Could you be his/her friend?

United States
October 27, 2008 10:34am CST
I would like to know how many people could manage just being friends with someone they have loved for years. You love this person and it just seems like you are growing apart. How would you cope?
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• New Zealand
28 Oct 08
Hey there I am very new out of a relationship and no I in most cases could not be he's friend after wides.But I say it all depends on the individual person.
• United States
28 Oct 08
Oh gosh, I don't know how people do it either! Me and my boyfriend were having alot of problems a few months ago, so we decided that we were going to try to be just friends.. that didnt go well at all. We were so used to being close and loveable all the time that we were constantly having to back up and apologize. And I would just get these unbearable urges to kiss him. We got back together a few days later and have been great since then. There is no way that I could be just friends with someone I love!
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I am actually in a situation much like this one. I have been totally and completely in love with a friend of mine and he didn't feel the same way. So instead of losing the friendship and not talking to him at all, I have been forcing myself to be friends with him because we had a great friendship. I try not let my emotions get the best of me. Granted our mutual friends say there is more to our friendship, but I am going with his word and do what I can to not have feelings for him.
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
27 Oct 08
as long as you have respect for each other then if by years you have now grown apart then your relationship can still survive.
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
Hi friend. Very nice question. I am currently in that exact situation you posted. I have a classmate back in college. We've been classmates since our freshman until our senior years. I fell in love with her the first time we met. We immediately became friends and hanged out together. When I finally had the resolve to go to her house and ask her out for a date, I saw her and her boyfriend sitting comfortably in the porch. Broken and shattered as my heart was during that time, I still acted as a good friend to her until now. Whenever she needs advice and favors I try to help her whenever I can until now. I still am hoping to be with her one day though I think this might be a hopeless case. Right now, I'm trying to think more rationally and try to forget about about her little by little.