Should emotional or abused women seek therapy for healing?

United States
November 7, 2006 1:19pm CST
Do you really think it helps people deal with the fact that they've been abused. I have a mother who has been and out of abusive relationships for many years. I keep telling her to seek therapy to deal with this issue so she doesn't keep repeating the same pattern but she refuses because she feels it won't help her problem..what do you think.
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• Canada
7 Nov 06
I think you should continue to encourage your mother to get help, with the understanding that she won't until she is ready. I was a battered wife many years ago and so glad that I got out of hit and got help to deal with. We tend to think that we deserve it, or it's our fault, if we just did things better, were better people, the beating would stop. The truth is that it really has nothing to do with us, it's the other person's issue. The only thing we can do is get out and get help to understand that we deserve better. Therapy helped build my self esteem so that I know I will never let anyone abuse me again! good luck.
@suzieque (2336)
• Canada
7 Nov 06
I'm glad that therapy helped you and you are out of that abusive relationship. And I agree with you, that she should seek therapy.
@KrauseHome (36748)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I am a Survivor of Domestic Violence, and I have been thru many yrs. of intense counseling to be able to get where I am at today. I used to Hate Men. Thru counseling, I have a wonderful husband I Love very much now. People cannot get help until theu are ready to help themselves. There is nothing we can do to change them or this situation either.
@chelle350 (136)
• United States
7 Nov 06
Absolutely. It gives her an unbiased person to tell her feelings to. If she's being abused by a boyfriend or husband or whatever most likely she doesnt talk about her feelings. She doesnt want her friends or anything to know hwat a stupid girl she was. With a therapist she can say whatever she wants and feel whatever she wants without consequence.