does your spouse hate to see you relaxe?
By tonniek02
@tonniek02 (457)
United States
October 27, 2008 9:59am CST
My husband can find a million things for me to do, while he sits and watches tv. I sometime hate to see the weekend come. cause I can't sleep in, sit and watch tv, or just read a book. It's like he can't stand to see me relaxe. Every time I sit down. He wants me to get up and get something for him or fix food, or something. I can't even lay on the couch and take a little nap, with out him saying "are you asleep" well, I was for about 2 min. After working 40 hours a week, coming home and fixing dinner, feeding the dogs, and getting laundry done. I would like to have just one day that I can just sit back and do nothing. Why do they have a problem with that?
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4 responses
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I don't want to get married for this reason alone!! I have a boyfriend that thinks because he works 2-day 12 hour shifts each week that it's my responsibility to wait on him hand and foot. He has one child here and thinks because I have 4 others to take care of that I need to tend to his son too. He thinks that he has to sleep 12 everyday and stay up all night because of the shift that he works. He even told me that one day I will have to marry him, but only after I get my sh*t straight on what he wants me to do. I hate to say this, but as soon as he gets the money to move out, I will kick him in that direction. I have no desire to marry a pig or a lazy one at that. I don't like him but I have to live with him for the time being. He has treated everyone so bad that he has no place to go right now. I don't feel sorry for him, I actually despise him. Hmmmm....makes me wonder, if I love someone, would I feel better about being a slave??
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Mine isn't good with anyone or anything. He b*tches constantly and berates everyone. He is lazy and rude to everyone. I broke up with him 4 months ago and the jerk won't go away. I am in a situation where I have to live with him now. I hate him and this just leads me to believe that all men think that women are just slaves.!
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
27 Oct 08
No, let me tell you from experance. My husband is a a@#. I do love him, but in the same breath I hate him to. I have alway said that if this marriage ends, I will never let another man rule me the way he has. Marriage is a life I will never take on again. My first marriage was with a man that only thought of himself and we divorced over his cheating. I alway said I will not live in a cheating marriage or abusive marriage. And when I found out about her. I filed for divorce. Then I met may husband now. He was so loving and tender and good then. But a few years after I said I do. I sometime wish I would have said I don't. I spend alot of time alone but what time he is up and here I spend it waiting on him hand and foot. And have even thought about leaving many times. He doesn't cheat and he has never hit me. And he was so good with my kids. So I guess thats why I haven't left.
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I do not know, I think it is time for payback, I would do to him what he is doing to you, sure, it might lead to a fight but what the heck, do you want to live life this way forever?
The other solution will be to speak for your self and tell your man that you work just as hard as he does and want to rest just as bad as he does.
( I am assuming you have no kids, so yeah, rest away while you can)
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Well, the kids are on there own. And now it is just me and him. I feel I work harder now that the kid are gone then I did when they were home. BOY, I MISS THEN. LOL
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
27 Oct 08
OK. I think really you should speak for yourself and be done with it versus taking it all and exploding one day.
Another thing I thought of do like 3 things for him in a row, and then sit and start reading your book, if he starts on you, you tell him you did 3 things for him now is your time to relax just like he is doing. If he is two brain cells rubbing together he will leave you alone if he is a big baby he will go on but I guess that will be a do or die moment for you, he could actually get it that you have the right to relax and rest too so you can face the week better.
I do not want you to have trouble but anything worth having is worth at least arguing about.
No matter what, you will be better off than going through all of that each weekend.
Good luck.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
27 Oct 08
That is not right your husband is perfectly capable of doing these things on his own and he should be. You are not his slave your his wife there is a diffrence. My husband and I do the housework together. We split it up so it is not over whelming on one person. That way we both have time to relax together and spend time together when the kids are in bed.
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Well it sounds like you have a keeper. Enjoy it and I hope it lasts a lifetime for you. My husband is old school and thinks house work is for weman. I don't know how he made it before we got together? I just wish I would have had my eye more open befor I said I do.
@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
27 Oct 08
your husband is treating you like a slave. i am the type of person who wont stop once i start cleaning the house. my husband is always the one who tells me to stop and just relax. maybe you can go to your room and lock the door. ignore your husband. he's old enough to get himself some food. you have worked hard yourself and you deserve to get some rest
