'Love means you never have to say you're sorry'
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
November 13, 2008 11:43pm CST
What does it mean anyway? It seems to me that the more in love you are the more intense your love and emotions are, the more you may need to say you're sorry. And what's so bad about saying you're sorry? But the best part of fighting is that it's so much fun to make up. 
The ideal marriage is not some antiseptic alliance in which people understand and emphathize so perfectly and become so identical to each other that they never disagree, never get angry, never have to apologize. A conflict free, apology free marriages would be as boring as endless, perfect sunny weather with never a wind or raindrop or a storm. I wouldn't say I am tied down to a perfect alliance, I have experienced something as worse as the war torn countries but the bomb of fury did not shatter the foundation of love. It survived and still able to maintain a platonic relationship that may or may not end like Barbara cartland's imaginative ending of a love story.
The ideal marriage is not some antiseptic alliance in which people understand and emphathize so perfectly and become so identical to each other that they never disagree, never get angry, never have to apologize. A conflict free, apology free marriages would be as boring as endless, perfect sunny weather with never a wind or raindrop or a storm. I wouldn't say I am tied down to a perfect alliance, I have experienced something as worse as the war torn countries but the bomb of fury did not shatter the foundation of love. It survived and still able to maintain a platonic relationship that may or may not end like Barbara cartland's imaginative ending of a love story.2 people like this
7 responses
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I agree with you. I think that that saying is a load of crap. If you really care about someone, you would be sorry for causing them even the slightest discomfort. I say sorry to people I care about a lot and I almost never really say sorry to people I dont care about.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 08
I buy your arguments that a conflict free and apology fee marriage may turn out to be boring. We all are human being and we err every now and then. If I commit any mistake or disorder, I immediately admit it and unhesitantly go for an apology. If my better half commit any mistake, I try not to make an issue out of it, I know afterall she carry out lots of house-hold and outside tasks and mistakes are bound to occur. What is required is a good level of understanding between both the partners and to carry along with each other's plus and minus points.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 08
You portray an ideal husband. Very understanding to your other half. I wish all men are like you so there won't be many divorces. Thats right we need a strong essence of understanding to stay married and without it love cannot sustain longer and the foundation of the union will crumble to pieces. So never let the sun set on a disagreement.
@Jleivang (374)
• India
14 Nov 08
I am still trying to figure out what exactly are you conveying through your discussion. Whatever it might be, you have chosen an interesting subject. For me, there is nothing like a perfect alliance or love. There is nothing perfect in this world. I've been hurt the most by the person i love the most in this world. For me, Perfect is more about accepting each other and staying committed and faithful inspite of many storms in our lives. Its definitely not giving up in the middle of the way due to problems. And if a sorry can help sustain a relationship,i would not have stopped saying it even today. At times, Sorry loses its meaning too. So, its all about forgiveness and staying committed no matter how difficult it gets. There will always be a better tomorrow. N now, I'm also trying to figure out what exactly have I written in response to your discussion. I hope You won't have to rack your brains,hehehe:-)
you have responded perfectly. Saying sorry can sometimes overshoot the real meaning and saying it too often render it less effective and is not an insurance for a problem free relationship and it can't undo what has happened.
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
i guess what i think about this is not literally that you should not say sorry...i'm guessing it means even if you haven't said the word sorry your already forgiven, that's how it seems to me..yes we always have to say sorry and when we say it we should mean it...then again it could mean truly love means forgiveness
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@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I remember that line from the movie love story ! What a sad ending . I suppose when you love someone they know you are sorry just by seeing you hurting ! I dont get the line tho . A sorry and a hug sometimes is the only thing to help , and yet sometimes a sorry is not enough.
