Will you believe that married person may fall inlove again??

@cecelgay (563)
Philippines
November 9, 2008 7:34am CST
Will you beleive that married man or woman may fall inlove again but not to their persent partner but to other person? I have known somebody who've been in that situation, i told him it wasn't right to feel it on other person but he simply say's Is it wrong to fall inlove again? Knowing that he's still married i am wondering is that situation really comes to any married man or woman? It is a big puzzle to me why is it happening or is it jaz a test to thier relationship how strong and how long they can survive on this kind trials...
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
I am still single, but I believe that your question, Will you believe that married person may fall inlove again??...really happens. Many married couples gets separated, divorced and annulled because of finding love to other man or woman. It is well taken that your opinion is one of the reasons. Other reason perhaps is destiny. It is really very puzzling and I cannot answer it right now. I will wait when I will get marry and experience the same.....lol
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
I dont believe in destiny, we make our own destiny, our destiny is a result of what we are doing at present. Maybe most of us are vulnerable when it comes to love.
@jmp_72 (246)
• Seychelles
10 Nov 08
Yes i will say that married men/women can fall in love again. Of course it is totally not right for a person who is still married and still in the relationship to have affairs. If the love in the marriage is no longer alive, then do it the right way, end the relationship and start over. Cause it is completely unfair on the other half. Food for thougth though: - Was love really there when the two got married, if yes what has happened that it is now no longer???? - Is it really love that the man/woman is feeling for the third party? I have known people who felt that they no longer love their spouse and felt they are in love with someone else. They separate and start something with the other person they think they are in love with, only then to realise that their real love was for their previous partner. Sometimes they can work things out and get back together but sometimes the other person may have already moved on and had fallen in love again.
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
That would be the hardest part in that situation, after giving up your previous partner and be on the person whom you think you're inlove suddenly will realize that the one you really want to be with is your partner but he/she already moved on now, if i would be in that situation i will feel pitty to my self and i will regret all. That's why in making such decision isn't easy, it should be think not only twice but as many as possible coz if you're already there, there's no turning back, what ever the consequencies of what have you've been decided you need to stand on it.
@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
9 Nov 08
Yeah, I believe some people will. Perhaps the love towards his wife/her husband has faded. Married couples may not really love each other very much, or so much that they can love each other until they die. Perhaps the love between them is not strong enough to last for that long, or perhaps one of them or both of them has changed...
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
]Maybe one of the reason is when the love to spouse fade but i have known somebody who has still a good relationship with spouse but he said he's inlove with somebody.. I wonder how it happen. Love is powerful which if it comes on a awrong time and wrong person it will surely mess up lives involve. Before i know that i really happen to some people but now i jaz cant believe that it is happening to most of the people where i was now, they said it is because they are far from their love one and they found new love and care to other person available and ready to love and care for them. With this situation questions pop up in my mind, is really love makes people happy or love destroy someones life and trust?
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
10 Nov 08
Yes I know some couple who have fallen out of love for each other and instead love someone else. I think these things come after the kids have entered the marriage. The parents concentrate soo much on the growing kids and looking for finances to sustain the growing until they forget about naurishing their love life. Now you get them falling in love with either colleagues who treat them well or even the gardener who is always there for support when hubby is bussy in the office. You find that once the kids are all grown and out of the house other couples fall in love all over again. Like my parents in-law are in love with each other now more than ever.
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
I admire your inlaws, How i wish me and my husband will be like that until we go old. They are alos like my parents and i admire them also.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Yes i believe that you can still fall in love with somebody else out of your marriage especially if you were married for the wrong reasons and that the love that you feel for your spouse is not that strong. Temptations are every where and its up to one's self if they will be carried away by it. If the foundation of your relationship is weak then its not impossible for the other person to look for comfort from somebody else...
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
hm... i should agree with you.. when the foudation of marriage is weak for sure it will destroy, that's why it is advisable to married to couple to keep on nourising their love even if there are kids already, haviong kids doesn't mean each should be cold to each other or take for granted its partner, somewhat this are the reasons why marriage fall.
• China
10 Nov 08
I don't think a married man may fall love with another.For me ,it is very difficult.My heart is in my wife.I can't imange i may love with other girl.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
10 Nov 08
It can be. but I think there are many reasons behind it as well. in case of social view point its nit right. But there are somethings in life that can be controlled.
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Yes it will definetly happen if you allow yourself to fall inlove with other man/woman other than your spouse. If what is lacking to your marriage you will look it to others instead of trying to work it out.
@mokbul (616)
• Singapore
10 Nov 08
Ya Cecelgay, it is not uncommon that people falling in love after marriage. I have seen instances that people falling in love long after marriage even 10 or 15 years, when they have already children. Mind is very strange and very difficult to understand.
@stiener (735)
• Singapore
10 Nov 08
I believe some will...especially when they have lost the feel they once had with their spouse
@benallos (88)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Yeah I believe that a married man and women may fall in love again. We are only man and women in flesh that is vulnerable to temptation. But this kind of falling in love to other person is not the same love that you have experience to your partner. But this situation is a test to how strong is your relationship to your partner.
@vicoy818 (12)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
People tend to seek love and affection from their mates because its the way humans react towards the opposite gender. As long as a person is satisfied with what he or gets from her/her mate, perhaps it will not happen. The question there is... are you really getting enough?... that is where the trouble begins.
• China
10 Nov 08
yeah, i will but i won't do that.
• India
10 Nov 08
it depends on the relationship between the husband and the wife.if the relationship is not cohesive the the probility of getting involved in love once agian with and outsider is very much there.i think there is nothingour wrong in it.the most precious thing of a man or a women is life.its the most precious thing in the owrld.if you are not happy u have every right to find your happiness elsewhere.
• India
10 Nov 08
Yes,chance is there.Love can happen at any stages in the life and it happens mostly if the present marriage life is not so success.
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Things really happen like that to married couple sometimes. There are lot of reasons if your partner fell in love to someone else. In order to work your marriage life, no matter how long or how many years you both married, the spice of relationship should be in tact. If you two knows how to take care each other for the rest of your life, there will be no such problem like that. Sometimes, they fell to other person because they are seeking something that they could not find to their partner anymore.
10 Nov 08
Hi. Yes, I believe it. I can't explain it well. I don't know why it happened, either. Sometimes you know it wasn't right to do anything, but you did it. And besides, feeling is a subtle thing. It's human's nature to like the new and loathe the old.
@babyorchid (1737)
• China
10 Nov 08
Through i am still a student , never married before. But i think many would fall in love with others again. there are many reasons, especially, they felt tired of their wives or hundbands. Been a couple means you two have to live for a long time. if they don't get along with each other, problems coming... best wishes
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
hi, cecelgay. yes, i believe that is possible. if you let it happen. you see, i also believe that a person only falls in love if he wants to. as a married person, or one who is committed to another, one has the responsibility of staying away from temptation--in order to avoid the mess of falling in love while committed. hey, that's just my opinion. i am married and i live by that belief. good luck to me. LOL! take care and have a nice day, cecelgay! have a nice day!
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
10 Nov 08
It may happen to some people. Love is vey mysterious and one can't control that feelings. The thing is people have to face the consequences of their decisions. Whatever they decide, they should be ready for any consequences.