If you're not angry, you're not paying attention.

I get very upset when someone messes up my money, or does something which effects my my kids negatively! When either of those 2 happens, I feel like going on a rampage, but I have to think about the consequences and how to handle it in a civil manner!! Not The Money Or The Kids!! Taripre$

Anger is a human emotion and I have learned that it is never useful to deny one's emotions or have them dismissed by others. Simply having the emotion is a lot different than acting on that emotion or acting out because of that emotion. Right now I have a person in my life who angers me a great deal for a variety of reasons. It is better for me to stay away from that person, refrain thinking about or talking about that person. I need to let this anger go and I cannot do that, at this time, when I see, hear about, or speak of this person. I think that, right now, this is the most constructive thing I can do because it is a situation I cannot do anything else about.

I think there is no justification for me to be angry. I want to be patient the way God wants me to and there is a scripture about being quick to anger as being like a fool, and well no one wants to be a fool right? If I am driving somewhere and someone cuts me off or makes me upset I say Jesus loves you! and that tends to help me cool off I may not like them but Jesus still loves them and me.

Hi Steve, Personally, I feel anger is only needed to release frustration. But only if you are not taking it out on someone or some creature. Unfortunately it's a necessary emotion but should be a controlled one. Pent up anger can be far more destructive than expressed anger. That is the only justification I can think of. The most obvious example for me is because it is happening right now, and that is people who vote without knowledge. They don't have to have my beliefs as long as they have beliefs. Anger is such a strong emotion and too many people do not even try to control it. As we see all around us all the damage and pain it causes when there is no control. The only thing we can do is try and maintain some kind of calmness when confronted with anger. How easy is that? leenie

it's a normal behavor for people, but how you deal with it is another thing. i used to have a big issues with it, now if it's something small i just say oh well what the hell. i express myself to people who upset but learned its up to them to do with it as they want. sometime they don't do what we think they should. now if someone hurts my family then what i learned is out the window.

My daughter's grandmother just read the discussion and had a very interesting point. She feels that there is anger and then there is rage. And they are very different. You can get angry for getting shortchanged at the store, forgettihg to pick up an item, etc. Rage is when someone loses control of their anger and then acts upon it. An example could be when someone holds in anger so long, they just explode and say cruel things, often things that are not really meant,and feelings get hurt. These things cannot be unsaid ot taken back. The consequences result in some kind of inner gratification. Somone says something that needed to be said, but it was not said in a calmer, controlled manner. This often can result in guilt. I agree with what she is saying. As a parent, we tell our child, take out the trash, take out the trash and then explode when they don't. We might call the child lazy, good for nothing... I think she is focusing on just verbal anger and rage, but I do get her point. I asked her about acting out rage physically, such as when someone beats someone up, She thinks that is insanity!!

Ahhh.. justifiable anger. When someone ELSE struck first for no reason. People responsible for physical or emotional harm toward my husband, children, or friends. We are all independent and supposed to be fully in control of ourselves... so I get angry at people who choose to invade or impose on other peoples' rights to be independent and in control of themselves. My philosophy is NOT 'why can't we all just get along'. My philosophy is 'why can't we all leave each other alone' LOL! I don't bother you, you don't bother me. I try to put this into practice by example. For instance if I don't approach you to whine about (insert thing you don't like here - such as, your hair color, your perfume, your piercings, your outfit, what you're eating, what you drive... blah blah blah) then you do not need to approach me or others to whine about the same. I may not like or agree with multiple things but that doesn't mean I make a jerk of myself and ensure the person KNOWS what I jerk I am by saying anything. There are a few things I will concede to, in protection of my daughter, such as rude language, exposure of body parts, threatening behavior, etc. I admit sometimes I deal with it constructively and creatively. Other times I just blow my top. It really depends on the nuances of the situation and how clearly it can be contained... or not. I kind of do a quick pros and cons comparison and based on how that comes up, I could be your best friend - or your worst nightmare. Most of my friends state they would much rather be on the GOOD end of that stick, when something is not right, I don't often just get tired and quit, I am stubborn and outlast most people who think I might be an easy target.