My sister lost her second baby
By mycharm88
@mycharm88 (2288)
Philippines
November 6, 2008 7:17am CST
Hello friends 
I'm sorry, if you have noticed (or not lol!) i haven't been active here for awhile because i have been busy lately with family, work and other activities at church.
Lately we just had a good news but turned to bad. My sister just had a baby my cute neice Arianna last June this year, we are all happy to have a new angle in the family. Later last August my sister found out that she is pregnant again, her husband who is now away (abroad) for work was delighted to hear the news hoping that it would be a boy. He really wanted to have a son. Late august she had a visit for her OB, and found out that there was no heartbeat heard on her ultrasound.The baby was two months old but the growth was only 6 weeks. Then two weeks after that the baby just went out. We are all sad about what happened, specially her husband. But we must all accept it, maybe its the right time yet for my sister to have another baby.
How about you friends, have you experienced this kind of loss?
Thanks for sharing your thought on this in advance. tc
I'm sorry, if you have noticed (or not lol!) i haven't been active here for awhile because i have been busy lately with family, work and other activities at church.
Lately we just had a good news but turned to bad. My sister just had a baby my cute neice Arianna last June this year, we are all happy to have a new angle in the family. Later last August my sister found out that she is pregnant again, her husband who is now away (abroad) for work was delighted to hear the news hoping that it would be a boy. He really wanted to have a son. Late august she had a visit for her OB, and found out that there was no heartbeat heard on her ultrasound.The baby was two months old but the growth was only 6 weeks. Then two weeks after that the baby just went out. We are all sad about what happened, specially her husband. But we must all accept it, maybe its the right time yet for my sister to have another baby.
How about you friends, have you experienced this kind of loss?
Thanks for sharing your thought on this in advance. tc8 people like this
24 responses
@MysticTomatoes (1053)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I never have experienced a miscarraige. I got pregnant rather quickly after going off the Depo shot. My sis in law did have a miscarraige once before she got pregnant with my nephew, but she wasn't that visibly upset from the outside. She may have been screaming on the inside, but if she was, she never let it out.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Same with my sister she doesn't look so upset but i know she hides her feelings. We're still praying and hope they'll be blessed with another angel (baby) on the right time.c",) Thanks for sharing that dear and God bless you and your family
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
6 Nov 08
i had a miscarriage in between our two daughters and my oldest was about 2 and a half at that point and a very busy girl.
although emotionally, it wasnt that hard on me because we already had one child, it was VERY hard on physically. i was exhausted all the time and it took me several monts before i felt remotely human again.
i had the miscarriage in january and by the summer i was pregnant again with our youngest daughter.
my advice to you is to help your sister by offering to clean her house, make some meals for her, it will really help.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
The way i see it, she's in good shape infact she still carries her little baby Arianna,but not emotionally ok. She has a house helper to do the house works and could also help in looking after Arianna. We (her sisters) would visit her every now and then... So far prayers have been very helpful and i know She'll be fine soon. Thanks dear friend c",)
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@dhedows118 (891)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
I'm so sorry to hear your sister's lost and your family.
Just hang on and everything will be alright, in GOD's will.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
We celebrated my sister's birthday yesterday and I'm glad that she's better and so are the rest of the family. Thank you so much dear c",) sorry for the delayed reply.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
She feels better now, because she have her cute Arianna and i guess she accepted it already that it's not meant to be. Maybe someday she will have another baby in God's time my friend. I'm glad for you and your family, it's really awful but we need to move on. Thanks for your kind words dear c",)
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Thanks for pinching in dear, i guess my sister is better than fews weeks back. She is trying to move on and be happy for Arianna (her first baby) c",) tc always my friend c",)
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@cookieweber (316)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
i am so sorry to hear about your sister losing her baby...i've had friends who got pregnant and lost their babies too and it's really sad...you're right about one thing though, that maybe it's not yet time for your sister to have a new baby. although sometimes it sounds unfair, but everything really happens for a reason..so hang in there and things will turn up soon.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Hello cookie, so nice of you to say that, thank you so much. Yes, it's really hard specially for my sister, but we are helping her cope with this problem and besides she have cute Ariannac",)... We are glad to see her that strong not just for herself but for the rest of us specially Arianna. Tc my friend c",)
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Sorry to hear about this.
This would be a hard decision for anyone to make after losing a child this way.
My thoughts are wioth the family in their decision and all else.
Grats on the neice as well.
I have not had this happen in my family at all.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Good day grandpa Bob c",)
I've seen your little angel (grand daughter), she is sooo cute c",)
Sad that we lost a baby, but the whole family is praying for my sister and the little angel. So far i could see that my sisteris moving on, though at first she cries at night when i stayed at their house to look after my niece. I guess prayers made it easier for her and the support of each member of the family.
Thanks for responding grandpa bob, hugs and kisses to your little one c",)
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Yes, dear i do hope so too. I guess it's not meant to be, but i know God has reasons for that. Hope she'll be blessed with another angel soon c",) Thank you so much. TC my friend
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
8 Nov 08
Hi dear
Really sorry to hear about lost of 2 month old kid of ur sisters and sure its sad moment for all, specially for parents. But i think its was too early to get pregnant again
Anywaym Loss is Loss and we are sad for ur sister and pray that next time she get healthu baby boy
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
hello dear cupid c",) i'm really sorry for my delayed reply but i am thankful for all of my friends here who cared enough to say kind words like you dear. Thanks for your prayers my sister is doing better now. Take care dear always c",)
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
7 Nov 08
Yup, i did notived your absence for sure.. lol =D U seem to be busy always, but seldom logging in to mylot.. lol =D But once u do, u will tend to post all u can.. lol =D
Oh, that's bad news and it's very sad.. I think other than her husband, the saddest will be your sister, because 1stly, she lost her own baby, and secondly, she knows that hse had disappointed her husband.. Thus, nobody is as sad as her, as she's being dealt a double blow.. Give her more encouragement and support, as she really needs it now.. And that her husband has got to be very understanding, and put his hopes aside, and place your sis as priority ^_^ THAt will do both of them good ^_^
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Indeed very busy with life dear kun c",)
Miss being here always but just can't do that for now but i'm trying to find time to see how my friends are c",) Thanks for the kind words and you are right about that. My sister suffers grief from the loss of her child. But the whole family supports aher now and offered help and prayers. I could see that she is moving on and understood what happened and accepted that it's not yet the right time for another baby. Her husband is away for work and it wasn't easy for him to receive the news but as days go by, i know he loves my sister so much and find in his heart to understand things. God bless you dear c",) miss yah!
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@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
Sad to hear about that. I hope your sister is doing well this time and if she is not, just be there to support her. Being pregnant involves a number of hormones which greatly affects ones mood. I hope she will get over it soon.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Hello dear c",) thank you so much... yes my sister is doing well this time, i guess she has finally accepted the fact that the baby is in God's hands now. We are doing our best to support her physically and emotionally. Still do need your prayers my friend. Thanks in advance c",)
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@paxmundi (80)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
First of all, let me express my deep sadness for you loss. Especially for your sister. I hope she is okay. My wife and I lost our first baby on her second month and you know, you never get over it. Every year at the 21st of June I can't help but weep a little and wonder what could have been. We have a daughter who is 9 years old now and much as we love her it doesn't make up for the loss of our first one. I wrote a poem about the pain I feel every June which expresses the loss one like me feels.
I once had an angel,
Who could've shared walks with me,
Could've hugged me without end,
Could've played on slides and swings.
I once has an angel,
Who could've help my hand in her tiny palm,
Touched my face, kissed my nose,
Looked into my eyes, and say, "I love you Dad."
I once had an angel,
Now she will never be.
All I am left to relish instead
Are tears and pain.
For it is only there that I feel
The love that should've been hers.
And remember...
That I once had an angel.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Thanks friend for sharing your wonderful poem here, though its a sad poem but it expresses your love to your little one who's no longer here.It melts my heart to read it. i do hope you'll be blessed with another baby soon.c",) god bless you.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I am so sorry for your sister! I know her heart is broken, but these things happen for a reason. If the baby came too soon after the first one, it may not have been formed properly or had something wrong. This is God's way of saying "not yet". I hope that she and her husband have another healthy baby soon. My heart and prayers go out to your sister and all of your family.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Hello friend dragon c",) I believe what you said is right and my sister is realizing that now. She's been broken but thanks to your prayers and for all those who prayed for her, she is feeling better now. You take care always dear friend c",) God bless
@liquorcs (194)
• Malaysia
7 Nov 08
I haven't experience such lost. But I do lost my grandmother last month. I've been so sad because I didn't get a chance to visit her before she go and the last time I saw her is a year before (I study abroad). I'm sorry for your lost and may your sister have a new baby in the future.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Hello liquorcs c",) i'm sorry to hear about your grandmother, condolence dear... It's sad to loose someone we love, sometimes its unbareable but we need to move on. As for my sister, she is really hoping that someday she'll be having another baby. We are praying for that... thanks my friend c",) tc
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
7 Nov 08
i am so sorry to hear about what is happening to your sister's baby... it must be very hard for her and your family as well to hear the news... i never experience this kind of loss before because i never been pregnant and still trying until now... hopefully God will give your sister and your family the strength to undergo this difficult times... take care and have a nice day...
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Thank you dear and i do hope you'll be blessed too. My sister is not loosing hope, though i know it still hurts her to loose the baby, but she is keeping the faith.I'll be praying for you too my friend. Tc always and keep the faith.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Nov 08
I am sorry to hear that. My daughter-in-law was pregnant and she found out a couple of months later, that it was a ghost baby. She had all the signs of pregnancy, but there was nothing there. They wanted another brother or sister for Katie. I do not think she has gotten over that and now they are afraid to tell us if she does get pregnant again. My condolences to your sister and hope that she will get pregnant again and this time it will be successful.
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@marlena18042 (636)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Hello mycharm88. I am very sorry to hear of your family's loss. I understand the pain you are going through,especailly what she she is going through because this has happened to me. I dont know her particular circumstances but most of the time the reason something like this happens is because there was something terribly wrong with the baby. From the sounds of it, this could be her situation.This is what my doctor told me and it helped me some.
Please be strong for her and she should definitely not let this discourage her from having another beautiful baby.
I was scared at first to get pregnant again.But, fortunatly I took the chance and belived, and nowI have another daughter.
Be strong for her.Everything happens for a reason.Thank you for sharing on this.It actually good to get these feelings "out" and talk about it.
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
That's really sad. 
I just gave birth and I feel how sad it is to lose a baby. Eventhough the baby is just 6 weeks, it is really painful to lose a life. I feel for your sister and I hope that she will not lose faith that something is up for her. Things happen for a reason and she should not be too frustated about it.
I just gave birth and I feel how sad it is to lose a baby. Eventhough the baby is just 6 weeks, it is really painful to lose a life. I feel for your sister and I hope that she will not lose faith that something is up for her. Things happen for a reason and she should not be too frustated about it.
@elektrikah (10)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
so sorry about your sister... my sister in law had a miscarriage 2 times in 2006. My brother and her married for 2 years before she gets pregnant and sad to say she lost her first baby and tried it for the 2nd time and lost it again. it was a saddest part of their life and think they will never have the chance to have a baby again. but with strong faith and prayers she got pregnant and deliver a healthy baby boy March of 2008...
Charm, tell your sister to be strong and don't lose hope... In Gods will soon she will have a baby boy soon just like my sister in law...
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
That is awful dear, i'm sorry for your sister inlaw... I guess that was really tough for both of them. But i'm happy for the blessing of their baby boy c",) Prayers does miracles my friend. we are all praying for my sister and my bro in law for another baby to come. thanks for sharing that dear c",)
@jelvehdesigns (13)
•
7 Nov 08
sorry to hear this happened, it is always sad to hear this...in the past 2 years this has happened to 2 people i know...both about 2 months in to the pregnancy...I wish I could say more, but often no one knows how it feels unless they are the one going through it...I send good thoughts & wishes to your sister and your family...
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
That is very true dear, but the whole family is there to support my sister. We love her so much and try our best to help her cope with this.Thanks for your wishes and prayers dear. tc always
