Do You Forgive Easily?

@mjmlagat (3171)
Philippines
November 17, 2008 3:39am CST
Nobody's perfect--this might be an adage or might be an excuse for a wrong doing but no matter how one interprets it, this line has been worn out! People had been using it to merit forgiveness not only once, twice or even over and over again. But you know, I really forgive easily..sometimes I hate myself for doing such but later at the end, the feeling of lightheartedness overcomes all the negative feelings of regrets! Do you forgive easily or you have conditions when giving forgiveness? Thanks for sharing!
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72 responses
@keir3000 (296)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
Yes, I'm the kind of person who will forgive easily.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Good luck and thanks for the response!
@keir3000 (296)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
You're welcome and take care always.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I'm one of those ppl who doesnt feel the need to forgive all the time..there are somethings that IMO are just unforgiveable and even more so when the one who's done me wrong has no remorse for their actions....There are of course those who I do forgive when its a smaller thing and they feel bad about it ya know....Basically whether or not I forgive depends on a few factors..Forgiving CAN be easy for me....but I never ever forget.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
..sometimes it's just so painful to forget!...but surely we can forgive. Thanks for the time ravenladyj!
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Its not so much the painful..I've been long since over the pain of my past...the reason I can't forget it is because it had such a devastating life altering impact on every aspect of my life and my person....As for forgiving..somethings just arent forgiveable ya know..
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
It depends on how sencere he/she do it. If he/she acknowledge that he/she make mistake and never do it again, then i will forgive him/her easily but if he/she make many excuses and i dont feel his/her sencerity, i dont think i will forgive him/her that easy, he/she must do something to get back my trust and confedence to him/her.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
well, at least you'll give him due credit for his effort to redeem himself. Thanks for the response.
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
hi mjmlagat i normally do not forgive people that easily especially people that has got no relation with me ... i will cut off any contact with that person But relatives, i do do not forgive them but i have learned to pretend like nothing is wrong ... but i keep my hatret in my heart ... the pain they have caused me will never heal cheers
• China
17 Nov 08
Yup,it is hard for us to forget the pain that they have caused us,but,I think the time maybe do it!
@daceyp (327)
17 Nov 08
for me it depends on what the person has done.most things i can foegive mainly to keep the peace if its in the family.but then being in the family doeant always help.like the situation between me and my cousin she did something about 5 years ago now and we fell out big time,she has tried to sort things out with me but i just dont want to know the sort of person she is
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Thanks for the response! Have a nice day!
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I don't held grudges to anyone whom I had a fight or a misunderstanding with. This is the reason why I forgive easily. We're similar because sometimes I don't like myself with this attitude of mine. Well,it may have bad effects but it's still a great feeling if you don't have negative feelings for someone. HAppy mylotting!!
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Yes, it's indeed a wonderful feeling to be forgiving and don't feel negative about it-- you're blessed with such a positive attitude. Thnaks for the response.
@pzygtt (193)
• China
17 Nov 08
Well,for the most part,I forgive pretty easily.It really depends on the situation,but for some reason it is hard for me to hold a grudge.Now if I am burned constantly by the same person,then I hold a grudge for a while.Most of the time,I forgive pretty easily.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Thanks for the time!
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I am a person who easily forgives. I know that each one of us hurt someone whether we do it on purpose or we are not aware of it. In my case, there are many people who hurt me and the problem is, I easily forgive them. Sometimes, I only keep it to myself without telling the person and as time goes by it will suddenly heal and forget that he/she did it. I am not sure if this trait of mine would give me an advantage or not. Sometimes we are not aware that we are taking advantage of. Well like you do, I also hate myself sometimes, but if I don't forgive them, I am the one who got hurt more especially if the one who hurt me is someone I love.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Thanks for sharing!
• United States
17 Nov 08
unfortunately yes. another character flaw i mean to correct, lol. :P
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
thanks for the response!
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
Depend on the issue and also the person who beg for my forgiveness
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Thanks!
@23uday (2998)
• India
17 Nov 08
Hi frnds, When my frnds do mistakes,wrong things i will forgive them bcoz they are my frnds that i can give a forgiveness.Sometimes they will do wrong things,mistakes i just forgive easily to them.Iam always think in a positive mind and ina positive way.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Thnaks for the response!
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
It depends on how the scenario has affected me. If I'm affected that much. I forget things but forgiving is a hard thing. Though there are times that I forgive them as well. I don't recover easily. I'm quite sensitive on that matter. Happy posting.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
You, too! Thanks for the response!
@money1 (107)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I don't forgive easily and that is one thing i would like to change about myself but i don't want to be to forgiving neither because then people will consider you weak minded and run over you.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
..you have to decide though...Thanks for the response. Have a nice day!
@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
yup,nobody's perfect and i forgive those who have done me wrong.but as to the time,i think that depends on the kind of wrongdoing that person has done me.i guess i let time pass so that both of us will realize the extent of our doings.but of course,because of that issue,trust becomes affected in the process.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Thanks for the response, happy posting!
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
It depends on the gravity of the wrong done. I believe that once you can never forget a wrong done to you, you have not really forgiven.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Well, that's an interesting point! Thanks!
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
Actually, it depends on the situation and on the person. But most of the time, I easily forgive. And not just forgive, I also learn to forget. For some, it is easy to forgive but they don't forget especially when trust is of the matter. I think being fooled by someone whom you fully trust will take a while to forgive and more time to forget.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Yes, I agree with you...Thanks for the response have a great day ahead!
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
No Im not.. No matter how petty your mistakes is I dont easily say "Your Forgiven" Much more on things that not so petty but considered as major mistakes. I value trust and once its broken it would be hard to put the pieces back together. There are no condition you will know that I was hurt for your wrong doings when you suddenly appeared invisible in my life, with our friends. The hardest of is when I really cant forgive myself. Like you said nobody's perfect, so commit mistakes to. Its either I would too proud to admit it or too hard on myself for committing it. Its not a crime. But when someone is hurt its also feels like one.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Thanks for sharing..Have a great day ahead!
@annierose (18960)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I can say that somehow there are times that I forgive easily and sometimes so hard for me to forgive. It is so hard sometimes especially if the person had made a very deep wound on you like betraying your trust or saying bad things about you which is not true.I know it is not good not to forgive but what I am doing is am trying to forgive but cannot forget easily. That is why I am just praying to God that may He give me the power to not just forgive but also to forget.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Don't give up, He will hear your prayers! Thanks for the response.
@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
17 Nov 08
Hello! For any sort of dispute with others I just forgive and forget.If I don't forgive and forget it will hunt my mind always and I can't even sleep peacefully.This way the tension will go on mounting and I will be ultimately losing my health.So it is best to forgive and forget the issue.thanx.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
..for health reasons it's better that way.. it's not easy to forget though.
@PRIYANK1992 (1678)
• India
17 Nov 08
Yeah I forgive easily.My motto is to forgive and Forget.I am not like stone,I am like Candle..
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
Thanks for sharing! Happy posting!