How do you feel about old age homes??

i like old age homes.It's wonderful thing that my classmets canceled tour and gone to one old age home and give money and spend one day with them.It;s a great thing just before 1 month. But putting parents there by the son is too bad thing.I don't like that.

First of all i want to be with my friends if possible for the rest of our lives but i know it is not possible so i would not even dare or think about putting my parents in a home like that. Of course some home for the aged are really comfortable and they are well taken cared of i still do not think i could put my parents there. I would rather sacrifice so i could take care of them and care for them till when God would separate us and luckily i am in a country where such homes are not that popular and here in the Philippines strong family ties are really observed even though at times it is hard especially regarding finances, people will still live through it and able to survive. I do not want other people taking care of my parents, i want to do it myself.

With fast moving life it is becoming a necessity that old parents are being left alone in old age homes. There was no conception of old age home may be only 50 years before also. Then used to big joint family where the old parents used to live together with their son, daughter and grand children. But the things has changed and will change more. Due to the fast life style most of the parents are neglected and forced to stay in old age where, some paid workers or volunteers look after them instead of their own blood relation. I don't think that many don't like their old parents are to be left in old age home but they don't have any other option because of demands of their working life.

Hi frnds, I like the old age homes.I will feel very happy in my that old age homes. I want to help them in every moment of life.I have a dream that i want to open a old homes or charity trust in the future.I will always help to old age persons in the old age homes.

I do not like the thought of my parents going into one of these old people homes either. My mother brought me up and cared for me well and I would certainly do everything in my power to look after her when she is old. The only way I would allow my parents to go into one of them is if I was too sick myself to look after them, but today carers can go to their homes and give you a hand without having to resort to old people homes.

Where I live, things don't happen that way. I'm not saying people love the elderly in an extreme manner, but they don't put them away like unwanted pieces of furniture. There are some countries where there is an entire tradition about respecting the old people, they are considered the most experienced and asked about any serious issue. Anyhow, what happens in your country seems repulsive to me. I couldn't do that to my parents, even though they are divorced and I can truly say that I only love my mother. My father never did anything for me, and I still don't feel like he deserves to be disposed of, in that manner. I think people who can do that to their parents need a better education. It's all about education, when it comes to respecting the lives that helped YOU improve yours.

i cant even imagine how people can do that. thank God my country is clean of old houses and generally, people here respect their parents a lot. as far as i think, it is totally unfair to move your parents to a place like an old house, no matter how moody they become at old age. they brought us up, spent sleepless nights while we were infants and tolerated our immaturity while we grew up, told us the right and wrong etc etc etc. so it is an act of utmost selfishness and pride from such people who can't even tolerate an old person's habits but instead kick them out of the house. in my religion, it is said that it would be a shame for such a person who had the opportunity to serve his old parents during his life, but failed to earn heaven. so parents are said to be the key to heaven.

I have just one oldie...my mother who had for a time became so sickly and actually bedridden. I rally was so glad I have one sister who stay's with her in the house who took care of him so patiently during those times while I supported financially and also did care for her during the weekends, otherwise, I perhaps had been forced to take a leave from my work to take care of her. I don't like the idea of bringing my mother to the Home for the Aged. As long as I am alive, I will never allow that to happen to my Mother. I found it too unkind for a Mother who labored day and night to raise her children. Now that she is old, I believe it is now our turn to do as what she patiently did to us when we were infants till we grow old enough to stand on our own. I'm glad all my siblings love my mother same way as I do. We will do our best to show her she is not a forsaken oldie but rather a well-loved and appreciated Mom all her life.

Hi Loxion, I agree with you that the ideal situation is to take care of our parents, and have them with us always. However there are times when it's not possible - when they are unwell and need nursing care, which most of us are not capable of providing. I think in this case, it's best to have them in nursing homes (not old age homes), with good medical care.

some old homes is really beautiful and we must take measure to protect it ,,but in recent year,,many have been break down,i feel angly ,how can people done this , i am i like sight this old homes ,but i have no chance to do it .what a pity i hope that i can do this,,

It is a shame if we have to leave our old parents in old age homes. If we can't look after our parents in their old age, we do not deserve teh life we are leading. it is their hard work and blessings which has brought us to the level where we are able to stand on our own feet. If we forget them and neglect them in old age, it is really shameful. The right place for old parents is with their children. old age homes shoud only be for destitute parents who have no children to care for them.

hi! Here in the Philippines, putting the elderly in the homes is not very common. Although there are some who do that, especially the rich one. But most of the Filipinos have close family ties, so as much as possible, they do not want their old parents to live far away from them. They will just somebody to take care of the old ones at home. take care

During highschool days, we had the chance to visit a home for the aged. I've noticed that those elderly people are very in need of attention. They like to be visited by younger people especially their relatives. I just feel sad because some of them don't get any visitors. I think they should be taken care of by their loved ones and be shown that they still have value. They should not feel worthless. They took alot of care of us. Now, it's time for us to give that care back.

You are right.Things are same all over the world.(Globalization made everyone think alike).I can't think about such a cruelty.Our parents gave us so much care.They faced many difficulties in making us stand straight.And then when we stand straight and are capable of doing things on our own, we abanden them!This is what we call civilization?This is what we reffered to as the features of a modern society? As we all know, man is the most week animal when he is born.He can't move himself,He can't communicate,he can't find his food himself.He can't do anything.He is weaker than any animal born in the face of earth.And his parents made him a human who can walk,talk and do things himself.And time came when his parents are old and they can't do these things themselves.Now, he abanden them!Isn't it cruelty?Even beasts can't do this.

Well I can't say that I hate homes for the aged, but I don't want to be put in one myself when I'm 80+!!! I understand how some families can no longer care for their parents or older relatives in a sense that they might not have the time or the medical background that the older person demands. Which is a perfectly legitimate reason to leave him or her in the care of professionals. But at the same time, I think there are alternatives to simply abandoning older family members. I know a family who rotates their grandmother every month. She lives in one house one month and goes to another family the next. That way, she doesn't get bored living by herself all the time, plus, her children take turns caring for her too.

I agree with you. In my country elders are respected by their children. Therefore you will find very few old age homes. However the few homes which are there are in an apalling condition and when you see the old people who are abandoned by their children then it is impossible not to cry. Most of the old people who live in these homes come from very poor families who can`t afford to look after them in their old age. It is a pitiable sight to see the look of these old people who are longing for some love and sympathy from somebody as their own children never come to see them or if they do maybe once in three or four years. And when they die they don`t turn up and leave it to the home authorities to cremate or bury them. 99% of the people look after their old parents and it is hardly 1% who send their parents to old age homes. It is not in our culture to abandon our parents but to take care of them and give them love and respect and to take care of all their needs in the twilight days of their lives and i am proud to say that i belong to this country which is none other than India.