do you feel comfortable being called by your husbands family name?

October 31, 2008 9:25am CST
hi mylotters! i have been married for only 2 years. being a woman, i have to change my maiden name to my husbands family name. sometimes, when im called by my students using my present family name, i dont feel that they are calling me. maybe im not used to it. . how about you? pls share you experience. thanks.
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@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
hi there!friend... yeah!i was directly used to it.. honestly i love his family name..sounds for rich! even though his not..heheheh! i like it sounds nice.. what im not used to it when they call me mrs.......together with my husband's family name...i look young to be called like that..hehehe! i just need to get used to! happy posting! cheers!
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
I am not yet married but we're planning next year. And he asked me to start practicing writing my name using his surname to get used to it. We've also discussed whether to hypenate or not or still use my maiden name when signing land documents because I am a licensed engineer and would change a lot of things like my dry seal, and the specimen I have in the Bureau of Lands if I change my surname. So I guess I just have to start practice signing with my new surname and get used to be called by my new surname because I think it will make my soon to be husband happier.
@minnie15 (145)
• United States
19 May 09
I hyphenated my last name. I did want to share my husband's last name, but I had accomplished so much under my maiden name...I also felt that to me, my last name represented a lot. Sure, I got a lot of crap from his family, but I didn't care. They eventually got over it and leave me alone. As long as you are happy, it shouldn't matter which last name you choose. Just make it clear to your hubby how you feel so he isn't hurt by your actions.
• United States
7 May 09
You don't have to change your name. There is now law stating as such. I did not change my name after I got married. My parents went to a lot of trouble to give me my name upon birth and I think it's an insult to change it. Legally I don't go by his name and neither do I professionally, but in a social setting I dont mind being called Mrs. Husbandslastname.
• United States
19 Mar 09
I did not legally change my name when I married. I like my name just as it is. Our daughter has my husband's last name. I chose to keep my own name.
• United States
2 Nov 08
i got used to mine quickly but i liked it better than my maiden name so that might have been why
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I have been married to my husband for only 15 months, and there are times that I have even signed my previous name. I think that it takes a while to get use to a new name. Over time, it will be very natural. I went through the same thing in my first marriage, and after about 3 years, I was okay and no longer tried to write the wrong name. Like I said, it takes time to get used to.