Getting Married

I completely totally agree with you. I have been with my partner for 12 years. We don't live in the same house and are not married. We both work in different areas. I have three children which we both financially look after. We see each other often but I have my house and his has his. I love my own space and time. I can raise the children they way I want to. Also I feel he is a great active father because he doesn't see them all the time, he doesn't take it for granted the time he does have with them. When he sees them it is their time together. When we see each other it is our time together and we focus just on us. We are very much in love and don't take each other for granted. We figure that once the kids are grown and we are old we might get married if just for the check mark that we did it, but it isn't something we need or are interested in right now. When you look at the amount of people getting divorced today you have to think that something is just not working in marriages today. Many people are unhappily married or bitterly divorced. Like Gene Simmons, I have been happily unmarried for 12 years and that is all that matters. If marriage is something that makes a person happy then that is something they should do, but I don't think it is mandatory at all.

Marriage is not a compulsion but is not connected with space and happiness. There are families in todays world who decide for their kids marriage and they get married and some do live happily. Happiness is a state of mind. One can be happy with meeting two ends meet and there are people who might have everything and still not be happy.Space is another issue . We all need space , even if we are not married and living with parents. We need space when with friends. We all need our quiet and personal moments. In a marriage if the couple is matured and uderstanding , they would be happy give each other space as they would understand the need for it.All i would say Marriage, Space and Happiness are all different from each other. Marriage being a persons stage in life and Space and Happiness being the state of ones mind.