How do you get used to being constantly put down in a relationship?
By swatilohani
@swatilohani (745)
India
November 11, 2008 12:00am CST
My friend on the edge after six years of a marriage that drained her emotionally. On one hand she has to balance the usual tantrums of the in-laws, on the other she tries to accostom herself being put down by ego hassles. The fight eruptions are getting murkier in front of the kids. Her job enables her to contribute to the running of the household as well but is equally stressful on her health. All on her mind is to keep her family intact. Kindly suggest the possible ways.
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@lrglara (1334)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Everything has its limit. if it becomes hazardous to your friend, let her talk to her husband about what stresses her out. I dont want to say anything bad, but if it doesn't work, try to let her take a vacation from her family. nosy in-laws who always put you down can really drain your energy. trying to please them, trying to be part of the family. in the end, they still look at you as someone who stole their precious from them. I just think that your friend will get a point where she can say something she might regret. Try to let her have a break before its too late. :)
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@swatilohani (745)
• India
11 Nov 08
You so rightly pointed out the fruitlessness of her sincere efforts to put the noisy in-laws on even keel. I myself never really gave a thought to the problem that their basic insecurity stems from stealing their precios son. My friend's mother- in- law is a widow as well. So she naturally garners all the sympathy votes from her hubby and brother- in- law, who despite understanding her predicament are forced to take side with their mother when a volatile issue arises.
