If you found out that you or your partner has problem having kids, what would do

@nilugo (348)
Singapore
October 27, 2008 9:41am CST
If you found out that there is a problem either with your spouse or yourself in having kids, would you do anything in your power to rectify that problem, whatever the cost? I am having that problem but the procedures are pretty expensive. Has anyone else had that problem and did you have kids in the end? Please let me know.
3 responses
@misskit (289)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I had that problem with my late hubby. The procedures were very expensive and we couldn't afford to go to all the doctors and have all the tests and stuff done. We thought about adopting but my hubby wanted his own offspring and not someone elses if at all possible. So we decided to just relax and keep trying. Then I did get pregnant, 2 or 3 times but miscarried every time with in the first couple of months. We found out then that my chance of ever bringing one to full term was pretty bad. So we just stopped thinking about it at all. We were childless, he and I but you know what, it didn't change our feelings for each other and we built our lives around the idea that we would never be parents together. We had a great life non the less. All you can do if you can't afford the procedures is to just relax, forget about it, and maybe, just maybe it will happen. They say the harder you try, the more you think about it the less likely you are to get it done. Just relax and see what God does for you. If its not to be its just not to be. Trust in God.
@nilugo (348)
• Singapore
27 Oct 08
Thanks Misskit. Yes I guess the best thing is to love and trust in god - I do believe that everything happens for the best - even though it is very difficult sometimes.
@ShellyB (5242)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I do not know, I will probably not do anything, and maybe in the future adopt a baby, or a kid, in the USA that kind of treatment is expensive and takes well a lot of time. I wish I could help you more, for now good luck.
@nilugo (348)
• Singapore
27 Oct 08
Thanks ShellyB
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
27 Oct 08
i really dont know. if it costs a lot of money then adoption is definitely an option. we would have given the baby equal love and attention even if it wasnt our biological child