I Want To Tell Him I Love Him So Much But Can't

@godiane (206)
Philippines
November 4, 2008 1:09pm CST
I want to tell someone special that I love him so much but I can't. I don't know, but I think I have this HUGE pride inside of me that doesn't want to. I mean it's easy to tell straight to his face that I love him very much and I want us to be together. Problem is, he's in Europe (I'm in Asia right now), and I'm afraid that he'll reject me because of the distance. What to do? Please help, I'm going nuts about this. Thank you so much. I appreciate all responses...
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
15 Nov 08
hello go diane I think you better tell him about what you feel. Who knows, he likes you too. Sometimes guys have pride too and is waiting for a girl to tell them. Anyway, if he doesn't love you back, so what? At least you know earlier. Besides he is far from you so whether he will reject you or not, there's nothing change. The only change is whether you will plan your life together or you will try to move on and find a new love. If he doesn't love you, he is not worth your time. You're talking to him online and the time you spent when chatting wit would be useless if he himself doesn't like you or doesn't have a plan to build a relationship long distance and is not planning to meet you in the future. It's as if you're loving someone that is impossible to love. The time are wasting so as early as you can and before you invest too much emotion on him, tell him now. Better to know than never.
@godiane (206)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
Yes I already sent him an email about things, he replied, but I would really love to talk to him soon. :) The past few years after he left, I was just friends with him. I mean, we know we like each other but I'm just strolling around since I was busy with a lot of things, and I wanted to accomplish a lot of things. Now that I've somehow accomplished the basic things that I wanted out of my career, I realized that I want to level up. That's why I needed to talk to him if he's with me. Thanks. :)
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Well, are you ever going to be in the same country again, within a reasonable distance? If you're not going to be close enough to have a relationship, maybe you're just going to make it too hard for yourself. But really, what are you going to get out of not telling him? Maybe it's better you tell him, now or never. If he doesn't want it, it will be easier for you to move on. I don't know anything about moving on, trust me, but someone has to!
@godiane (206)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
He won't certainly go home this year, as we've talked about it. I already told him that I love him two years ago, but we've both decided it's hard since he's too far away. Now I'm willing to go up the notch, but can't bring myself to tell him. Thanks. I just need to know, right?
@Zeddzz (77)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I can't tell you how he'll react, but I can tell you that if he's worth it he won't react in such a bad manner as to not want to talk to you any more. He may be unwilling to start a relationship until you've met (if this is purely long distance) but that's understandable to be honest. The best advice I can give you is that it's better to have tried and failed than to never put forth the effort in the first place. If you don't try, you won't know, and it could be the biggest mistake of your life. At least if it's a mistake and you try you know and you can deal with it. As for personal experience, I've been dating my stunning girlfriend for 8 months now long distance, and it's well worth it, as she's the most amazing person I know. I met her online through a video game in February of 2006 and we started dating this past February. Good luck with you situation, and I hope that he's really worth your time and effort.
@godiane (206)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
I've actually told him this before (about two years ago) but we've decided that the distance would be hard. But now I'm willing to beat the distance. We're still talking, but not that often since we have different schedules, but I can't bring myself to raise the issue again. He won't be going home (in Asia) this year so I'm having second thoughts whether to tell him... It's just hard for me. Thanks. :)