how does one cope with single parenthood?

Philippines
October 27, 2008 8:43am CST
I've been a single mom for the past 11 years, with ups and mostly downs and really single handily raising my daughter with no support of any kind from the biological father. It's actually a choice I have taken, to totally erase the no good bf from our lives. And except for a few financial problems, life has been good to us. However, I still wanted to get feedbacks, advices, from you fellow mylotters on how I could further cope with raising my child. Everyone knows that life has been difficult that sometimes I wanted to give up. But whenever I see my child, I strived harder to go on and carry on despite the difficulties. I welcome any suggestions and thank you very much in advance.
1 response
@teka44 (3421)
• Brazil
27 Oct 08
Hi julienne. I really don't know what to say. Each one have his own problems so it is difficult to me to say something about your problems. I live the same situation that you. I have a daughter too and have raising her always without any support too. It is very hard I know. But I always have made everything to give her a good life. Now she is in the engineering college and it still hard to keep her doing it. Since I had my daughter most of the time I need to choose between I or her to do things, buy things, go out and have boyfriends. And my choice always have been SHE. Keep her is my obligation because she doesn't ask to be born. She doesn't have a father that care about her, she only have me. So how I will leave she alone in this world? it isn't fair. Often I didn't ate to give her the food. Some times I kept without buy shoes or clothes for two years or more to can buy it for her. It is a choice and I think that she worth it. Which will be your choice is about you. The big problem is the money always. But if you want to make sacrifices money we can earn anyway. Look at your daughter and think what she worth. You will find the answer. Remember that you are strong because you are a mother. Cheers and good luck dear.