Waking a person up

@SomeCowgirl (32255)
United States
November 8, 2008 12:02am CST
When you wake someone up, do you get offended if they snap at you? I know that I can sometimes be hard to wake up, in that I will snap at you if I am resting and you disturb me. I don't do this all the time, and that's probably because I tend to be the first person to wake up. Although, my fiance sleeps in. When I do need to wake him up, sometimes I go about it in a manner that just gets him cranky. We are both impatient people though, so even if I get upset or angry at first, I apologize for waking him up like I did, and then we just forget about it.
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36 responses
• United States
8 Nov 08
It depends on the situation. The kids don't really snap they are just cranky & tired and need a few mintues to wake up. Though the hubby when he works night shift he's a cranky crabby guy and give you grief especially if you wake him before his alarm goes off or on his day off. But ya know I get mad because I'm a stay at home mom and I want a lil help and a break from the kids. I don't have anyone else to really rely on beyond dh to handle the kids when I've just had enough & need a break but I don't need to get chewed out for it.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I am sure that being a stay at home mom is tough. I want to be a stay at home mom if possible when my fiance and I get married and have children. I sympathize with your husband though as i know that working a night shift (as I practically did so) and then being expected to wake up after only a few hours of sleep can be tough. I know that when I was a little kid I never really snapped but was cranky because wel, I didn't want to go to school. I don't know if your children are of that age, but if they are that's probably atleast partially the reason why they are cranky. I know it seemed that I just went to sleep and was already getting woke up. I hope that you can balance a time for yourself as well as that is important. I appreciate the response.
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• United States
8 Nov 08
It is hard for us when he's on night shift. I know he's very tired and needs his rest but man on his days off to sleep from the time he gets home til almost 6pm (10hrs) the day is gone I have next to no time with him as it is but he sleeps what seems like all day and if I wake him he's all cranky. Despite the fact he can sleep whenever he wants when he's off.... I however do not have that luxury kids never nap @ the same time.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Well maybe you can work with him on trying to either stay up after coming home to spend a few hours with your or to wake up a little earlier. I think that maybe the best and easiest one is the former, where he stays up after getting off work. I know scheduling time to see each other can be hard, it was when I was working and my fiance wasn't, we hardly got to see each other and when we did it was all I could do to stay awake! Happy Holiday Season!
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
8 Nov 08
Hi SomeCowgirl. I struggle with waking my son up every morning. He has the disorder of ADHD and it affect him waking up. Having hard time to sleep in the evenings make it hard for him to wake up. So Every morning I have to find a god way of waking him up. I start six a clock every morning and during this time I have tried everything like shouting, picking, tickle and it take him about thirty minutes to actually step out from the bed. I have use half of my energy in the morning, I actually need at work. Since my son know how it is, we really do not argue about it. He steps up and do his stuff, and then the next morning we do the same again. ( by the way he is 17) We have tryed to sort this out. But the conclusion is he will always need someone to wake him up, even when hi will live by him self.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Having a attention disorder I am sure makes it hard for some people to wake up. I hope that you can find a way to awaken him in the mornings or that he will get used to an alarm clock that is loud and will wake him up. Maybe if he could set his alarm and then hit snooze when it goes off, and then when it goes off again you come in to awaken him. I am not sure, I hope that my idea helps though. I can understand that especially in the morning when you are just awakening that it is easy to loose energy fast. I hope that this way helps you keep a little bit of energy to last you through the morning at work! I appreciate the response, Have a wonderful day!
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
8 Nov 08
thank you for the tip. BUT, we have tryed that already. He simple do not hear the alarm clock, or nor the phone. I have had help from the staf of habilitation where we getting a lot of help from in every thing he has to learn. This disorder is also extended with having autism. So we have to work a lot, for a lot of things, in order to keep him working properly in the society. However, I feel he will be in need for help even as a grown man. I think he has to have a personal assistant in the future. I have almost given up, since I can not seems to find a god way to make him wake up on his own. I am glad though he do not make a lot of noice about this, since he knows that if I do not wake him, he will wake up and be late every day.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
8 Nov 08
It is good that your son has learned that he has to be awoken in the manner in which you do so that he is on time to all his tasks that day. I am glad you are getting help from others in teaching your son how to fit into society. I went to school with a boy with autism, I knew a friend online who had autism, and also my fiance's mother babysits a precious little girl with autism as well. Good luck in your future and the future of your son. If I can be of any help in researching for you I would be glad to assist. Have a Wonderful Evening.
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@abyin007 (426)
• India
8 Nov 08
i havnt got slap from my friends but i gave nice slap to my friends... but i am a very hard sleeper. so my friend will pour water over me to wake me up.. but t\during my exam times i wont fo anything to them
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I think that you have misunderstood me. In the discussion I wrote "snap" not "slap" it's an honest mistake. In this context I meant as in being awoken and using harsh words. I am glad that you have not gotten slapped but I am sorry that you have given someone a slap before. I can understand that during exams you would not want to act out in any way as you would not intentionally want to go to sleep during the exam. I appreciate the response. Please feel free to correct me if I have misunderstood you.
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
8 Nov 08
Hi there Cowgirl. The thing is that this is a psychological fact that if someone is woken from his sleep (during a sleep cycle) they will become angry or disorientated as the mind was doing something else on that moment - that is why it is better to wake up on your own in the morning when your mind decides to, not when others feel like it. Personally i am not very happy when someone wakes me up and i may become grumpy if they don't have a good reason to do so.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I know that there are a few people who do not get grumpy from being awoken but I would have to say that that is mostly our mothers who are quite used to it as they have been awakened may times when they were raising their children. I appreciate the response.
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@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
8 Nov 08
What you need to keep in mind is well the person was asleep lol... sometimes someone wakes me up and i get up i know i gave some trouble before i got up but what im clueless... Sometimes i would have snapped or said something like "go away are you blind im sleeping" =P or even push the person away like im on something... i've never recalled doing that... i do recall when i tell a person ok im up and i have no intention of getting up lol... Also depends how much sleep the person got that night, i get up just fine when i have a good night's sleep... it is the nights where i keep waking up, or just could not sleep since my mind would be racing with a million things... All these things and perhaps other reasons as well could contribute to a person bing a "grumpy" person when you try to wake them up... Hope that helped ;)
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I know that my fiance's sleeping habits is different then mine in that we could go to sleep at the same time, and yet he would wake up two hours after I did. I appreciate the response though and know that sometimes grumpiness is merely caused by a lack of adequate sleep.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I think everyone wakes up differently and it also depends on how they are awakened, in a deep sleep or dream state about to wake up, etc. When my sister and I were teenagers and in school, my mother actually paid me $1.00 a day to wake my sister up! Man, was she a deep sleeper!!! And dangerous, too! The only way I could wake her up was by getting a washcloth wet with really cold water and throwing it on her face. Then, I'd make a beeline out her door because it never failed... the washcloth would come flying after me! Oh, she screamed! She hated me! But, it woke her up faster than any alarm clock could! I'm hardly ever cranky when I am awakened like that. I'm more disoriented than angry. Whaaa...? Huh...? I'm typically a very light sleeper so it's really easy to wake me up. My husband is funny. He sleeps like a log! When he asks me to wake him up, I have to try several times, getting a bit louder each time. He wakes up pleasantly enough but usually goes right back to sleep and doesn't remember waking up. When he sets his alarm, it wakes ME up, then I have to wake him up to turn the darned thing off!
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I think that the cold water on the face, well atleast for me, Would make me gasp and I don't think I'd be screaming like your sister did. Then again, if she got used to it that might be why, she knew it was coming, and maybe had even thought about it before she woke up. How loud is your alarm clock? Ours is really loud, I think louder then any i've heard before. It's obnoxious too, but like your husband, my fiance can sleep through it. I can't sleep through it, but usually I'll wake up, turn it off and get nice and cozy and back to sleep I go! I appreciate the response!
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
9 Nov 08
My husband uses the alarm on his cell phone. It's not too loud but certainly loud enough to wake me up! He's lucky I'm a light sleeper! I'm not, though. All I want to do is sleep! I get such horrible sleep as it is and hate waking up before I would naturally. But, when his wakes me up, I make SURE he's awake, darn it! Then, I go back to sleep.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I don't blame you for waking him up and making sure he's awake, especially after an alarm clock goes off. I'm a sort of light sleeper, I don't think I am too much of a light sleeper anymore, but I used to be.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
9 Nov 08
When waking someone up you have the opportunity to influence their whole day, I try to always be very aware of this and very gentle when waking someone. think how much power this gives you. You can make their whole day WOW
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
That is true, you can make or break their day. It's odd how the way someone wakes up can change the way they act. I appreciate the response.
@whyaskq (7531)
• Singapore
9 Nov 08
I would definitely be offended if the person snaps at me especially when I am saving him from being late. I would not bother to wake the person up unless "reminded". However, if it is accidental, too bad. It was accidental and not intentional. LOL.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I am a bit confused because you put "reminded" in quotations, and I'm not sure what you meant by that. In any case, I appreciate the response.
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
Whenever my sisters snaps at me, I'd tease her more and wake her up by shouting at her or shaking her bed really really mad. Sometimes i feel guilty waking her up that way coz i think it will make her have a bad day; but i could not help it because she really is hard to wake up.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I understand what you mean about feeling guilty for waking your sister up in a rude manner. I know that I feel bad for doing so to my fiance, but I also know that we need to get up and that is why I wake him up. I appreciate the response.
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
I'd understand them when they snap at me although I haven't experienced it.I snap at people sometimes when they wake me up.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I'm glad you haven't experienced it, but am also glad that you would understand if you did get snapped at. I know I snap at people sometimes but I try not to.. after all, the only reason their waking me up is because I need to wake up. I appreciate the response.
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
9 Nov 08
if someone wakes me up, i am like 'what or huh?' and usually go back to sleep unless i really need to get up for some reason.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Oh well at least your kind and not snappish at people! I appreciate the response!
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@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
9 Nov 08
Usually I wake up on my own. It seems that I have an internal clock inside me and I wake up roughly at around six o clock in the morning. When I oversleep its my wife who wakes me up with her screaming. Usually I am too stoned to protest. © ronaldinu 2008
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I am really good at waking up because of my internal alarm clock as well, but there's the odd time when I didn't get enough sleep. Usually though If I know I have to be somewhere and I am excited about it, I wake up several times during the night and look at the clock, before I know it's time to get out of bed. Now, sometimes I'm not excited in a good way, sometimes it's just anxiousness to get to work and get out of work. Wow, screaming? I don't think I'd like being woke up like that. I appreciate the response.
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@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
9 Nov 08
When I have to wake someone up, and they get a bit snappy, I usually find it funny. The way they yell incoherently, and flail their arms around just looks and sounds so fuuny, I can hardly help but laugh. Now, once in a great while, I will get irriatated with the person, espescially when they have asked me to wake up, and they are being difficult.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I guess it just depends on the mood they are in when being woke up. I don't think I've known anyone to flail their arms like that, but then again I haven't woken to many people up. I am sure it was funny to watch though, but if later that same person gets a bit grumpy then yea, I would be irritated as well. I appreciate the response, Have a great day!
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@annjilena (5620)
• United States
9 Nov 08
i have a friend like that if you wake him up he will be mad so i never wake him up even if the house on fire he is so rude when you do.also my som is very mean when you awaken him up being very smart mouth so i don,t even talk to him in the mornings period he have nothing nice to say to anyone.if iam awaken iam fine i just don,t want the phone disrupting me, when iam asleep it scares me.so i turn down the volume to rest and leave my cellphone on for emergencies.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
My fiance isn't always mad, I suppose it just depends on what mood I'm in when I wake him up. If I'm impatient, then he gets moody because I tend to wake him up by shaking him. We usually won't talk for a few minutes after he wakes up though he does fall back asleep if I wake him up like that usually. I appreciate the response, Have a wonderful day!
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@iamfine (740)
• China
9 Nov 08
It is good to have someone to wake you up. I still remember when I was a child, and have to get up early in order not be late to school, my mother would wake me up gently. Now I am alone and working in another city far away from home, I miss the way my mother wake me up.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I wake myself up actually, unless we (meaning my fiance and I or anyone in the household) needs to be somewhere, together. Then I might be woke up, but that's usually because it's a last minute trip somewhere. I appreciate the response!
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@sameroad (3180)
• United States
9 Nov 08
No I don't get offended... i usually laugh at them lol i know its not fun to be woken up and if they are snapping it probably means they really haven't gotten enough sleep lol but i'm easy to get up.. although its not smart to talk to me in the morning... like don't even say hi to me. lol i just really don't like talking or being talked to when i first wake up... and i will snap at you lol but my mom knows i don't mean it and she is always having to tell my dad that lol so if i have to wake up someone and they snap at me.. it doesn't bother me at all because i know how it is and i snap at people so it would be stupid for me to get offended over it.... seeing as i do the same thing
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Yep it would be stupid to get offended because everyone gets snappy in the mornings, alteast sometimes! I really appreciate the response, have a great day!
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@takezero (48)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Usually I am not offended if some people snap at me when I try to wake him/her up, because it seems natural to me for anyone to get a little annoyed when being waken up from a sweet dream. Actually, for such reason I do not try to wake up people much. But on the other hand, if someone snaps at me when I wake him/her up on their own behalf, such as when he/her is going to be later for work, I will feel really offended.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I can understand feeling offended if they are going to be late for something important. I appreciate the response, and I hope that you have a wonderful day!
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@liquorcs (194)
• Malaysia
9 Nov 08
Sometimes I get offended if things like that happens. But I learn a way to wake somebody's up in the right way. That is to tap or move their feet. I have try it and it wakes people up easily and they didn't get mad. Maybe you should try it out. Experience makes us better.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I can see where that would wake them up and they not get mad, as shaking their shoulders usually angers them. I do greatly appreciate the tip, and you are right experience does make us better! I hope you have a wonderful day!
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@Rotter22 (11)
• United States
8 Nov 08
its hard to wake up early to go to school, I remember when I wake 5:30am to get the bus, then trip to other city to study. in the beginning, it was hard, but after 5, 6 months it was OK. but its hard do wake up people on bad mood, or the ones that don't have a good sleep night.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
For the most part I never had to be woke up to go to school. When it came to elementary school, yes, but other then that it was an occasional time that I needed to be woke up, but then that's usually only when I felt like I was catching cold. I appreciate the response.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I do not get annoyed, I guess the only time I would get annoyed is if I am not feeling well, and my husband will wake me up to answer the phone, when he could really tell the caller that I will call back. When my husband is taking a nap I do not wake him up because of a phone call. I will tell the caller that he will call them back when he gets up. On the norm, neither my husband nor myself usually wake up cranky. If I call my husband's name while he is sleep and he doesn't answer, I will go away and come back a little later. He disturbs me more than I disturb him
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I can understand getting annoyed if you are woke up to take a phone call, unless it's an emergency or something like that. I'm glad that neither of you wake up cranky, my fiance and I don't normally but we do have the occasional moments when we do. I honestly think it's just that we're both impatient. I appreciate the response.
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