Why do so called friends break your heart?

@bbydollz (114)
United States
November 5, 2008 9:36pm CST
I had a friend who was a best friend for 11 years. But she messed that all up. I had a boyfriend who I was in love with and we were arguing and she had talked to him. Well before I know it he is throwing my stuff out the door and telling me to tell her to hang out with him. She promised me she would not hang out with him let alone talk to him, well two days after I moved out she moved in and lied to me about it for almost a month, and then I found out. Well then everything hit the fan at that time of course. I was infuriated and couldn't understand and all she had to say was I am sorry we just click. I am so sorry. Well at the time I had a friend who was a guy, who just so happened to be the guy I had hooked her up with. Ok pay attention it gets crazy here. Well he started calling me and telling me how she screwed him over. Which I had already known. So I get a call from my ex and he asks how to get to her moms house and I lied to him and said I didn't know because I didn't want to be in the middle of it all. Well I got ahold of her and she had her ex over there lying to him and leading him on again, and my ex showed up over there ready to kick his butt because he was in bed with his now woman. Anyways she is still leading my friend on and my ex and she has been talking crap to my friend about me that is a guy. What the heck am I suppose to do? How am I suppose to feel? Should I continue to talk to my friend that is a guy even though he is still in contact with the girlfriend that stole my man? I am so lost here and I need some help? please
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
6 Nov 08
very much the same thing happened to me, this is where I grew up. Not only has your friend taken your boyfriend but you may not realize it but she has now instilled a mistrust within you that you will never really trust anyone 100% ever again...when this happened to me it turned a very trusting young person into someone who never really trusts anyone..it is a very sad thing...you don't need friends like that...
@echomonster (2226)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
16 Jan 09
Obviously she turned out not to be a real friend, but I have to say it sounds like your boyfriend wasn't a real boyfriend either...I think you're better off without both of them even though it must have hurt tremendously to be betrayed twice like that. I think it's OK for you to keep talking to your guy friend as long as he doesn't take your ex-friend's side, but I'd understand also if you just want a clean break from all the craziness. It seems like he'd be better off too away from your ex-friend, but just because he can't break away from this mess doesn't mean you have to stay in it. Good luck, I'm really sorry you were put through all that pain.