When Parents behave Like Children...

United States
October 30, 2008 12:38pm CST
I have a close friend she is 32 and has some major health issues(She only has 1 kidney unable to ever have a transplant and was not suppose to live past 6 months old among other issues). She and her husband live with her parents who she takes care of and pretty much waits on hand and foot. Her mother works a phone job 5 days a week at Walmart and manages to function fine with the use of her walker (she is overweight and suffers from Mersa). However, once she gets home she makes her daughter do everything for her from cooking, putting away and doing her laundry as well as wiping for her, getting her dressed, getting her drinks and washing her hair. My friend wants to move out so badly but all she ever hears from her parents is how she will never make it yada yada yada. It is ridiculous her and her husband are treated like children and slaves and I just do not even know what to say to my friend about it or if I should step in and say something to her parents. Any ideas?
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bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Do you think that this mother is really making the daughter do everything? On the other hand you do mention that this friend really does want to leave. It does sound like this mother is not in good condition yet is keeping down a job. Sometimes when families cohabitate it does not always work out for the best. Arguments and bad feelings can unfortunately erupt and someone ends up getting hurt. I wish all of these people a lot of luck. I don't think that I would step in and say anything to these parents. That is just the type of person that I am. I know that I would probably give your good friend some support that she needs and it could her to make a good choice.