Which one is strong? LOVE before marriage or LOVE after marriage?

India
November 18, 2008 7:38pm CST
I believe that if one have a strong mind and faith in him self can love his/her life partner till the end of their breath. Marriage is just and event which would give you licence to love your partner infront of others. You may have different opinion on this, obviously, it can be depend upon your country and culture. As far as my country, India is concerned we usually have only one life partner and that is what Indian culture says. We usually may not have boy friend or girl friend, with them one intend to get married again after his/her first marriage. But nowadays that is happening in my country. Before marriage people usually hide their negative side from their parners, they can ,because your partner is not always with you. But after marriage you cannot hide anything from your partner because he/she always with you, so that you can even get to know the smell of your partner's breath. So if you do not hide anything from your partner, you can give them heart full of love even after the marriage and can lead a wonderful and lovable life. Thank you
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10 responses
@icegermany (2524)
• India
19 Nov 08
whenever the love happens it is before or after no matter and what matters is the persons who are in love and how sincere they are towards their love. there are many people who just game with their partners and lie to them and this way they cheat or flirt and this is not a true love. love is the one which keeps from deep of our hearts and stays for lifetime and it grows day by day and never reduce. there are very few people who are in love before the wedding and we can find a very few being loyal to their partners, but we find the people who get married and are in love with eachother and most of them are loyal to eachother and hence i would go with majority as we can find people in love for their lifetime after wedding and there are very few who are together for lifetime before wedding. and this is not a relation which can be made with everyone and this is only made with one.
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@subha12 (18452)
• India
19 Nov 08
i am also from india. it is widely believed in India that every person should have one marriage in lifetime. But now these ideas are also getting deviated somehow. I have also seen in some cases it is the case there are many love marriages. love in any form is strong when its true love
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• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I believe, it has to be both. Love must be strong enough to lead partners into marriage and it should be as strong after the marriage to make the marriage last. In arranged marriages (I don't know how soon the arranged marriages are planned), I think it would be wise to expose the would-be couple to each other early in their lives so that it wouldn't be too difficult for them to enter into a marriage once they reach the right age.
• India
20 Nov 08
marraige and love marriage is two equal as a student i know that who lives each other with mutual understanding thats ara gain their life in future with peacefully
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Here in the Philippines the culture is different. We have the freedom who we want to be with and who we want to marry. In some relationships love comes before marriage and I believe that is the more usual case here. Before you enter into a relationship you must fell in love first then courtship comes or vice versa. Then people get marry because of further love or just because they want to settle down. Other reasons include having a child, influences by parents and friends, personal choice and procreation. But in my own opinion I would not choose any of the two: love after marriage or love before marriage because what I want is an evcrlasting love. I think we can't determine the strength of a relationship by simply finding out what came first, if love or marriage. I also don't believe that relationships that are long enough are stronger than those that are shorter. What I believe is that the strongest relationship is being able to love your partner before and after marriage. That's what happened to me and my husband, the love we had is not constant but it goes stronger and stronger everyday. Marriage is sacred but the sanctity should not be determined by papers alone but you two should work together to have a successful married life. Love should always be the reason no matter what.
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@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I think love before marriage is stronger. It serves as the couples foundation for a happy and fulfilling marriage. That love will grow more once you are already married. Spend quality time and make good memories with your loved one. Spread love.
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Either way...Love can only be strong if both parties love each other so much. They have total respect of each other's feelings and they communicate a lot. When they're angry, they talk and patch things up. They look after one another.
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@anjanabs (127)
• India
19 Nov 08
i think it depends on the persons who are in love.most of the men are expressing their love before marriage.but in case of woman, she always expressing her love,care,affection etc.she always like to share everything with her partner.
@23uday (2998)
• India
19 Nov 08
Hi frnds, In my opinion is love after marriage is very strong and better relationship between them.The marriages are made in heaven.Marriage will done in front of all the peoples they get a married couples. I think always love after marriage is better and good relation will be their between them.
@ellie26 (4133)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 08
Of course love before marriage is stronger. After all, like you say, all the negatives behavior are hidden and thus lovers tend to overlook. But if the couple can accept their negative attitude, then the love will be strong but not stronger after marriage.
@shekher (272)
• India
19 Nov 08
hi in my view love after marriage is strong bcoz there is a bond to live together and in our country they seem to be adjust according to our partner. and in love before marriage one can deviate according to their circumstances and timebeing.so i feel love after marriage is best option