BF and GF: Who pays the bill when your on a date?

Philippines
November 6, 2008 6:57pm CST
hi! you and your bf or gf is dining in a fine restaurant, after you have eaten who initiates to pay the bill? do you have any arrangements of who to pay what? your comments please.
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6 responses
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
For me and my fiancee it's a give and take thing. Money should not be a big issue. Our money is just one and we put it on our savings account. So every time we go out we used it. But really do we go out on a date we rather save it on a rainy day. It's twice a month that we go out. So everytime we spend out she thinks how to return what we spend, so she buys some things and sell it to her friends hahaha just to returned the money that we spend. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
though money should not be an issue between couple it is just that everything thing should be cleared from the start to avoid arguments. nice move! this is a good suggestion also. thanks you for sharing.
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
for me it must be the guy or the bf. You know you'te the man, you must pay for everything that's my opinion. I don't know why but maybe because of what we called pride you must show your girl that you can handle to pay the bills. But then if your girl insist to pay for the bill then let her be. You can ask her if is it ok that you will pay for the half of the bill. If you think that you will argue with it then obey her decision.
• United States
7 Nov 08
i use to think the man should. but then i realize that this is old fasion kind of like the man thinking the woman should be the main care giver for the children .now ithink you both should take turns.
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
14 Nov 08
In my case we both pay for it as we are a couple and we like to share this kind of stuff. At times one of us may only pay as a surprise to the other one, but those are just occasions and in general we both contribute as neither is very rich so we prefer cooperating in this mater.
• Malaysia
7 Nov 08
For me, the "turn to pay" reflects what kind of undertanding and cooperating that the loving couple has developed between them. Based from my past experience, I'm the one who pay for the meal everytime I went out with my girlfriend and for the sake of the love, I really don't care about it. However, for the loving couple, especially for the new one they should be careful in dealing with this. Eventhough they are rich and can afford to pay everytime they're having a meal together, they must always observe their partner's action. Sometimes, it's better to let the partner takes the turn to pay. It's to show the fairness and to detect whether their partner is "razor" type of person or not. I've heard several story where men/women being cheated by their partner, who only wants to steal and used their wealthness. After get their satisfaction, they will leave you suffering alone. Just be careful and get to know your partner very well.
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
i agree with this. everyone should be cautious especially during the first few dates. filipino culture is the man usually pays the bill most of the time but i dont agree with this. it should be agreed upon who will pay this date and on the next date. besides relationship is a mutual decision.
• China
7 Nov 08
My bf always initiates to pay the bill. But i also pay sometimes. The feeling that pay for beloved is great.
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
I agree it is also same as giving gift to someone so dear!
@lenmay (6)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
For me and my bf, sometimes he pays the bill and sometimes I do. It's because we both have a give and take relationship. What's mine is his and what's his is mine. We share with each other everything that we have because obviously we love each other so much and we really trust each other.. And when it comes to money, we combine it to one. Like for example, in a savings account, it doesn't matter if most of the money in our account was deposited by me or by him. We love each other, that's why it also doesn't matter when there are times that one of us can't do the spending or paying of bills just because that one of us was short of money at that particular time. Money should not be that much of an issue in a relationship. Whenever i had financial problems he would help me, and I would also do the same thing for him too. =)