Is persistence viewed by women as a turn on or annoying trait in men ?

@ronnyb (6117)
Jamaica
November 16, 2008 12:24pm CST
Do women view persistence as a turn on and are they likely to give in eventually or get more annoyed .When is persistence viewed as indication of sincerity on the part of the man and when is it downright annoying .Some men believe that if a woman says no today ,tomorrow or the day after she may say yes and so they persevere,calling her ten times for the day ,waiting by her workplace to see her ,sending roses and poetry inspite of the numerous "no's" they get. I have a particular interest in this answer because personally I am easily embarassed and the first two or three "no's" do it for me ,I give up.However I have noticed some of my more persistent friends reaping rich rewards even in instances that I would call annoying .I was reading or listening to a radio program (dont remember which now) that claims some women give in to men on sheer frustration with persistent men ,that is, they finally give in in the hope that the men will leave them alone when they get what they want ,is this true ?.I hope not but I dont know for sure . Women your input is urgently needed to clear up these notions.
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• United States
16 Nov 08
persistance is f-ing annoying, what dont you get about no i do not want you touching my body. Ive been in a happy relationship for a while but i never say i have a boyfriend when boys persist, because that should never be a factor, like single or not, get over it. When 5 minutes has passed and theyre still going i say omg, i have a bf, and still, so? so...that means im only sleeping with one person right now...one. unless your persisting on a wh0re, and in that case persistance doesnt exist, they say yes after one time.
@rmuxagirl (7559)
• United States
16 Nov 08
I agree that it is totally annoying, and I'm like you I don't say outright if I have a boyfriend when asked. But if a guy keeps asking after that, then I will mention my boyfriend. I have had a guy keep asking me out even after he knew I had a boyfriend. It got so annoying I began to avoid him.
• Canada
17 Nov 08
I think that a little bit of persistance is a form of flattery. If someone keeps persisting then you know that they really like you. But im not talking about 10 times daily persistance, thats kind of creepy. But I would definately take it as a compliment unless I flat out said "NO...leave me alone" and they kept on calling. Thats going overboard with it. And I think that a lot of times men appreciate the relationship more because they had to work so hard to get it, maybe they will think twice before messing it up because the woman was hesitant to start it in the first place. And besides, sometimes the chase is better than the catch. Just my 2 cents.
@rmuxagirl (7559)
• United States
16 Nov 08
"calling her ten times for the day,waiting by her workplace to see her,sending roses and poetry inspite of the numerous "no's" they get." What I reposted is called stalking. by no means should a guy or girl call someone ten times a day even if you were dating. For me if a guy keeps calling or coming to see me then yea it does get annoying. But if he waits a while then asks me out again and I say no then we remain friends til he asks again later it might be kind of cute.