She does not listen but asked adviced?
By manunulat
@manunulat (604)
Philippines
November 9, 2008 7:13pm CST
My friend has been having an affair with a married man with three kids. I never affirmed of the relationship, instead, I laid the consequences of that relationship to my friend because I felt it is a moral obligation to do so. Right now, she has stopped communication with me because I was being true to my beliefs and that making delays by her on ending the relationship is causing her to create more excuses... She has a mind of her own but I think I have done enough for her through my pieces of advice. She even thinks of a false hope that the guy will eventually divorce his wife and that they will finally settle, the more complicated thing is, my friend is also cohabiting with her boyfriend. I just want to find out from you mylotters if what you have to say about my actions?
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@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
I guess you did what is supposed to be your mortal obligations. for people madly in love with their partners everything is wrong and they are all right in the choices they made. Well maybe if your religious only prayer for her to realize that she made the wrong choice could really make her realize it. I just hope that you would be there when that day comes and would accept her in case that day would happen.
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@manunulat (604)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
That's so nice to hear. I posted this because I want to take hold of that certainty that I've decided to not ever make any point of affirmation to my friend's decision. I have exhausted enough degree of taking sides to my friend's welfare, pointing a need to re-assess her current relationship and the detriments of having that affair but now that she decides to pave the other way. I pray to the great Lord that He will show her what she deserves.
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@cathya (704)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
i've been this situation, and i received the same reaction from my friend.
i guess you did it right, you just did what you suppose to do and indeed it is your moral obligation
i just hope your friend will soon realize that you are certainly right when you give your advice just what happened to my friend, though i wasn't able to save her from her affair with the married man but at least she came back and thanked me for all my advice though all of those advice hurt her too much, i told her thats how much i love you, to the extent of getting hurt just for you to know how i feel about you life.
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@Aniqua (38)
• United States
10 Nov 08
well i dont understand my someone will cheat on the married one....
anyway if they feel that they should be together and the married man wants to be with your friend instead than they must enjoy being with each other at all time and not just having the best s3x life. they must not have the same feeling for anyone else. Did they feel that way to their spouse the same way before they came upon each other or is this just the right thing for them??
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