When should you dissolve a friendship?
November 8, 2008 5:13am CST
There is a man I work with and have been friends with for 16 years. At times he is a good friend but then there are times when he is explosive and will become angry over nothing. He is also constantly on the look for some reason to be mad at someone. I do not want to seem like a "fair weather" friend however the tension that you feel when you are around him affects me. My question to you all is this, should I ease away from this friendship and let it go? Is the problem with me sensing the tension around him?
8 Nov 08
dissolving friendship is really sad for your situation, if you think its not worth to stay in your friendship then i guess its about time to end it. have you tried to talk to him to know why he is like that? maybe he has a reason why he is like that. try to talk to him first, if you can save your friendship then why not give it a right?! then if not ...let go of it.
8 Nov 08
Don't let the friendship disappears. I believe that it is normal to experience problems with a friend. it's a way to strengthen your friendship. I think you should confront him and tell what you think is wrong about him. it will make him realize how caring you are as a friend and will definitely tighten your relationship with him. 16 years is more that enough to test a friend.
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8 Nov 08
I think when a friendship gets to the point where one or both parties are constantly affected in a negative manner, there are definite changes that need to be made. Now, because you guys have been friends for so long, I wouldn't recommend dissolving the friendship before having a serious heart to heart about what's bothering you. Give the person a chance to realize the he's causing you to feel uneasy around him so that he can do something about it. However, if the problem persists and he makes no valiant effort to change, then it's probably time to call it quits. You only get one life to live and it is an extremely short one. You can't spend what little time you have in an unpleasant environment.