What would you do if you were TRICKED into getting PREGNANT??
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
United States
October 27, 2008 3:52am CST
i know the subject line sounds bizarre but im talking about couples that decided they dont want anymore kids and they decide to get a vasectomy or their tubes tied and then who ever was suppose to get it done lied and never had it done??
since im female i will use a females point of view and say that what if me and hubby decided to not have kids.. hubby volunteered for the vasectomy.. got it done (or at least i had thought) then years later i were to get pregnant and know FOR SURE it had to be his.. confront him and find out he had lied about getting it for various reasons?? how would that make you feel??
i would be mad beyond belief because its putting my life in danger (health probs) and because i think that if we were smart enough to have actually thought about it first (instead of people that OPPS get pregnant before discussing it) and had agreed together that that was the route for us then that should have been what happened!!
do you think the relationship would last afterwards? would you go ahead and have the baby or not?
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@jillhill (37353)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I don't think that would be very fair....I probably would have went ahead and had the baby because I am prolife for myself that is....I don't sit in judgement on anyone else that decides they don't want a child. Making a decision like that is one that both people should be considered. If someone loves you though....they would never decieve you like that.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
27 Oct 08
he may have just not had it done in hopes another kids would make their relationship better etc.. but yeah hopefully no one that truly loves you would screw you over so badly.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
28 Oct 08
wouldnt it be horrid if the reason was because he didnt want to feel the pain?!?! when we have to pop the kids out of our little bodies!!
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
28 Oct 08
I would be pretty ticked off if that happened to me! I am sure people do it though. I would have the baby as long as I wasn't at risk. I don't think there would be much future for the relationship though.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
28 Oct 08
I don't know if I would keep the baby, I would probably give it up for adoption if I really really didn't want - and couldn't afford - another kid.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
28 Oct 08
i would definitely leave him.. i dont know what i would do with the baby though..
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
29 Oct 08
I'd likely kick them out of my life. Why? Because if I SAY "No, I do not want to -HAVE- children" then I MEANT "No, I do not want to -HAVE- children".
Period.
To deign to choose for me, the pure arrogance of it...
Forget that. To not even care about my own feelings in the matter, or even my health, to just completely disregard me...obviously, this relationship has no future. It means that they don't care enough, and may never have cared.
Mind you, I have no problem with lies -- I forewarn people that I have a tendency to discover lies, and it's in their best interest not to fib too big. But when you purposefully betray my trust, then I have to just skip giving you another chance, because you don't deserve one.
You knw?
Would I keep the baby? ...Probably. Truth is, I adore children. It's just that -having- them never really felt like my thing, you know? Especially not while a whole bunch of kids are already here and could use a good parent. If I'm pregnant, then the baby's already here too. I don't think I could talk myself out of it.
I'd never say the baby was a mistake, just because I didn't plan for it either. It's not the child's fault that their father was a jerk and never figured in what I wanted in his plans.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
29 Oct 08
yeah i have the same outlook.. so many with no parents that i would rather adopt than have one and a kid miss out on getting adopted
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
29 Oct 08
If that was me I would be furious with him but I would also want proof from the doctor that he had actually had it done. I would be on the pill until I was sure it was safe. If it did happen I would want to know why he would do that. Did he really want children or did he back out at the last minute.
I am not that trusting where some things are concerned and would be reluctant to trust on this issue. My brother had it done and later left his wife.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
29 Oct 08
if i was wondering if he was gonna go through with it or not i would go with him to the doc and wait lol.. whats horrible is when they dont work and the women ends up pregnant and everyone accuses her of cheating!! how horrible is that!
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Oct 08
if i were you i will go a head and have the baby.kid is a blessings.even we dont like it but its a blessings.maybe he or she will be bring you luck in the near future.everything happen for a reason right?
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
29 Oct 08
yeah i do believe that everything does happen for a reason
