why do you want your child to believe in same religion in which you believe???

@ramangill (1479)
India
October 26, 2008 1:09pm CST
well,,if it is freedom for each person to choose his/her religion then why do people want their children to believe in same religions in which they believe, why dont they let their children to first develop their own thinking and then lwt them choose if they want to adopt any religion. isnt it a forced conversion?????
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@relundad (2310)
• United States
26 Oct 08
First of all as parents we are only afforded what we know or believe to teach our children. For most of us, it is the religion that we know and grew up with or converted to. Religion is no different than anything else we only have a certain exposure level that we can offer our children. That would be like asking me why not teach my child spanish when I speak english. That would be like asking me to cook to something that I don't eat or my family doesn't eat so that my son has exposure to different food. No matter what we believe or things we partake in, it is just common place to share that with people that you know and communicate with. I am open minded enough though to realize that as my son gets older that he will experiment and be afforded the influence of other people, ideas and things. I fully expect that not all of his ideas and opinions of things will be the same as mine. And I am okay with that.
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@ramangill (1479)
• India
27 Oct 08
"That would be like asking me why not teach my child spanish when I speak english. " is religion just as simple thing as language??? most of the parents are brainwashing their children as they themselves are.
@relundad (2310)
• United States
27 Oct 08
You missed the point. My point was that as parents you can only teach the child what you know. I am christian, and unfortunately I don't know about any other religions. But having said that I don't walk around with the bible strapped to my wrist, calling on the name of Jesus all day nor am I teaching my son that. Maybe you for whatver reason think that religion is brainwashing or that perhaps you were forced to practice something that you didn't believe in. Well thats specific to you and shouldn't be assumed that every parent does that. In thinking about your question of whether or not religion is a simple as language, my answer in this case would be yes. When being taught a new language you take for granted that the person that provides instruction and translation knows what they are talking about and you follow their lead. You have nothing to compare it to as its all that you have been taught. Once you have enough to make a comparision you may decide that you want to further your knowledge, that you don't like it, its not necessary, etc.
@tcage08 (88)
• Canada
27 Oct 08
well, first of all you need to clarify your question. There's a difference between 'wanting' your kids to believe in your religion and 'forcing' them. Like my personal example, I want my kids to believe the religion i follow, b/c i have a testimony of it being the True Gospel and, like everyone, i only want the best for my children. And thats what i believe is best. However, just b/c i WANT them to, doesnt mean i would coerce them. Its still their choice, but i will teach them my faith so they can at least make an informed choice. I mean after all, i dont go to the church MY parents do...and its better that way that i 'discovered' this myself rather than just sitting in a church b/c my parents did, and their parents did, and their parents did, out of merely force of habit.
@ramangill (1479)
• India
27 Oct 08
doing everything with a child is forcing him/her,,as they cant show their resistance in anything,,
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
27 Oct 08
why dont they let their children to first develop their own thinking and then lwt them choose if they want to adopt any religion. Oh I agree with you fully...I would NEVER DARE force my beliefs on my kids and I wouldnt let anyone else in the family do it either....They are their own beings and when they are ready to decide they will...The only job I have regarding religion and my kids is to make sure I supply them with accurate resources when they ask for it..The rest is upto them..
@Harley009 (1416)
• India
7 Dec 08
We take care about our children, We teach them good habits, we teach them how to behave and all. In the same way Islam is the way of life, that myself identified to be best and truth, so I will teach my children about Islamic values. Which parent don't like not to teach something good thing he knows? Yes, We should encourage them to grab more truths when he realize about them and to learn more about religions and all. That will increase the faith. If we leave everything to our children to learn themselves, why we have to teach them everything from childhood onwards, let them learn everything if they feel they want? right?
@Gordano (795)
• United States
28 Oct 08
While children growing up they Notice that there are different religions exist, so they start asking about that, and Of course they will ask their parents first, The parents will have to say something explaining to their children. Muslims are the last people to worry about that, I 'll tell you why. The Jews admit that their religion is belong to Them only, They Call people of other religions "the Gentiles" which means not Jewish, Jews Think that Jesus is not the Messiah, They are still waiting the Messiah "son of David" Therefor They will have to tell Their Children that Both Christianity and Islam are Wrong. Christians don't believe in Muhammad PBUH, they -or most of Them- think that Muhammad is a false Prophet, Therefor they will have to tell their Children that Islam is wrong and Jews also are wrong because They Rejected Jesus PBUH and they don't believe in Jesus as the Messiah. All we -Muslims- have to do is to recite this Verse from the Holy Quran about our believes: [003:084] Say: "We believe in God, and in what has been revealed to us and what was revealed to Abraham, Isma'il, Isaac, Jacob, and the Tribes, and in (the Books) given to Moses, Jesus, and the prophets, from their Lord: We make no distinction between one and another among them, and to God do we bow our will (in Islam)." There is another Thing, Prophet Moses PBUH didn't Call them the Jews He was sent to all "The Children of Israel" while The Jews refer to the Tribe of Judas "one from the 12 tribes of the Children of Israel" and Christians are Belong to the Christ Jesus PBUH But Muslims "submitted to God" so we are called The Muslims not the Muhammadans. To summarize, Muslims don't Have to tell Their Children That Others are wrong, But instead They tell their children to respect all as Mentioned in the verse above. I'm not trying to Insult anyone Here, But If the Truth Hurts it is Not my fault. For All of the above I want My children to believe in same religion as Me, Tell they reach the age of puberty and Choose For Themselves.
• United States
27 Oct 08
i believe they should let their children choose also.. but i was forced into growing up into christianity and it was very damaging to me.. i think maybe the parents want to have something in common or that they can teach them or bond with them over and if its religion and their religion then they will already know about it.. not to mention maybe it will help them control their behavior etc..
@Galena (9110)
26 Oct 08
I would always hope that any child of mine would be Pagan. but I would always encourage them to seek their own path in life. but I'd be lying if I said I would want that path to be different from my own. but ultimately, the path has to be THEIR OWN. and I hope their own would be the same as mine, because I would like them to have the same relationship with the universe, and peace with the Earth as I have.