Say that you were at a dance...
By ratyz5
@ratyz5 (7808)
Philippines
November 5, 2008 1:38am CST
I just had this thought when a young lady asked me out to dance when I was attending some event wherein my father was part of those who organized it. At first, I was hesitant. I mean, I don't know how to dance at all and as I would often excuse whever asked if I can dance, "No, I can't dance. I might step on your knee if I tried" (^_^") but, at that time, I was really bored of just sitting at the table when we've already finished eating our meal minutes ago.. so I went ahead and just dance for one song.. or track.. whatever.. A few minutes more, I saw the same lady who asked me out to dance and another guy with her take the floor. They were really amazing while I realized that they were both dance instructors brought by some of the guest who had intentions of dancing.
Well anyway, here's for discussion:
You just happen to be at an event wherein, aside from socializing and eating the prepared meal, part of it would have its participants take the floor and dance. Oddly enough, you came either alone or with those that already went on the floor to dance while you remain seated as you idly watched those group of people dance with the music.
If your a guy, what would you do if some girl whom you don't really know at all comes to where you were seated and invites you to dance, provided that she looks like she really does want to dance?
If your a girl, would you approach a decent looking guy and ask him out for a dance, given that he seems like someone who isn't with anyone?
I mean, guys would commonly invite girls to dance so, what if girls did the initiative?
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4 responses
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
I wouldnt be in the event in the first place.
When there are events like that I wont go unless Im going with a friend. Also, most of the events that I go to might have some dancing but most of the attendees are my batchmates and they'd usually dance as a group. I might get dragged by a friend on the dancefloor but I try to just stand there. He usually takes my hands either spins me around or moves in a way that he'd be making me dance, something like that.
Anyway, if I was in the situation that you've stated, I probably wouldnt ask anyone to dance. Its either Id just sit and observe people, which is a great past time by the way, Id go out and walk around the vicinity, or Ill chat up with other girls(or guys) who seem to prefer sitting around than dancing as well.
When there are events like that I wont go unless Im going with a friend. Also, most of the events that I go to might have some dancing but most of the attendees are my batchmates and they'd usually dance as a group. I might get dragged by a friend on the dancefloor but I try to just stand there. He usually takes my hands either spins me around or moves in a way that he'd be making me dance, something like that.
Anyway, if I was in the situation that you've stated, I probably wouldnt ask anyone to dance. Its either Id just sit and observe people, which is a great past time by the way, Id go out and walk around the vicinity, or Ill chat up with other girls(or guys) who seem to prefer sitting around than dancing as well.@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
You'd either be willing to go for a friend or others who'd be attending are people who you do know from somewhere.. I guess that's better than going with nobody at all. If I could've only ate and ran out of the event that time..
During dances at school, I would often do that and if ever dancing, I'd be able to observe those that I was observing while being seated before, more closer. Chatting with others who aren't dancing also happened but, was difficult to start something interesting when the situation that we were in was hard to ignore.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Even during high school? You never went to one or the school didn't orchestrate one?
I'd be one among those that wanted to get out of there. They often playd slow dances most of the time which anyone could do, even those with stiff limbs that some of my female classmates have. (^_^")
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
Definitely.
Well, what's done is done and at least you get to enjoy(?) one track.^_^
School dances,..uhm,. I dont really know since Ive never been to one. But if ever Ill probably be going with my group of friends and we're not really the 'dancing type'.
Hehehe, if it was that hard to ignore then Im thinking you and the others are either really itching to get out of there or itching to be on the dancefloor.
Well, what's done is done and at least you get to enjoy(?) one track.^_^
School dances,..uhm,. I dont really know since Ive never been to one. But if ever Ill probably be going with my group of friends and we're not really the 'dancing type'.
Hehehe, if it was that hard to ignore then Im thinking you and the others are either really itching to get out of there or itching to be on the dancefloor.2 people like this
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
I experienced dancing with a DI... mainly because he is my friend... and we would always be the first ones to go to the dance floor... there is no need for him to ask me... since it is like an automatic thing for the two of us... when the music starts playing and we like it... we will just look at each other nod and go to the dance floor... those were the days...
But if i am in the situation you mentioned... i don't think i can ever ask a guy i do not know to dance with me... if he is my friend... then there is no problem... and if i am alone in the table and i see my friends already dancing... i will just go and join them... since it would be a waste of time for me to just sit while my friends are already enjoying the night...
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
Wow, so you both know how to dance.. (^_^ ) That's cool, I mean, knowing someone who really knows how to dance.. you get to enjoy the floor and not merely just be among the rest of those who watches either in amazement, envy, or anything else that others might have with them while watching others enjoy themselves (^_^")
Uhmmm, yeah, something like that of what you said as well. I mean, if the question is asked for either man or lady, if they'd ask someone to dance with them in such an event, I'd probably just ask those that I do know than to those that I don't (^_^") then again, when it comes to friends who also know how to dance, I think I can't count any of them that could [b](^0^ ) A wasted night, it would seem until someone among us initiates to change all that..
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
As a guy and alone in a dance I think it is okay to accept a girl's invitation but of course it would be good to warn her just like you did. I think it is ok to accept the dance to appear that you are not rude in that gathering.
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@semicolonp (518)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
If I really wanted to dance, I'd dance alone, actually, haha! In the case wherein the event is something a little more posh and a person dancing alone would look weird, then I'll just stick to my corner and move inconspicuously to the beat of the music (maybe less inconspicuously if it's a beat that demainds high energy).
I'm not the type of person who can randomly ask someone to dance with me. It's not my thing and I'm not good with strangers when I'm on my own. I mean, I can compliment a total stranger on a random accessory or maybe a beautiful skirt they were wearing if I was with a friend, and I can even converse with a stranger fine in those cases (in cases when I have a friend, I mean, as I consider them a safety net when I feel their presence), but alone, by myself, in a room full of strangers? I'll probably be that wallflower stuck to the wall, hoping no one notices they actually exist.
On the other hand, I really won't agree to dance with anyone either. So, really, it's more on the, "Me no like strangers" front than the "Girls can't ask guys to dance," front. I'd definitely root for a girl who has the confidence to ask a total stranger out to dance; I just happen to not have that confidence, so I won't.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
I really do that often when I get into events that have participants dancing.. just sit at a table and watch them dance along the music.. though the one I mentioned on discussion just happened and got me thinking.. I mean, some people could really pull it off without making anyone raise an eye brow on them..
A wall flower.. now where have I heard that before.. (^_^ ) indeed, even when making jokes when I was still in high school, as long as someone would back you up, no arguement would follow and everyone would have a good time laughing.. though the one being laughed at might think otherwise.. still, sometimes, doing something towards something in particular with someone makes it more reassuring, like when I was at this convention on SMX, my friend was hesitant to take pictures of cosplayers but, when I took the initiative and even told my friend to stand beside this cosplayer, everyone felt at ease.
Well, I wouldn't really ask anyone at all if I was at an event. I would be on "me not wanting to embarass myself infront of many people" front. (^_^")
