do you say sorry just to end a fight?

@Rainegurl (2158)
Philippines
October 29, 2008 4:33am CST
nothing hurts my pride more than saying sorry because i have to end a fight knowing that the other person did not understand yet what made me mad in the first place. in the middle of a fight, at the back of my mind, i always have this dilemma of whether to shut up OR go on fighting for my right LOL! usually i back down, make a big sigh, and start talking reasonably--starting with an apology! i've discovered though that when i calm down, the other person (usually my boyfriend-now my husband LOL!) also calms down and starts to listen. that's the payment for my hurt pride, i guess :-)
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17 responses
• United States
14 Nov 08
Yes it happens to the best of us i some times find myself doing the same thing, but it seems like if i dont do it nobody will. I get mad at my self some times for saying sorry even though i know i was right, but i guess it is for the best
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hi, galaxy999 it is worth the sacrifice most of the time, friend. i hope after you both calm down, you get the chance to air out your side? have a nice day!
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
i agree
@lou_66 (909)
29 Oct 08
i say sorry all the time to end a fight. even if i am not in the wrong i will apologise just to put an end to an argument. i will do anything for an easy life. maybe i should stop doing this and stand up for myself a bit more
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
hi, lou. yup, it's dangerous to apologize even if it's not your fault. you can stand up for yourself but do it in a DIPLOMATIC manner so that you and your so-called foe will cool down. see ya around! take care!
@EAStanley (2688)
• United States
29 Nov 08
Yes, I am the same way. I just want a fight over with. I will say or do anything. I also need to stand up for myself more.
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
actually, my pride is my second priority, i don't say sorry to people i hurt although I'm the one who have mistakes. i just don't like things work like that, that you will say sorry on them, my friends said to me that is should decrease the pride i have, and I'm doing it. i say sorry if I'm in the mood, or the person i hurt is the one i don't want to leave me. happy mylotting~!
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hi, alleroid16 thanks for sharing. have a nice day
@EAStanley (2688)
• United States
29 Nov 08
I don't like having to apologize when I wasn't wrong either! But, I usually end up doing so anyway! :( It is just easier that way! But, it also makes me a pushover! :( There is just no win here!
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hi, EAStanley that's the down side, eh? there is a possibility that we become pushovers have a nice day friend!
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
I do sometimes but most of the the time I just prefer to keep quiet rather than say anything that will probably hurt someone and also I'm tired of arguing and fighting if it does not make sense anymore
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hi, bestie i try hard just to be quiet too. and yes, i agree with you. fighting really tiring. thanks for sharing. have a nice day!
• Philippines
12 Nov 08
i say sorry if i believe and i think that it is my fault, but if it wasnt mine, I dont mind if we spend time arguing because I have to hear it from him that it was really his fault, and I'm not contented if he just say sorry just to end the fight, its not that I want to argue with him, its just that I want to resolve the issues and put things behind after solving it.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
hi, lhizacutie. you are right you know. it is important to get to the real issue and talk about it and resolve it, otherwise, it will its ugly head will resurface again and again. take care and have a nice day!
@pryce_mbg (716)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
sometimes i don't specially if i know that it is not my fault at all. i have a high pride but i say sorry to those people i got hurt.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
hi, pryce i guess that is important too. recognizing that you caused hurt and saying sorry. take care and have a nice day!
• India
1 Nov 08
Yes i do.And i am not ashamed of it.I just give room for myself,after all some one has to end it.Even though it hurts there is some pride in doing so.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
hi pinkfloyd i think i know how you feel thanks and have a great day!
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
[b]hi rainegurl! whenever my boyfriend and i experience a misunderstanding he just lets me say the things i want to say. he does not really fight or argue with me. more or less he keeps quiet and stays calm. all he does is say sorry to me and says i love you next. he allows me to say my thing and cool down for he knows that it won't really take that long. he is very patient with me especially when arguements comes along. that is why i love him even better. then when i realize my mistakes and for saying things that i shouldn't have said, i say sorry in return and give him hugs and kisses. hahaha!! he loves it when i do that. teehee. happy halloween to you! happy posting and happy mylotting![/b]
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
hi girl! i think that it's really important that during a fight, one calms down. it's good that your boyfriend does that. on the other hand, sometimes too, we should let out all our steam, just like what you do, so that we do not have feelings bottled up inside. that's unhealthy. it seems that you and your guy has a great relationship. thanks and take care!
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
I just say ok, fine, it's my fault...but no sorries because I know it won't be a heartfelt remark. I only say sorry when I mean it and when I realize I was wrong. Sorry is not an easy word for me to say.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
hi there. sorry really is not easy to say when it's not your fault, right? thanks for responding. take care!
@rrowenaa (834)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
I'm a no-speak person during a fight. i want no arguments. If we're both cooled down then i would start talking. And i'll be the one to say SORRY if it's my mistake.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
hi, rrowenaa. yup, cooling down is important. i wish i have your discipline in not speaking during a fight. take care!
@ShellyB (5242)
• United States
29 Oct 08
I have done it but it has been because I am tired of arguing and prefer to have peace than my pride intact.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
hi, ShellyB. i like what you said about preferring peach than pride intact. there are times that i feel that way, especially when the argument is something that is so shallow, like arguing about something insignificant only due to short temper. sigh. thanks for responding. take care!
@sandy112 (21)
• Singapore
4 Jan 09
when i cant take it, i'll just say. sigh, sorry dont bother me anymore. i dont wanna care. if i continue in the fight, i scared i will only put in more fire, so i would rather just bother.
@srganesh (6345)
• India
5 Dec 08
Yes!Because,"To end a war quickly is to give up".With the opponent not understanding the basis of the fight and unable to conceive what you say(he may be stubborn),then there is no use of continuing the fight.Just get off and time will make things smoother.
@piya84 (2590)
• India
3 Dec 08
nop i dont say just to end the fight...ya hurt ur pride..i prefer to stay mum when something big wrong happen ...then i calm down mysel..n then i try to tlak point wise..to solve the issue...i try nt to hurt other person ego ..but i make sure he understand his mistake ...if i feel my side was also wrong then ya i end upp saying sory.
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
maybe sorry is de best way 2 end a fight ... no matter is whose wrong .. a sorry is jz a easy word but not every1 willin to say it ... everytym i quarrel wif buddies , i wil say sorry at de last ... maybe cz i think all is my fault although sometym nt reali my fault .. rainegurl , based on my experience sorry jz cn end de fight .. but it cnt solve de original prob.. prob is still thr n if u 2 din talk bout tat , u ppl might facin same prob gain in de future ..
@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
At the moment i think YES because i just had a fight with my boy friend. I think Sorry will be the best word to cool him...