What do you think of interracial relationships?

Singapore
October 30, 2008 3:17am CST
As above, what do you guys think of interracial relationships? For eg, a chinese and indian getting married. In my opinion interracial relationships are bound to have many problems and objections from parents, Such as getting stares from strangers in a shopping mall, converting of religions and many others. What about you guys? do you guys think that a interracial relationship is likely to work out?
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@IWINNIE (11)
• United States
31 Oct 08
There was a time when people got stares from other just for demonsrating affection in public and so many other things, lack of space doesn't allow me to list. If you allow other people's ignorance control what you feel is right for you then you are imprisoned and roboticly under their control. Free your heart/mind and free your soul. The very people that does the starring, and finger pointing or gossiping are the same people that if they saw you passed out on the street foaming at the mouth from starvation would not even offer you a bread crumb, so the hell with what people think. Stand for what you believe it can only strenghten you.
• Singapore
31 Oct 08
I think it depends on how strong the relationship is ? If both of them are bent on being in a relationship , I think nothing can stop them , When there is a will , there will be a way (: , so somehow , they will find a way . That is what i call true love , hahas (:
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I don't think it is any of my business if someone else prefers to date someone from another race. I don't think the relationship is any more likely to fail than any other relationship. Race has nothing to do with being dedicated to a person and being willing to put the effort into a relationship to make it work.
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@rsa101 (37966)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
I really think that there should be no problem if what is to be considered is just love. if the only criteria to be considered is love that is already moot and academic. but since there is culture and the society itself added as a factor it would indeed create a problem in the relationship. The only one that could answer that is the couple if they could afford to pay the price if they continue their relationship despite the odds. If they will follow their feelings what would be the consequence in choosing it?
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
31 Oct 08
did they fall enlove with the thought of worrying about who is going to stare at them in the mall thats whats wrong with people worrying about what people think of them, love has no color.religion can be a problem in some cases but if they love each other they will work it out.it,s not what we think it what they think and what they want love can be powerful when you want to be with someone you are enlove with.with god anything is possible.
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@summerli (110)
• China
31 Oct 08
whichever we are, it is equal .
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• United States
1 Nov 08
I believe if there is true love in the relationship, it will survive anything. People can't help who they love, but the love has to be strong enough to weather the flack they will get from outsiders who believe what they are doing is wrong. As long as the couple is strong in their love for each other, it won't matter what other people say or do against them. If you are in love with someone outside your race, put race behind you and go for it.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I am Caucasian and my husband is Mexican. I haven't had any problems at all. Even if people did stare or disapprove that would be their problem not mine. We love each other very much and that is all we see.
31 Oct 08
Of course, an interracial relationship can work. Love is color blind, just like what Sarah Connor sings. So long as they love each other, nothing can separate them, even though they are different from nationalities, cultures and backgrounds. I have a female classmate who married an Irish man, she said that there must be some cultural and religious differences, like eating habits. But both of them have a common interest in teaching. Moreover, let us not forget the most important part of any relationship: LOVE. Be a good communicator, be tolerant, not just for interracial relationships, but also for the same race relationships.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Hello, I am for it Love is Love if you ask me . I know there are looks and i know tha people judge and think its not right ! i like to think there are more good people out there than bad . I think they have chances as we do as anything as working out . People are people .
@Humbug25 (12540)
3 Nov 08
Hi ya swarovski87 Well I think it can work for some people and if you are truely in love then the stares should bother you it didn't me but then my relationship didn't work out there were way too many problems. I am a white British Christian and married a white Lebonese Muslim and it just didn't work and I ended up fleeing to a safe house with my kids.
@Humbug25 (12540)
3 Nov 08
Sorry that should have read as 'the stares shouldn't bother you'.
• United States
31 Oct 08
Race should not matter. I think interracial couples should be left alone. If they don't have a problem with it, then why should anyone else?? I have dated outside of my race before I was married, and no one really seemed to notice. I personally do not see color in people, what really matters is what kind of person they are. My sister is in an interaccial relationship, my nieces are biracial, and no one that we know has a problem with it. But if someone should ever have a problem with any of my nieces, then they really got a problem with me. I love my nieces, I will hurt somebody over them if need be.
• United States
30 Oct 08
I am okay with interracial relationships because in my eye sight everyone is HUMAN! I am so sick of people comparing whites with blacks... how about individuals being labeled as people? I hope that this world can one day have an opened mind for EVERYONE and this way we can all or at least most of us will see the good in each person as who they are or going to be.
@empracht (45)
• United States
30 Oct 08
I'm in one right now. My fiance is Filipino and I'm Caucasian. And it's not strange at all for us. We have friends that recently got married in which one is Caucasian, the other Indian, and more friends with the same ethnicity coupling just got engaged. I did find it interesting that with one of the couples- her family is Muslim and her fiance converted to Muslim before they got married. He gave up drinking and changed many things about his life for her. I guess it surprised me because I'm not sure how I feel about people changing their religious beliefs for their partner. On the other hand, I'm very happy for them and they are a great pair.
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
Love doesn't choose who should be destined to who. Whatever the difference, be it a race, age, religion, and even gender, it's still the same as normal as two couples find themselves being happy and in love together. The interracial relationship depends on the couple whether they would work it out or not. It's the special feeling that they have for each other.
@sidyboy (284)
• United States
30 Oct 08
I've never been in an interracial relationship, however I have seen MANY interracial couples and it doesn't bother me one bit. I'm personally used to the stares and odd looks since I was with a man for over a decade who was much older than me... to the point that when we'd go out to eat the waitress would ask "and what would your daughter like?"- thankfully we both never had a problem with that and remain friends to this day, but getting odd looks due to who you're in love with us totally unnecessary. Who I share my bed with shouldn't matter to anyone else, so look the other way if it bothers you :)
@leateagee (3667)
• China
30 Oct 08
I agree with you that parents, friends and other people concern will disagree or have a comment regarding the relationship but the end result or decision for this matter relies to the couple involve. There are many differences that the couple will discover but if LOVE is really between and within them, they will be mature enough to learn and have an unconditional love in their relationship. Loving isn't always happy. It has trials that will surely test your faith to each other. Trust, love and acceptance of whoever the person who married to are the keys (for me) to have an interracial relationship. You do not look at the color of the skin, the size of the eyes, the height and its family background. Loving whoever it is depends on accepting who she/he is and binding yourselves to make a better future from the forces or strengths that both of you have. I hpe I made a point. Take care =)
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
I think it can work if the couple are willing to work it out and compromise with each other's difference, the key word is adjustment, yes they may encounter problems, and more than an ordinary couple but if they are willing to work their relationship to be a successful one, the can bridge the barrier of cultaral differences.
• United Kingdom
30 Oct 08
I'm not saying that interracial relationships are wrong or anything but, I think they can pose a problem and infact, they have created many problems for many people. Love has no boundaries though and so you should feel free to love and be with whoever you want. Whether it be black or white, Chinese or Indian, it doesn't matter. It's just a shame that the kids have to suffer and they do tend to suffer the consequences of an interracial relationship during their school years. I don't think that things are as bad now as they used to be though. There's a lot more education out there in the world in relation to this and so, I think this is becoming the norm, an accepted practice. Andrew
• United States
30 Oct 08
In my opinion, interracial relationships should be no different that same race relationship. My husband and I (he's white, I'm asian) have been married for over 7 years and been together for over 10 years. His family does have a problem with him being with a non-white person, but it is not up to the families. If you are happy together, then anyone's opinion should not matter.