office affair, have you been in one?

No I have not been in one. But I get to see quite a few. Being put together to share official responsibilities, but then the inevitable foray into affairs personal are the starting points for the beginning of affairs. But they lead to nowhere. If at all their spouses feel betrayed for having stuck with them. The only way to avoid being in one is to just put oneself in the affected spouse's shoes. How would I feel when I learn my spouse is having an affair while I am faithfully slogging it out for him/her at home holding fort. If this done often enough one will never fall in one. One further thing that would put a person in proper path is to see that it is just the novelty in the relationship that makes one feel the illusion that somehow this new-find is more compatible with me. The illusion will fly out the window the moment one really lives with the other. If only people realize that they are put together in intimate relationships like marriage, is only to learn to tolerate mutual imperfections and outgrow the hatred that keeps rising when someone behaves differently from how we want them to behave, and when our own imperfections are brought home to us, the need to get into such compromising situations will vanish.

NO, I already have BF even he not live in same country with me. I don't want make affair in my office.Cos am respect to my bf and am believe if am not make affair he will not make affair too on there. I believe that is true and i don't want hurt him.

I would say that three is a crowded number. That the boss is not going to fall for her and marry her. He would stick to his wife and seek her whenever he feels the need. It is not fair on the boss wife. Don't do things that you don't like the others to do on you.

Hi there unfathomablesisa! Is your friend still in that affair? It might prove to be difficult to talk some sense to your friend at the moment especially if she is head over heels in love with her boss. Because if she is, she might not listen to whatever you are going to tell her. But it is worth trying. She is your friend and I know that you are concerned about her welfare. Tell her what you feel about her situation and tell her that what she is doing is wrong. Whether she listens to you or not is another issue. Pray for her that she would be enlightened and get out of that relationship.

I have never been in an affiar of any kind, espcially of the office persuation. As far as your friend goes I would tell her to call off the relationship, nobody likes a home wrecker. She may find her self out of the job though, in which case she can just take him to court. She'll get a nice settlement and he'll get his just deserts, they don't call it karma for nothing.

Completely oppose your friend's affair with her boss. What makes her do that, for her boss's impulsion. You know the ture man should take responsible for society, his family, himself. Does he really love your friend. I think he loves his wife more. He can betray his wife, must you belive he betray your friend in the future. So advice your friend keep level-headed,leave him and find new company at once, forget it. Its not ture love, merely game!

i guess everything is up to them you really can't force them into separating if they will not.