what 's the relationship like beteew you and your parents?

China
November 8, 2008 2:59am CST
i heart that the relationship bewteen child and parents is more like friendship in western social.is'it real?in china,esp.in my family,this relationship more like an emperor and a subordinate.what about you?
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@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
its very difficult to describe my relationship between my parents. coz i have two different people that keeps on pulling me in two different side. and when they unite on one decision, sometimes they jst blast. like a negative and positive energy and me.... im the casualty. my dad makes most of the decision, my mom does the same thing but she cosults my dad first before doing anything so it pretty the same... my dad is still the dominant one. my mom listens and opens her mind but she never like fighting instead she follows as long as she could. but my dad never think of somebody else's opinion but only to his own judgements and beliefs. and me... im the rebelious child but successful. i never like going home no matter how tired i am. i just dont have a home, i feel like i have no place on my own to enjoy. thats why i am now here at australia away from my family.
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
hello, indeed... i know children have this thinking that they know almost everything they have to know without considering what their parents had been. BUT does parents consider that sometimes their children has to know reality on their own and choose to be themeselves rather to be someone their parents wants them to be. happiness is hard to find when you cannot make your OWN HAPPINESS. ive known one family that i envy so much... i have friends i do envy because they have this family i wish i have. but ofcourse, their are families i know that are worse than mine. i might be fortunate on some cases but i never consider my self one when it comes to this. AND... when parents blame their children of being someone they did not expect to be, why dont parents think how they raised the child? how was their relationship to their own child? why dont they blame themselves of being someone over powerful? some parents deprive their children to explore on their own in which makes US thirsty of FREEDOM we never had when we are on one corner.
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
Migen, Sorry to hear that from you. Not all of us have those kind of childhood experience which some fortunate people are. In reality, it is always the kind of life we want to look forward which matters to most of us. Maybe, have fun and enjoy your life away from your family. But do not forget that you will always have some opportunities in the future as well as they will also have opportunities to tell you how they love you and you love them. The thing about being rebellious is that sometimes we children could not understand our parents the same as parents are also in some crisis. Perhaps, we better know that when we have our own children and make our own family. Anyway, have some pleasant day ahead!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
8 Nov 08
In the United States it seems that more and more children are not being as friendly to their parents as they well should. I know that in some parts of the world family live together for a long time, including living with two different immediate families. That is to say that a daughter and son in law stay living with the daughter's parents so as to help with expenses and to lower the cost of things. I am not sure why Americans wish to move away from parents but I know I did at one time, and now am happy that I live with my fiance's parents. I love my mother very much and she is always a very sweet person. As for roles, I would have to say that she raised me well in that I know that she is my mother and I must not disobey her, even if I am not living with her in her home. I enjoyed responding to this discussion, I hope you have a wonderful evening.
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
It is also like that here in the Philippines and I think some Filipino communities are also like that their in the US. I was also amazed that greeks are also like that. I have been watching My Big Greek Fat Wedding and it is so hilarious and very funny. Aside from that, the family values are there. I guess Americans tend to be very liberal and cold with their kids at the coming of time. Here in the Philippines, we despise that kind of behavior. I guess shows like Seventh Heaven should be more prevalent than shows like Desperate Housewives.
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
im a filipina and grown to philippines, im now at australia alone coz i dont want to stay close with them... it does not mean i dont love them neither i dont miss them but im just not that happy... i dont know how to explain but i never had this kind of feeling of freedom before.. maybe thats the reason why almost all the children wants to be away. i cant remember i had a happy childhood, we had this family outings but i feel like i missed one big part of my childhood. i cant think of any happiest moment that lasts on my memory from the day i had my ability to remember until now.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
Well I am very close to them. But it's rather feel good when you talk to them like their your bestfriend. It's very easy to open up what you feel and whats in you. It's being you no gap at all. I usually ask their opinion well cause they know what's best for me of course. When I laugh they laugh with me.When I am down they reach me and help me to stand up again. Have a nice day!
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I know different people from different countries and cultures have different relationships with their parents some have more of a friendship,and some have a relationship where it is more like a dictatorship and the kids are more like slaves to the emperor,and I know that it is just the way things are in some countries and when it comes to the relationship between me and my parents we have always been close,when I was a kid I used to talk to my mother about everything and she was the one who took care of me,because my father used to drive an eighteen wheeler to try and make money for our family,so he was hardly ever home,and when he first quit he used to be very cranky all the time,and he would snap at me for asking him questions so I grew up scared of him,but he chilled out after a while and his anger went away and that is why even now that I am an adult I do not ask him stuff,I get my mother to ask him,but me and him are closer than we used to be and I do try and talk to him more because I know he loves me,and he is my father,and he knows I love him,even though he still has times where he gets cranky,but that is just his nature,and I know that is one of the traits I got from him,just like I have his temper and so does my half brother.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
8 Nov 08
In western society relationship between parents and children like friends.The western parents try to understand the prblems of their children and the childrens overcome their problems with the help of their parents.I met some western people and saw their behaviour with their children.In china and other oriental countries relationship between the parents and children is almost the same as you described. These must be changed .The relationship between parents and children should be easy. In our region(Indian sub continent)it is changing.
@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
8 Nov 08
In Philippines we have a close family ties. Everyone help each other. We don't send our old family member in elderly homes.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
8 Nov 08
My relationship with my parents is non existant which is fine with me...Being a mom myself now though, my relationship with my kids is awesome..Yes I am their friend but I'm also the boss..We have a great balance between the two and it works out wonderfully for us
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
In the Philippines, it is like that in the West. Since the philippines is basically more liberal and westernized, we usually have the same tendencies than our western counterparts. I live in a home where I can freely criticize my parents. Also, we treat our parents like we are Pals, like going out every now and then. It is also happening with some Chinese families here in the Philippines. They tend to be more liberal and giving away with that tendency which has been prevalent in China mainland.