Why does he just laugh at me?

United States
November 14, 2008 9:55pm CST
I am a single mother to a wonderful little guy that is going to be 2 in March. Lately, he has been horrible. I don't know what it is with him. I know I heard about the terrible Twos but I thought I still a couple months to enjoy the wonderful ones. He doesn't listen to a word I say. Every time I tell him no he sits there and laughs at me, or runs around the house laughing thinking I am playing with him. I just don't know what to do anymore. He has become a handful. I just hate how he don't listen to a word I say. I will sit him on the step and stand there to make sure he don't get up when he does something wrong and he will just sit there and laugh at me. I just wonder sometimes what he thinks is so funny. Does anyone else have this problem? Please don't tell me its going to get worse when he hits two.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
15 Nov 08
You are being tried, that is how they learn about life. One thing that worked for me was trying to not say no so much, instead I gave him an alternative behavior. Instead of "no, don't grab the glass on the table" I'd say, "come sit here by mommy, that glass could hurt you if it breaks". It just seems that something about the word no makes children want to do it more. Also, when I had to remove my son from a situation until he could settle done and then stand over him while he sat on a step, like you say...... I would use my body language to let him know I was taking care of the situation and he was not in control. By that I mean, I would turn away from him, at least my shoulders and upper body and make him think his laughter or whatever was not getting my attention. In other words, I was there close enough that he knew he wasn't going anywhere, but I did not give him any attention until he was calm. I would turn to him and interact with him and the second he started acting up again, I'd turn again and we continued to wait. They really do figure out the deal on their own. It takes very little words.
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• United States
15 Nov 08
Ill try the turning your back away. Usually I stand right beside the step because he always seems to get up and start playing with the light switches and then I have to sit him back down on the step and try to get him to stay there which never seems to work. Hopefully it will work for me as well.
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@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Well, what you have is a child testing you. You have to stand you ground and punish him no matter how cute he is! You have to step up and let him know you're in control. Tell him you won't buy him ice cream, or that he can't watch Sesame Street if he doesn't behave. He has to learn early in life that you have to be good to earn what you want. I'm sure there are plenty of things that you can take away.
• United States
15 Nov 08
I will definitely try to stand my ground. I will try taking stuff away from him and hopefully he gives in and listens to me. Thanks.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
15 Nov 08
I had the same thing with my second who turns two next week. It took him quite a while to realize I meant business when I gave him the 'naughty corner'. Like you, I would stand with him. But I made sure I wouldn't smile when he tried to laugh at me. Soon, he got the message that it wasn't something good he did when I punished him. Since I had it very easy with my first, it did take quite an effort from me to be consistent with my second and continue doing the same thing a couple of times for him to get the message. But it worked...and I'll tell you...it gets better (not worse) if you are consistent. I can now enjoy my son's antics and enjoy being with him...while earlier I thought I would go crazy trying to figure out how to get him to listen and understand. All the best!
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• Isle Of Man
15 Nov 08
don't be stressed because your child could sense that... relax...i have 2y/o boy myself so i know its easier said than done, but you need to have the discipline too because babies copy their moms... if my baby is being naughty (w/c is most often than not) i try to ignore him as long as it is not life threatening... if he's done something really bad i'd tell him that i love him but i don't like what he has done, and that it's not nice... i'll make him stand in the naughty corner for 2 mins then tell him again why he needed to stand there... don't shout, use only your "as a matter of fact voice". lastly i make him say sorry for what he's done, kiss him and tell him please don't do it again... then a big hug... he needs to know that you love him but what he has done was wrong and that you are not happy.
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I hope not. But I am afraid he will be more terrible than that. Anyway, i suggest you need to be firm with him. he should know the differences between you playing with him and him being reprimanded. I watched Super Nanny last night and this was the nanny's suggestions: have a naughty corner. Put him there when he gets naughty. If he runs, put him back there again. Be firm and be consistent, eventually he will know he did something wrong. if he stays there, talk to him in a low voice. Tell him why he was sent to the naughty corner. made him apologize. he needs to realize he was wrong. Hope this helps.
• United States
16 Nov 08
just letting him know you are not palying with him is a big difference. He needs to know you are the one in authority.
• United States
15 Nov 08
Thanks, I have started this today. So far not going the greatest but I am sticking to it and letting him know I am being serious with him.
15 Nov 08
You are a lucky person!!! I wish i had a little boy or girl, laughing and running in my house!!!!
• United States
16 Nov 08
Thanks, I am sorry that you don't. Maybe one day you will.
• India
15 Nov 08
u really got to be funny to take genstures of a 2 year kid that seriuosly ;)
@yuna15 (2706)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
For a toddler sadly, everything is a game and is every single time is playtime for them. This is what you call the growing up phase. That is the only reason why the child laughs. They won't understand you completely so you have to tell them over and over again and you shouldn't get tired of doing so. Until they realize why they can't do this or that. Believe it or not a toddler sometimes has to get hurt sometimes for them to realize the danger of something and I don't mean spanking them. For example sometimes children can get so fascinated with a candle but we know they can get burned with it right. As soon as they touch the fire and get burned then that's the best lesson they can learn from...by making mistakes.
• India
15 Nov 08
It's natural thing but your feeling is new. You can feel a new relation in his laughing. Is is not? Thats why you cleaning his toilet. Its a type of attachment or you can say type of feeling, that made god to love each other.Whether a mother to son, boy to girl and so many lovable relation. just carry on and enjoy yourself.
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
don't worry about that your two year old kid, he don't know what his doing to you, all he knows is just plying and playing.....
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
I am not a parent but from what i understand that children from 0 to 2 years do this a lot. Since the child is starting to mature and grow, so does his abilities. the little guy is observing things around him and his environment. Just picture your child as an "inquiring scientist" who conducts experiments on the world to see what happens (What does it feel like to suck on the teddy-bear's ears; What happens if i push my bowl of cereals off the edge of the table?; what happens when i laugh at mommy?) as a result of these experiments, your little guy, produce theories of how the world operates (when i run away, my mommy follows me, therefore, i should run more so she would follow me more) sounds familiar? Do you see what I am saying? It is just normal for him to be like that. you are just experiencing the growth of your baby. And also, do not feel bad if it seems that he does not listen to a word you say because at this age (you said he is LESS THAN 2 YEARS OLD, right?), he still does not understand the words that you are saying. It is because children learn to use LANGUAGE at the age of 2 years to 7 years old (this is primarily the preoperational stage according to Jean Piaget, which includes language usage and object representation by images and words). Take care.
• United States
15 Nov 08
Oh the joy of terrible twos haha! I have a 2 year old myself. She does the same thing. I spank her and put her in her bed for time out until she is ready to listen to me again. This is the age when the child is testing their limits with you, and they are learning how to get away with things. At this age it is important to hold you ground and be strict. I do not spank my daughter hard by any means, honestly she cannot even feel it through her diaper or pull ups, but it makes her realize that mommy means what she is saying. Trust me it truly does get worse! I know you do not want to hear it, but you have to be stern and strict. I know it is extremely hard, and you will feel mean and horrible inside...but to be honest, it is the only way to make your child listen to you, and teach him that he has to listen to his mother.