first love?

@jhl930 (3603)
United States
November 2, 2008 11:26pm CST
ok i am twenty years old and honestly i am still learning about love and i am with the girl that i have fallen for and i can't see myself with anyone else really and i love her so much that when she's sick i don't leave her side and when shes having a down day i will do anything to make her laugh and all of that and i really want this to go far and she has said the same thing, and i was just wondering about your first love are you married to them or did it end and if it ended any advice on what to do not to end? i would like to take this time to thank everyone for taking the time out of your day to come by and read and review my discussion and hopefully answering, and trying to help me, and i hope that you all have a great day and night tonight, thanks again for taking the time to stop by.
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14 responses
• China
3 Nov 08
What a happy man you are! When you fall in love with someone, you put all you heart on her/him, taking care of everything about her/him. My first love which I fell so much deeply into started from my 14 years old, and ended on my 17 years old. During that three years, I tasted everything about love. Although we broke up finally, 11 years later now we are still friend.
3 Nov 08
I fell in love with my best friend when i was 17, the problem was that i never thought she'd be interested in me. I ended up in another relationship with a guy who got me pregnant and cheated on me, he also stopped me from seeing my friends, so it wasnt until 6 years later, when i left him, that i got back in touch with my friend. My feelings were still as strong, and i went for it, told her how i felt, and a year later we were together. We have been together almost 4 years, and have the best relationship. I think people give young people a raw deal, as your first love is always amazing, and sometimes it can be forever, though these days not alot of people seem to beleive that anymore. Never take your partner for granted and always talk, and you will have a very strong relationship.
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
3 Nov 08
That's very sweet! My first love definitely ended. I can't even remember who my first love was since I've been in quite a few serious relationships in the past and have been in love with many people. I'm currently very much in love with a guy I've been dating for almost 2 1/2 years. Things are really great between us, and I can definitely see this relationship lasting. I am his first love and his first serious relationship, so I definitely believe that your first love can be your one and only true love. Some people are just lucky that the first person they fall in love with is a person they can have a long lasting relationship with.
@jhl930 (3603)
• United States
3 Nov 08
i also think that the first love can be your only love as well because i really love this girl and would do anything for her and the same with me, thanks for taking the time to reply!
@vinay049 (1879)
• India
5 Nov 08
i am 17 years old.i have been dating 1 girl since last 2 years.she is my best friend and also you can say she is my girl friend.we both like each other.at the moment ,we are just concentrating on our studies.but we have decided that we will carry forward this relationship.we will tell this thing to our parents after 3-4 years.we are also hoping that they will understand us.hope this will happen to you also.happy mylotting
@DEVONECO (144)
• United States
4 Nov 08
There are four stages in a Butterfly's life cycle - Egg, Caterpillar, Coccoon and the Butterfly. If you relate the stages of Love to the stages of the Butterfly's life, then the Egg signifies the first stage of one's love life whereby as a teenager, your emotions are triggered by the attraction toward another. Its a stage of uncertainty whereby you are still embedded in a shell and wanting to break out to freedom. Then in the Caterpillar stage, you are already out in the world eating away at the leaves of lust hoping to be content. After a while, you are tired of all this philandering and then you get into a "coccoon" of sorts with someone you feel you are in love with but not necessarily so. This situation may recur over and over again - and you may even get married during this stage - but there is a chance you may find that it wasn't meant to be. Finally, if you are lucky to find your soulmate while in the coccoon stage, and fall in love, that's when you will feel like the Butterfly - in its colorful splendor fluttering its beautiful wings and flying into the air. Its a feeling of joy and content that cannot be described in words. I feel you are still in the initial stages of love and you will learn as you go on in life and experience the lessons of Love.
• United States
4 Nov 08
My first true love did end, but if you dont let the love die, then you can make it last forever. I met my first love when i was 15, we got married at 20, and had a baby boy together. We were ok together until we moved across the country. I didnt really want to go but did for him, and that started many problems for us. Sometimes love just isnt enough....but with effort you can make it last. I'm sure there were things we could have done to better the relationship, but if you both cant give it 100% then it just wont work. I wish you two the best, and if you find yourself falling out of love, just remember the reasons you fell in love in the first place....much luck to the both of you.
@fishsky (25)
• China
4 Nov 08
Hi,although I have never meet my first love,I also want to say something about this discussion . As we know,first love is very romantic and thankful. But,we are also doubt whether it can last to the end or not.In my opinion,just enjoy the happiness when you are having him or her. Do not waste much time thinking the things to be taken place.If so,it may affect your emotion. What is more,reality is closely linked to the love.Do not forget the fact you facing.
• United States
4 Nov 08
hello well i have had the same boy friend for 3 years and it has been good we do have fights but we fix them any way all i can say is to just be your self tell your girl everything because that will make you closer to her and if you have any problems tell her may be she can help you also don't be shy in telling her your feelings well because girls think that is sweet well i am telling you this because i left my ex boy friend because he never wanted to talk to me about his problems and he was always mad at anything and he never told me the truth about anything. any way as i said be your self and just tell her every day that you love her well good luck
• China
4 Nov 08
Cherish your first love, bless you.
• Canada
3 Nov 08
If you feel this way then all you can really do put forth your feelings and hope for the best. i myself is in a very serious relationship as well. I hope to spend my whole life with a person that I'm in love with. I told her how i felt and im doing my best to remain in her life. All i can do is hang in and hope she has the same feelings for me, as we have discused it and saw them the same. Keep in mind things can happen. Promises can be broken but its worth every penny to keep trying for her if you truly love her. And rememeber if you do your best and you don't get accepted forever with her then obviously it wasnt meant to be. Its not your fault but hers.
@glords (2614)
• United States
3 Nov 08
My first love ended. I think the problem is that people grow apart. You may have similar attitudes when you are young, but your life experiences may lead you in different directions. I used to love to hang out at bars and party when I was in high school. I grew up and went to college and got a job and changed, and he is still there partying in the bars. Now Im happily married to my soul mate. We have a son and a house and the type of life I want... My first love has friends and parties and bars and I guess the type of life that makes him happy. I'm not sure you can prevent yourself from growing apart. If it happens you will just have to let go, but don't worry about that until there is something to worry about.
• Malaysia
3 Nov 08
First love is always wonderful, but many people not success with their first love because they are too young, too agressive and too quick to proceed to the next level. Most people can be said as still not matured to face their first love. However,it's just common case only as there's still have some couple that manage to protect their first love and bring it towards their end of live. I hope you will be one of them you lives happily ever after. My advice for you is to take a slow and relaxing measure. Be more patient.Don't push her too hard. Keep a faith and trust on her while on the same time try to be the same on yourself. Sometime, when you're in love, you have to be matured beyond your age,so you can make the wise decision. Remember, love is came from the heart, so is trust. So, if you can keep your trust and being trusted sure you can protect your love. I will pray for happines for both of you.
@iamcdy (1119)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Hi there! I guess not all first love ends like a fairy tale. I thought mine was going to be one of those but I think it just didn't go well. I think that the status of a relationship always depend on two people, not only one. They must see to it that they work for it. Communication is also one of the important factors. Sometimes, relationships end because people tend to forget the simple things that make a relationship work. I was in about same age as your when I had my first love. And as the years passed by, I have realized that I have so much things to learn in the process. I even lost my self in the process. Some say that it takes two mature people for a relationship to work. I think it is true. Mine did not end up in marriage. But I know it happened for a reason. At first it was hard but then I had to move on. And when I started to move on, I was able to meet other people and realized that it was not the end of the world. I am glad that now, I am very happy with the person I am with. He is not my first love but he will definitely my last and true love.
@albern (59)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
hi, ok i am 19 years old now i have a first love. the name of the girl is jean i don't know why myself are in love with hem, i don't know why. because of that i will help my friends and i talk my friends that i have some in love of girl. but i side that i don't know why my heart are so blink blink to see hem all day. side my friends are you in love. and i side for my friends i don't know to give her that i am in love . that think i am to talk hem that i am in love, and that day i am a nervios person and my heart are so blink blink, but the girl side that im in love for you to and he side for me that i am the one only first boy in her self. that think i am so glad that i am a first love. that day i am so happy that i am a first man for you. an tell now me and my girl are forever in love again........ thats my first love ehehhe.......
@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
3 Nov 08
Why thinking about ending or not ending already.... till you love her no problem you will think of something at such a time(if it ever comes) now just enjoy and be happy.... and do everything to make her happy then why would she want to end?