I had posted a couple of months ago about my friend and her husband's marital
By Loverbear
@Loverbear (4918)
United States
November 2, 2008 2:53am CST
I had posted about my best friend and how her husband had been treating her. It seems like it was forever before the situation has finally come to a conclusion.
It turns out that her husband had been cheating on her...once with a one night stand and the second time has been going on for over a year. He claims that it is his first love who had left for awhile and then came back. He thought that he would never see her again, but she reentered his life.
What is the awful part is the amount of pain and suffering he caused his wife. He has a huge wardrobe while she is in rags. He is eating wonderful meals and she is going hungry. He has spent so much time tearing her down by criticizing her and what she wears and what she does. He would be gone all night and then come home and lie about where he had been.
My friend did learn that her husband does know how to lie and do a good job of lying to her. He couldn't even come home long enough to walk the dog!!! I am taking care of the dog until my friend can afford to get a home of her own. They are staying together until she is able to get her disability. She is going to go out to our local community college and get the paperwork done to enroll and take classes for the spring semester.
I can't be as calm and understanding as she is. As soon as I found out that he had been cheating on me, he would have lost something very important....plus he would have been tossed out on his a$$! But right now I am just very glad that it is over, and she has found out the truth. Her pain is nearing an end and he won't be around to emotionally abuse her.
It feels so good to post this discussion and let everyone know that my friend and adopted sister is getting her life back together.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I am glad to hear that your friend is moving on, after all she has been through..And you are sweet to help her out with her dog, which if I remember correctly, is a pretty big dog?? Your friend is fortunate to have you in her time of need..

@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Yes, Abby is an 80 pound Pitt/Lab mix. In comparison to my mini Dachshunds it's David and Goliath! What's so funny is that when my Doxies poop it's like little rat turds, but when Abbie poops it's awe inspiring! She had an accident in the house and it was like five pounds of poop!!!
What is so wonderful is that my friend is becoming her old feisty self again! She isn't looking at this as a disaster, but as an opportunity. I am so proud of her, and thrilled that things are working out the way they are. A neighbor of hers informed her a year ago that her husband was cheating on her, and she didn't believe her. My friend asked her husband and he lied about the affair....My friend had blinders on so securely that she wouldn't believe that her husband was capable of lying! I tried to get it through to her that just because he was ADD and had a couple of other problems, it didn't mean that he couldn't think up lies.
Anyhow, now it's just a case of getting things going on her registering for classes, getting financial aid, moving into her own place with a yard for Abby and getting the divorce done. (She is eligible for a free divorce because of her income situation...which is super!!!)
What is so wonderful is that my friend is becoming her old feisty self again! She isn't looking at this as a disaster, but as an opportunity. I am so proud of her, and thrilled that things are working out the way they are. A neighbor of hers informed her a year ago that her husband was cheating on her, and she didn't believe her. My friend asked her husband and he lied about the affair....My friend had blinders on so securely that she wouldn't believe that her husband was capable of lying! I tried to get it through to her that just because he was ADD and had a couple of other problems, it didn't mean that he couldn't think up lies.
Anyhow, now it's just a case of getting things going on her registering for classes, getting financial aid, moving into her own place with a yard for Abby and getting the divorce done. (She is eligible for a free divorce because of her income situation...which is super!!!)1 person likes this
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I don't know why people can't be honest about some things. I did finally tell my friend (she actually is an adopted sister. She was an only child and I had an older brother that was HORRIBLE! He was abusive to me in any form you can think of, and I haven't heard from him in 25 years!) that I wouldn't mince words with her about the situation she is in. I have had a lot of late nights talking to her and taking her to ER because of the stress from the problems her husband created. One was for heart surgery to remove an embolism.
It strikes me as hilarious that we are checking out our dog poops! Does that make our lives dull or exciting?? It's like when I see the doctor and they ask what my poop looks like. I don't check it out, I wipe and flush!!! I'm too busy to take the time to inspect my poop...come to think of it I don't inspect the dog's poop either. Anyhow, the piles that Abby leaves makes the cattle that graze in the area green with envy! We currently have bulls in the park area of our development (they snuck in through a break in the fence--I live waaaayyy out in the country.) and when I took Abby down for her walk she pooped in the park and the bulls even came over to check it out!
Her piles are awesome! LOL. I'm just soooo thankful that my "sis" didn't get a Great Dane!!!
I don't know if you have seen the commercial for Stanley Steamer with the dog dragging its butt across the floor...well my new addition, Katie, came through the house dragging her butt. The first thing that went through my mind was that commercial. Unfortunately with the up coming election, craft shows and class I can't think of steam cleaning the carpet until a week from today.
Her piles are awesome! LOL. I'm just soooo thankful that my "sis" didn't get a Great Dane!!!
I don't know if you have seen the commercial for Stanley Steamer with the dog dragging its butt across the floor...well my new addition, Katie, came through the house dragging her butt. The first thing that went through my mind was that commercial. Unfortunately with the up coming election, craft shows and class I can't think of steam cleaning the carpet until a week from today.1 person likes this
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Yeah, I remember my dalmatian, though hers were big, but not as big as Zoe's a white german shepherd that I have now, Wow..
I was just thinking the other day, if my dog was to go one one spot a couple times, I would have the game warden out here wondering where the horse was..
That is good that your friend can get free help like that..
Truthfully though I know my husband isn't cheating, he too can lie, but says he can't because of his ADD, (which he so happen to claim about 3 weeks ago..
)
I was just thinking the other day, if my dog was to go one one spot a couple times, I would have the game warden out here wondering where the horse was..
That is good that your friend can get free help like that..
Truthfully though I know my husband isn't cheating, he too can lie, but says he can't because of his ADD, (which he so happen to claim about 3 weeks ago..
)
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Unfortunately she isn't the kind to get even. What really kills me is after everything he has done she still "LOVES" him!!
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