What is second chance in marriage mean to you?

@ellie26 (4139)
Malaysia
October 27, 2008 1:46am CST
When couples are divorcing, sometimes they reconsider their decision and decided to give their marriage a second chance. Do you think a second chance in a marriage will work? What do you think?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
27 Oct 08
I think, there is no harm in giving a second try to the same marriage. I think, when a couple separates, then only both of them start realising the meaning of it.Separation teaches them some lessons and makes them a bit mature. I think if second chance is given to a broken marriage, it may work and I feel second time, both the partners may behave themselves and respect each other in a better manner.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
29 Oct 08
Yes, you may say so.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
In another word, the ego got into their way.
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@Annmac (949)
27 Oct 08
Marriages are an ever evolving relationship and it takes work and commitment on both sides for it to be a success. Even if you've never got to the point of seperating or talking about divorce, there are going to be times when things are so rough you might have to give your partner a second chance! Yes it can work, and it will hopefully make the marriage stronger than it was! In 38 years my marriage has had lots of tough times that could so easily have led to divorce!
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
You must be a very patient person. In these modern days, not many marriages can stay as long as yours. A second chance in marriage will work if only the couples work hard on it.
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@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
27 Oct 08
based on my life experience, it works with me and my husband. but it also depend on the persons themselves, how good they are in their commitment tp repair their marriage relationship. as long as i know, at this moment so many things that we learn each other after those occassion. in fact, both of us more care and love than previous time. we also more understand each other
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
That proves again that second chance in marriage does work. I agree that commitment in each other is the key word in any marriage.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
If the wrongdoer is remorseful and promises to turn into a new leaf I don't see any reason why a second chance in a marriage doesn't work. It can also work the other way round, giving 2nd chance gives him an advantage knowing your weak point of being a forgiving person he might turn out to be worse than before, as leapard doesn't change its spots. It is so much better if you give him an ultimatum in written form that this will be the last chance and mean it.
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
Sometimes giving second chance to everything may bring some positive outcome. If both partners are willing to change whatever it is there weaknesses that has crumble down their marriage, I also think that giving second chance is a wise decision.
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• Philippines
27 Oct 08
Maybe second marriage works for some people who were gone thru divorce and they might find it better than the first one .I have heard a lot of story about couples being separated and divorce being one of them did something to broke their relationship and thats why when chances come for them to have someone else then they take it hoping for a new life and a change. But for me im married to a very perfect husband and a loving one who doesnt even give me one problem and in fact he always solvffe problems for me. So the issue of second marriage is not really apllicable to me because me and my husband love each other stronger than anything else.And im over %100 sure that divorce is out of our line ....Hope you out there enjoy and happy with your marriage also like us...
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
You are a very lucky girl indeed. But to get the record straight, this discussion is not about my marriage at all but it is general in nature. For me, giving second chance to the same person in a marriage is something worth considering especially when there are children involved.
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• United States
27 Oct 08
Maybe they have decided the grass is not greener on the other side.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 08
Not really. Perhaps they realize that they still have feeling for each other.
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
28 Oct 08
I think a second chance is always a good thing before a divorce is final. because than the couple will really know it is over and not wonder what if's down the road.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 08
Everyone deserves second chance and marriage is no exception.
• Canada
28 Oct 08
It really depends on the couple. some couples are able to reconcile and things are great, others are not, some don't even try, and smoe shouldn't try. It is different in every situation.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 08
You are so right. Different people, different personalities.
• Pakistan
28 Oct 08
yes they should go for second chance, and it sure will work because what sometimes happens is that when you are once divorced and you marry some other person you do feel in cases that the person you left wasa the right person for you.. so do go for a second chance...
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 08
Hello moon317318, you have a positive thinking which I think is good. Well, I agree with what you say too.
• Pakistan
28 Oct 08
thanks for the comment...