Single Forever?

@fabjonah (140)
Philippines
November 1, 2008 9:45pm CST
I'm in my early 30s, however, I don't have a special someone in my life. As famous line goes, 'Special someone will come at the right time...' but I've been waiting for many years now. Sometimes, I envied my friends who are very happy spending time together with their love ones. When I examined myself, it seems that I look better than them in some aspects. Neither, I'm not that choosy or selective nor having a high standards for a perfect someone. Now, it seems I'm into a panic stage but still I remain composed and still manage to wait patiently. I'm sure a lot of here share the same sentiments that I have, hope you can provide me some encouraging thoughts to ponder that I won't consider myself as the unluckiest person on earth. Do you think that I'm destined to be single forever?
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16 responses
• China
3 Nov 08
being single is a boon if u ask to someone like me!!!!! i was fabulous when i was single i was fantastic when i was single i was the best when i was single many gals used to dream about me when i was single (believe me they really did) but once i got committed i got confined my world was limited all those who helped me were mad at me coz i was not there to help them when they needed me i dont hv any prob in my relation my gal id very kind and supportive but its something called LOVE which makes u forget every thing else and makes u the most hated by someone who loved u before and if ur single then i probably think u r not ready for a relationship u still hv to learn something!!!! remember better late than never!!!
@fabjonah (140)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
yeah, when you're single you can do anything under the sun. but its different when you have someone beside you - to laugh with you, to cry with you, to help you in decision makings, to be your source of inspiartion. i did not rush into finding that special someone. im just hoping if its possible, i want it now. coz life is very short and maybe tommorrow will be too late to experience that. thank you very much... you inspire me with your insights...
@crickethear (1417)
• United States
2 Nov 08
You are still in your early 30's, I wouldn't worry about it. I am 45 and never have been married. Just haven't found the right person yet. I too would prefer to have someone special in my life, however, I would rather be single and happy, then married and unhappy and miserable.
@mindym (978)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I agree...I would rather be single and happy than married and miserable. I have learned A LOT from my previous relationships and hope that these life lessons will allow me to be with the "right" person. I am 30 and I'm not going to lie, it stinks having friends who are married and having children. But I am happy for them and hope for the best with them. I have also seen friends who have been married and divorced within a couple of years. Everything happens for a reason and although you may not find someone when YOU want, supposedly it will arrive when you least expect it. I just keep telling myself that =)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 08
Hi fabjonah. To me if I want to have something, I would work for it. It means, when you feel you are ready to have a relationship with someone special, you have to work for it. You have to initiate the first step. It is never embarrassing if you make the first move because nowadays we are living in the modern age, and every gender has the right for his or her own happiness. Have you tried online dating? I think this is the easiest way to start searching for someone. You can have many choices coming into your way. You don't have to tie a knot the minute you get to know somebody. Just be friends with them. Go out and know them better. I am sure you will be able to get tons of friends through internet chatting. I hope you will start making your first move now. You will find out later you are not the unluckiest person on earth. I am sure many people will be attracted to you, once you make the first move to get yourself introduced to the world by online services. Good luck!
• United States
19 Dec 09
You can be happy single. You may want to find some more friends who are single that you can hang out with. The good thing is that by being single you are not being put on a rollercoaster with your feelings. You can make friends and go on dates with them if you want company just take things slow enjoy doing the things that you like to do and don't rush into any new relationship.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
2 Nov 08
i am still single and 44. i just dont like anyone, and i dont want to marry for the hell of it. it is not easy to meet the right person.
@relundad (2310)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I am 42 and in a relationship, but have no intentions of marrying him. I refuse to get married due to the pressures of the clock. Far too many people have done that only to end up in divorce.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
2 Nov 08
You never know what Life has in store for you. But, there is always hope. I am going to Seattle next week for the wedding of one of my sons. He is finally getting married at the "young" age of 41 So, keep on having hope and who knows, maybe you'll find that special someone yet
@fabjonah (140)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
Thanks for sharing that with your son's... Just that, I never experienced yet spending romantic moments with someone... I'm pretty sure its not the end of the road, I just keep on walking and who knows, my special someone is happily waiting for me there... Best Wishes to your son's wedding...
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
2 Nov 08
No, you are not. But I know exactly how you feel. I was 40 and had no one and I was still living with my mom. I wasn't asking if I was destined to be single forever, I was sure of it. Then at 44, I met someone. We bought a house about a year later and though I'm disappointed she dosn't want to get married, I'm happy to have someone. You will find someone too.
@acbllr (43)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
im still single and of the same age (early 30's) but i do have a special someone in my life right now. we met some 2 years back and already on my 30's, but then we are not yet married so i still don't know if the future will hold us strong stronger. so maybe you're special someone is still out there and coming at the right time but, you have to do something about it as well. find ways to meet someone who is single (but beware! there are lot's of fake single out there!). through socialization with friends, net and relatives.i have that same thought and sentiments before but i keep on believing... there's still hope for us, you know! cheers....
• China
3 Nov 08
Hi honey, you are not unlucky. It's just the timing, old saying but true. We have to meet the special someone at the right time, or it can turn out as a failure. Last night my roommate received a call from a stranger and later after their chat, she found it's her colleague's wife. The wife was checking the namelist on her husband's cellphone to see who was the secret girl her husband had been dating. What a sympathetic woman! I'd rather not to marry if the guy is like him. So you can just assume that your special someone is at somewhere working hard for your future and when you finally meet his, he has become so mature and rich... And then you become the happiest princess in the world, lol.
@EAStanley (2688)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I am over 30 and still single. But, I like it. I prefer being alone, anyway. :) I get to do whatever I want whenever I want to. ;) But I still have friends and family of course and sometimes I even go outside and off of the computer! *LOL* ;) But, it is different for everybody. For everybody who is still single and wants to be in a relationship, then I wish the best for you! :)
@taripres (1499)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Not to necessarily wait, but don't rush it! Get out there and mingle, meet some people, open up a little! Don't go out looking, but don't be unavailable for conversation either. U'll meet someone eventually, just don't be hasty nor stand offish! Taripre$
• India
3 Nov 08
Up to a certain age single personal will be feel good. After the age of 30s there will be situations were the own personal strength will not besufficient to cop up. There will be monotonus, and mind will waver when getting older in such situations when there is attachment there will not be time to think about anything and you will feel happiness. If life is full of happiness again there will be monotonus. When it is balanced with sorrow and happiness life will be more enjoyable when we look back.
• United States
3 Nov 08
I think that someone could come along, or may have already that was great with you, maybe you didnt notice it, or ignored it. Many times you will hear your friends say I think this person is prefect for you and you respond, "nah, not my type" if that is the case, take a closer look, the right person may be right under your nose. If not, then just try to enjoy life, have fun with whatever hobbies you have, and maybe you will find happiness within yourself alone.
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
There is a saying "Life begins at 40." Cheer up dear! ^__^
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
2 Nov 08
I think it is a case of the grass looks greener sometimes, I am single and i look back at my little romances and i think how lucky I am not to have married any of them...sometimes it gets lonely especially when things go wrong but i only have to go visit some of my married friends and i come home to my world and think peace and quiet, some of my married friends tell me I am lucky not to be married as they all seemed to be a little controlled something i would never let happen to myself, this is probably why i am still single I am very independent and lets face it today to be single is becoming very popular....you never know when you will meet someone, I met someone that I cared very much when I was a screaming teenager to an idol...I met this person I adored many years before and spent 18 wonderful months with him before he passed away...I have said to myself how luck i was I never got married because I would never have gotten together with my idol and i would never have been there for him when he needed someone the most...and the wait was worth it....Good luck to you my friend...
• United States
2 Nov 08
im not touching that with a ten foot pole sorry