What to do?

u urself said that ur friend is a great guy....do u think he would be such a fool to choose such a woman to take care of his kids especially girls? and dont count the girls out..u hadnt mentioned their age but watever their age is ,they will rebel even if the new woman is a saint by heart and they dont want some other woman in their mom's place...it must be one of those unsolved stuffs....she shouldnt have taken those girls rebelious nature that way and hurt them back....she could have tried a lil more and seems for the last 4 years,they didnt manage much but the couple r on the way for their second child.....may be ur friend and his wife should discuss about the current demanding issue between the girls and her in their bedroom rather than trying to create another child...sorry for being rude and blunt but i heard only ur view of that story...if u want to try,try talking with her and the girls alone to find the problem and try to solve it...there is no other way

That's really a big problem. To be honest, I won't be able to stand being around her as well. But they should've discussed this before his woman moved with them. He should have talked to his daughters first about a woman in his life being added to their family. Maybe his daughters rebelled because they wasn't informed about it and they feel that they will have divided attention when it comes to their daddy. If I can't stand it anymore...I would probably tell the woman not to say words against the kids anymore. Instead, if she has complaints about them...go sit and talk to her husband or the whole family. She's gonna have another baby so it's gonna be their step-bro/sis. Chances are...they'll be living in one roof longer. The better deal with their problem

I would suggest to your friend that they get family counseling. It would have been great if they had done that from the start. Looking at her side I probably would have run for the hills if I walked into a situation with 2 children that were rebelling. It may be hard to iron out the hard feelings now.

Interesting that this lady has a problem and the dad did not see it until they produced two more children together. That makes them with five children together. This friend of yours need to get it clear to this women that his priority are is families which includes his two girls from his previous marriage. The girls / daughters may have already signaled to their dad about this lady but since he did not listen he has to fix the problem now. It is sad that they also produced two more babies together. I am totally against adults having more children when they are separated and have young children under their care. They know fine well that this causes a lot of problems for young children. I am ok with dating, but moving in and having more children is not the answer when you know your children do not like this woman. I am so sorry, I been ranting and forgot to address the question. I suggest you talk to your friend, (the dad) and tell him what you hear, better yet record it. Record the time the lady calls his girls horrible name. Maybe he does not know this is happening if he works all the time. I trust his first priority is the two girls from his previous marriage, it is bad enough their mother abandon them, their dad should protect them. Good luck and I hope your friend does everything in his power to keep the family together including the women and his new child because it his responsibility to care for them they are his kids.

Wow that is a big one there. I got tired of my mil putting down my fil. I just had to stand up for him and now she doesn't do it as bad. It is going to be hard to do but just tell her you don't want to hear them being put down. Tell her you are happy to talk to her but don't want to here about the girls being down graded. I hope this helps you out.

I'm not sure that I would listen to anyone bad mouth any child on a constant basis. Especially if they were calling them names. I don't care whether it's him or her. This is not acceptable behavior for any parent or any step parent. Say firmly " I can't listen to you talking like this about your child" and excuse yourself. What could you possibly be gaining from hanging around such people? I'm sorry that I am so blunt, but what do these people have to offer you? He chose this person and this does not reflect well on him either. If you must hang out with him, avoid the wife at all costs.