Nobody responds to my discussions! What is my fault?

India
October 26, 2008 1:16pm CST
I have become a member of myLot a few days back. For the first few days, I was studying myLot very carefully, to say, how to use myLot the best way. I took part in discussions and responded to many other myLotters. Here I have seen many diehard myLotters who have crossed thousand-posts landmark. When I was very new here in myLot, I was getting many replies in the disucssions started by me. But as the time is passing by, and as I am getting old and experienced in myLot, I am unfortunately getting few to fewer replies when I am starting a new discussion! I do not know why it is happening! For this, I am getting dejected day by day and feeling like quitting myLot! Here I have seen many discussions started by other myLotters getting huge replies. Of those discussions, some are very easy to comprehend but some are rather difficult and peculiar in nature! When I see that these type of discussions are getting huge number of replies but my easy-to-understand discussions are not getting any, my sorrow knows no bound! Will somebody suggest me, what to do? Specially I would remain very much grateful to get advise from those who frequently get huge quantity of replies.
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30 responses
• India
26 Oct 08
Make more friends and try answering more and more of your friends discussions. Post a question something that interests the public. Not only yours but there are several other discussions(even those a month old) which are without any replies. Don't lose heart and keep posting. You'll certainly receive responses.
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• India
27 Oct 08
Ohhhh! Millions of billions of trillions of thanks to all who have this time responded to my discussion! Now one thing is clear to me, if the baby does not cry, mother is so much reluctant to feed it! Am I right? Thanks a lot that my sorrow of not being replied has touched your kind and considerate heart. myLot is really like a family, now I can see. We all are family members. Thank you again.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Definitely make more friends. I looked at your older discussions too and I think what would help you is if you also comment back to those who responded to your own discussions. A lot of myLotters are turned off if they keep responding to someone's discussion and they never get a comment back. They just decide to not respond to that myLotter's discussions anymore. I tend to be in that category. We enjoy the discussions and not just responding to a question. Good luck Little boy and don't be discouraged.
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@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
26 Oct 08
i'm sorry for that. the only thing that i could say is, welcome to the world of loneliness.!! was there and been there and i think still am. i have been asking the same questions many times before until i overgrow it and never thought about it anymore. i started not to be affected with it as long as i am doing what i enjoyed here so far. i may not be able to get many responses in my discussions but i think i gain a lot more friends in responding to other member's discussion (i just hope i did).
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@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 08
I will say this again dont make the discussions too easy as there are a lotof us who are intelligent, so dont make them for grade school but for college type people you will get a lot more responses then
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
27 Oct 08
Do'nt be disheartened. I'm also a new member of myLot.I came after you. Response to me is also very poor. I think myLotters are interested to old members than the new comers. I responded most of your discussions. Probably you noticed that.If our old members be sympathetic to the new myLotters than the new comers will get encouragement.Will they do so? My request to you do'nt loss your patience. Once you will gain response of others.
• India
27 Oct 08
Be patient little boy,dont be bursted when ur discussion doesn't get a reply.when ur discussion becomes interesting then many users tries to respond to u r discussion.
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• China
27 Oct 08
Just choose a topic which seems like everyone's taste and ambiguous that can been answered by both ways,and i think you can choose a topic whose sphere is not huge,for example,what name your parents or friends they call you in private and how it comes from? By the way,i am a new comer to and i am studying how to settle the mylot,so i have not post a topic yet but i think i will have a try in the near future . And be confident beacause as you look,this topic is so hot that show your sucess
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@jason1308 (1587)
• France
27 Oct 08
I am sorry that you don't get many replies to your discussions, and sometimes it is just the luck of the draw. I wouldn't worry about it too much, you seem to have a few answer this discussion for you, and my advice would be to carry on posting discussions, always answer people who have taken the time to answer you, make as many friends as you can and get involved in their discussions, and lastly, just go with the flow, think of some good down to earth everyday subjects to start chatting about, and it will all just fit together.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
26 Oct 08
Little Boy do get downhearted this is how MYLOT operates. It is only some of your friends who will come to your discussions. Those who you see with over 1000 besides their names are hardworking responders. If you do a survey you will notice that they respond to other persons discussions more than how they write one. Just be yourself. Dejection is not the key if you have friends who are not coming to your discussions then don't go to theirs. This community is a big one and you can always find a discussion that you can contribute to. I myself are having the same problems as you although I have over 1000 to my name but I did it by responding to others. In any way I am still contributing to the community of MYLOT. Cheer up my friend.
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
26 Oct 08
Hi there and welcome to mylot. I know you already are a member for a few days now and i will share with you my experience. When i started i could hardly get 2-3 responses to my discussions, but as time pasted i responded heavily on other people's discussions and started making friends that in turn started answering to my topics. I must admit that not all of them respond to my topics but at least i get more interesting discussions to respond to faster by checking their profiles.
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@Chevee (5914)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Don't give up I felt the same way when I first joined MyLot I felt ignored. I was told by many of the more experienced users to make more friends and respond to their discussions and they will in turn respond to yours. I am still not at the top of the discussion line but I have a few faithful friends that help me to make payout. I hope things get better for you. Keep on posting and replying and we will help you out. I am going to your profile page now. Happy MyLotting.
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@rainmark (4302)
26 Oct 08
Well not all the time you've got a lots of response, it also depends on your discussions. Then it's better if you got lots of friends also so that lots of people responds to your discussions posted and also when someone reply to your discussions always comment to them in return. Happy posting.
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@tuhpaul (475)
• India
26 Oct 08
Well my friend I feel you start responding to others discussions and also add many friends as possible and I am sure your friends will respond.There are many types of people who like to respond to easy and simple discussions while others ....!you know what I mean dont worry just keep writing-I will respond to your discussions.And you have no faults.Cheer up and keep writing and responding to others discussions.Best of Luck.
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@smacksman (6074)
26 Oct 08
It is sad when you don't get many replies. One tip I have is this. Mylot members come mostly from India and the next biggest group is from North America. So when I start a discussion I make sure I post it when India will be awake! There is a huge time difference for India/USA to me in the UK - when I am awake, they are asleep! I start very few discussions. My main earning method is from posting on other people's discussions and from referrals.
@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 08
hi littleboy for one thing you have very few points so start really responding with quality posts of five to six or more lines and do this a lot maybe forty to sixty reponses. make more friends, and once your name is really seen people will say ah ha little boy is responding to my discussions so I am going to respond to his, you will be no longer the new kid on the block.And try to make a few more serious discussions that are not so easy to understand, that take more thatn oneor two words to answer properly. dont underestimate the intelligence of mylot users, so make detailed discussions ocassionally for the smarter ones of us.you will get lots of responses then.
@SketcherD (1114)
• Canada
27 Oct 08
I agree Hatley.
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
try to make friends around. try to make more replies and participate to discussion thread, also with the images. You can upload images you want. feel better. You are safe in my lot. there are lots of members here. Don't quit on my lot., Just find time posting and enjoy the time while doing post. Happy mylotting to all. Don't lose hope friend.
• United States
27 Oct 08
Don't feel bad.. I have not had a lot of responses to my discussions either... just do not give up... you will eventually get alot of responses... as you can see, this topic has done good!! :)
@jerzgirl (8170)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
27 Oct 08
I'm feeling the same way this month - like I'm invisible. But, I have a feeling that it's more that there are so many people on now and so many discussions to choose from that those who would respond are spread out more thinly than they were even earlier this year. And, there are those who are on here ONLY to accumulate discussions who don't want to be bothered actually reading the discussion and responding with a thought-out response. They more want to hit and run so they can add up their counts. I do like that I get paid on here, but if that were the only reason I was here (and I admit, that is why I joined), I wouldn't have stayed. HAVING to do something for money gets old - doing it because I want to is much more pleasurable. I really only do a little pushing near the end of the month.
@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
Hi there, keep on adding friends on your list and respond also to discussions that your friends started.
• India
27 Oct 08
I think there is no need to worry,it is only a starting trouble and slowly you can get more and more response to your discussion.Try to create as many as good friends here and try to respond as many as discussion you can.
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
27 Oct 08
i don't think that it got anything to do with your fault at all... you didn't do anything wrong at all... even until now, i still don't get much responses to my discussions... it is so hard even just to get 10 people to respond to my discussions... but i never give up and i never think even once to leave this place... i had been here for more than 2 years now and i love it... so please don't get so upset just because you don't get much responses here... keep on trying and just respond to other people's discussions... good luck... take care and have a nice day...