when its too much and when its enough

Philippines
November 14, 2008 1:47am CST
it had been almost 6 months that my ex and i were together it was ok at first but then he suddenly just acted strange you know he is the type of guy now you see him then you don't its like he is there then he asks for time and then comes back wanting you back and suddenly he just didnt anymore thanks to his bestfriend the book was closed we broke up and ended things almost 3 months ago. we became good friends afterwards after a common friend needed us to be at a sisters wake we saw each other at that time i met someone and he was dating someone new, he and i talked he and i became good friends he gave me a ride home and we went out for coffee and i was helping him look for a place for his business. til my dating status didnt run smooth. it was almost 3 wks ago when i laughed at him and told him that he was like a kid and at that point when he and i have confessed we have not kissed anyone since we broke up since we last kissed each other 4 months exactly that conversation was like we told each other we miss the old days. he couldnt tell me yes or no if asked him if i feel the same thing in the past, he said he missed me and what he have but he could not tell me what he feels. its been exactly that long as well i havent gone out with any guys cause in my heart i know i still feel the same, he was sweet enought to be there to call me, to go to my fashionshow rehearsals to early to bring me breakfast and to even call saying i can do it be the best that i can be. he and i planned something 2 wks ago to go out tomorrow Nov 15 we have this open relationship he can date and so can i but i just dont any other guys, he is just the type who just cant live with one women and i was and still is here waiting in vain. 2 nights ago he was on ym i popped in his messenger he told me he is not home gtg but he is there, yesterday he popped up saying ok catch you later today he would not even aswer me even at once. and then there you go i have this feeling since yesterday i was all excited going out with him again but then i come to think maybe he hasnt changed at all how many did i dress up and then he would forget total loser huh, well i dont know and now i just feel like sometimes when its too much call it quits and its enough..
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@BubblyIan (750)
14 Nov 08
Have you told him this? Why not show him what you have written here and try and discuss your feelings with him? It sounds like you have different views on your relationship and you need to both me open and happy about what is happening, otherwise one or both of you may feel it is not fair. Why not be open about your dislike of him having other women? What have you got to lose? It sounds like you are cosnidering ending the relaitonship anyway, but are worried about being alone - that is not the best reason for staying in a relationship. Best of luck and let us know how you get on
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• Philippines
14 Nov 08
how would you feel if your me you would always dress up then he wounld cancel it he would not txt oee even call, he doesnt know how to say sorry and all the more you see him with other girls and would leave u hanging.
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15 Nov 08
It does not sound like you are being treated fairly. it may be that if you cannot work this out between you that you should end your relationship with him. It doe not sound like he is committed to making it work.
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