Do you ever prepare a Honey Do list for your spouse?

I guess I tend to prepare the list for my partner. Whenever we eat a meal together, she usually asks me what needs to be done and then she makes a mental list and tries to do what she can if she doesn't have other things to do. I have actually written a list at least once of things that needed finished. It wasn't my intention to make it a list for her to accomplish but she took it that way and ended up doing most of what was on the list in one afternoon.

I do prepare a list for my husband from time to time but it is usually just a smal shopping list. I usually have a list for the both of us to attend to. Sometimes things get done and sometimes something comes up and they don't get done. It sounds like your situation is one where if you don't do it yourself then it won't get done. Sounds pretty frustrating to say the least. Take care.