Am I the one doing something wrong?

Australia
October 30, 2008 7:50am CST
Okay, so ever since I was forced to leave school due to a disagreement with a certain teacher, my relationship with my boyfriend seems to have gone down the toilet. He would constantly call me names and threaten to break up with me, because I was having trouble finding a full time job (I was only working casually at the time) and he thought it would make me try harder to find a job, even though the only affect it had on me was making me want to lie in bed crying all day. He never once tried to make me feel better about myself. Then when one of my guy friends started to actually care about how I was, and actually tried to make me feel better, my boyfriend gets angry because I told the friend what was going on in my life and that I was unhappy. What is with that? The person who I thought would have supported me did the exact opposite and never once asked me if I wanted to talk about anything. He thought that I had feelings for the guy friend (and I don't, at all; I see all my guy friends as my flamboyant gay uncle, even when they are the most straight guys ever), so he calls me a few more names, he says we're going to break up, because I was talking to other people about whats going wrong with my life. My question: Guys, would you treat your girlfriend like this? Girls, would you put up with being treated like this? And everyone, is this my fault? Am I the one who should be fixing it? Btw, I'm terribly sorry for the long post, and if you read it all, thank you so much.
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
One thing is for sure, your guy is a real @$$holE!!. I don't see why you keep on keeping him if he does that to you. Who would ever be motivated to try harder with someone who's constantly banging your head and telling you you're nothing? That's like verbal abuse! You shouldn't allow such a person to do that to you, he has no right whatsoever. As for the threat of breaking up, if that was me, I'd break up with him in an instant. He has the nerve to call himself your boyfriend if he doesn't even comfort you or talk to you heart-to-heart. He's just using you and feeding on your situation right now. I say, leave him. You don't need that person in your life, he's only dragging you down. I think you need fixing in your head though, because you allow such thing to happen. No one who loves anyone gets treated that way. So, get your senses back and don't let anyone pull you down.
• Australia
30 Oct 08
Thanks for your fast response. My head is fine though thanks lol. I'm still with him because we had a great relationship before, when I was at school, and I just had a lot of hope for us, I guess. He just has a weird way of doing things. He used to be the sweetest guy ever, then he turned into some monster thing. But he is starting to get nicer again now that he has finished school.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
That's one of the worst thing a person would ever do in a relationship. Trying to reason for the other person's bad characteristics. These bad attitudes are the real him, he's just trying to look his best when you were younger and now. Either that or he's got schizophrenia, watch out!
@marty3888 (2358)
• United States
30 Oct 08
The only "fixing" you need to do is get rid of him. He is going to treat you like that the rest of your life if you stay with him. So let him break up with you. And no, I would never treat her like that, I would never treat anyone like that. You are better than that, I'm sure.