do you say sorry just to end a fight?
October 29, 2008 4:33am CST
nothing hurts my pride more than saying sorry because i have to end a fight knowing that the other person did not understand yet what made me mad in the first place. in the middle of a fight, at the back of my mind, i always have this dilemma of whether to shut up OR go on fighting for my right LOL! usually i back down, make a big sigh, and start talking reasonably--starting with an apology! i've discovered though that when i calm down, the other person (usually my boyfriend-now my husband LOL!) also calms down and starts to listen. that's the payment for my hurt pride, i guess :-)
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29 Nov 08
actually, my pride is my second priority, i don't say sorry to people i hurt although I'm the one who have mistakes. i just don't like things work like that, that you will say sorry on them, my friends said to me that is should decrease the pride i have, and I'm doing it. i say sorry if I'm in the mood, or the person i hurt is the one i don't want to leave me. happy mylotting~!
12 Nov 08
i say sorry if i believe and i think that it is my fault, but if it wasnt mine, I dont mind if we spend time arguing because I have to hear it from him that it was really his fault, and I'm not contented if he just say sorry just to end the fight, its not that I want to argue with him, its just that I want to resolve the issues and put things behind after solving it.
1 Nov 08
[b]hi rainegurl! whenever my boyfriend and i experience a misunderstanding he just lets me say the things i want to say. he does not really fight or argue with me. more or less he keeps quiet and stays calm. all he does is say sorry to me and says i love you next. he allows me to say my thing and cool down for he knows that it won't really take that long. he is very patient with me especially when arguements comes along. that is why i love him even better. then when i realize my mistakes and for saying things that i shouldn't have said, i say sorry in return and give him hugs and kisses. hahaha!! he loves it when i do that. teehee. happy halloween to you! happy posting and happy mylotting![/b]
17 Nov 08
hi girl! i think that it's really important that during a fight, one calms down. it's good that your boyfriend does that. on the other hand, sometimes too, we should let out all our steam, just like what you do, so that we do not have feelings bottled up inside. that's unhealthy. it seems that you and your guy has a great relationship. thanks and take care!
14 Nov 08
hi, ShellyB. i like what you said about preferring peach than pride intact. there are times that i feel that way, especially when the argument is something that is so shallow, like arguing about something insignificant only due to short temper. sigh. thanks for responding. take care!
5 Dec 08
Yes!Because,"To end a war quickly is to give up".With the opponent not understanding the basis of the fight and unable to conceive what you say(he may be stubborn),then there is no use of continuing the fight.Just get off and time will make things smoother.
3 Dec 08
nop i dont say just to end the fight...ya hurt ur pride..i prefer to stay mum when something big wrong happen ...then i calm down mysel..n then i try to tlak point wise..to solve the issue...i try nt to hurt other person ego ..but i make sure he understand his mistake ...if i feel my side was also wrong then ya i end upp saying sory.
3 Dec 08
maybe sorry is de best way 2 end a fight ... no matter is whose wrong .. a sorry is jz a easy word but not every1 willin to say it ... everytym i quarrel wif buddies , i wil say sorry at de last ... maybe cz i think all is my fault although sometym nt reali my fault .. rainegurl , based on my experience sorry jz cn end de fight .. but it cnt solve de original prob.. prob is still thr n if u 2 din talk bout tat , u ppl might facin same prob gain in de future ..