to answer posts, but I have to have some reason or something in common to respond to. I will be more vigilant on your topics and try to answer more often!
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I'm fairly new here at MyLot, so I'm still enjoying the discussions and responding to them. I don't start very many discussions, but I respond to a lot of them. You're on my friends list, so I'm sure I've responded to your posts before. Perhaps the thing to do is to look at what posts/discussions people are responding to. I've looked at you past discussions, and they are excellent. You are a good writer, and have a lot of good, thought-provoking discussions. So it's not the issue of quality, but more the issue of the moods of the readers. Personally, with the economy and related stress, I look for something that adds a touch of humor. I especally like the ones that take an everyday event and turn it around to make it seem funny. Or, since I love animals - I look at those subjects too. I hope you stay here at MyLot, I wish for you lots of friendships and love. I would miss you if you weren't here.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 08
Yes, my good friend you're in my list and have noticed your frequent support to my discussions. Thank you. Yes, not all discussions are favorable to friends here and I should not expect too much but am grateful that most of my friends are responsive.
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@marquitafox (333)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Be patient I know it's a virtue but it always pays in the end.Also keep making new friends.I have just started writing here but I am sure I'll run into the same problems.Sorry i don't have better advice for you.Keep your head up!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 08
Oh thanks for your wonderful words, sure it keeps my head up to keep going, sometimes people are not too friendly and would not approve the friends request thinking that maybe I have other ulterior motives in my request of their friendships. I am happy for those who initiate to ask for my friendship.
