I think my home is divided and I need guidance

United States
November 7, 2006 9:36am CST
This is difficult to explain my mom lives w my husband , my twins and myself......we go to Church and enjoy and are trying to create a loving God based enviroment at home but my mom seems to be agnostic and her heart seems hard and now mine is getting hard I feel lost sometimes just when I feel I can give it all up to Him and I pray n Pray , she is like negative and she is disconnected but she insists on going to all Church activities w us for soemthing to do not for enrichment ....can you help!?
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@JoyfulOne (6241)
• United States
8 Nov 06
How kind of you to take your Mother in. I was just wondering if maybe she's depressed or anything. I don't know what circumstances led to her coming to live with you (as opposed to living on her own). Perhaps the circumstances that led to her moving in with you were traumatic to her, you know, like loss of her husband, financial difficulties, sickness or something like that. I haven't a clue how old she is, but maybe it's something that you should talk to her doctor about, possibly she's having age related changes, memory problems or something physical that is making her this way. A woman will usually open up to her doctor in a way that she might never dare with her family (for whatever reasons.) Just a thought. I do think talking with her openly, and honestly, and with a lot of patience and understanding might be a good start no matter what. I would also address, kindly, how the negativity is affecting your family and the children. (I'm assuming that she wasn't like this before, and that this is a recent change since she moved in?) I admire you for wanting to correct this problem and looking for a solution. The love you have for your Mother is showing in your caring. May God bless you and help you find the help she needs to get back on track and give you a peaceful family life again!
@sweetcakes (3505)
• United States
7 Nov 06
Almighty God, to whom our thoughts and wishes are known before we speak them: Give me guidance and wise counsel in the important decision I am about to make. Let my choices be upbuilding and wholesome. Give me peace of mind. Let me not be paralyzed by fears. Grant that my life become full of joy and contentment and let your ways guide mine. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
@MrsFrizzle (1964)
• United States
7 Nov 06
At least she is trying by going to the events with you. She will come around. If she is a good person does it matter what religion she belives?
@icequeen (2841)
• Canada
7 Nov 06
I think I would have a talk to her and tell her how you feel. You and your family are doing her a favor by letting her live with you...she should respect your life and wishes. If she can't then she should move out and get her own place. You should not let her negativity affect you and your family....perhaps you need to distance yourself from her.