Do you remember their birth day?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
November 19, 2008 6:28am CST
When your child celebrates a birthday, do you remember the day of their birth? Do you think about everything that happened that day? Do you tell them the story of their birth?
Normally I don't think of their birth day on their birthday. Sometimes I think about how fast time has gone, or I can't believe how old they are, or I can't believe I'm old enough to have a child that age (that mostly hits me with the oldest).
Well, in honor of my twins birthday, I'd like to share their birth story with you... for those who haven't heard it before. Don't worry I've spared most of the gross details. You can either read it if you're interested, or skip right past it and respond to my questions. Here goes...
Six years ago on this day, I had not slept the night before. I was 38 weeks pregnant with twins. I was large and uncomfortable, and I was no longer able to use the bathroom because of how big I was. By 5am I was up for the day. I was having contractions every 5 minutes or so, but they were so mild I hardly noticed them. I had a doctors appointment that morning, and when I arrived I began crying because of how little sleep I'd gotten. I begged the doctor to induce labor, I couldn't take it anymore. He said he could not until I hit 40 weeks, but as he did an internal exam, he manually dilated my cervix a couple of centimeters. He told me I could get ready to go to the hospital. The contractions did not worsen, actually I couldn't feel them at all while I showered and waited for my babysitter for my oldest son, who was 5 at the time.
When I arrived at the hospital the doctor there told me I was not in labor, and that I was going to be sent home. I began crying again, I was hysterical. My husband spoke to the doc, begging him to keep me overnight and give me sleep medicine. The doctor said he'd come back in an hour to discuss things. When he returned, I'd dilated 2 more centimeters, so I was officially in labor. He gave me medicine to speed it up. This was 4:00pm. At 7pm the doctor broke my water, and at 10 minutes to 9 they wheeled me into the operating room to deliver my twins. I did not have surgery, I was only in the OR just in case something went wrong, and it almost did.
The first twin born was my son, he had no problems at all. He weighed 6'12. The moment he was born the doctor told me to prepare for the 2nd birth immediatly. I refused, the last thing I wanted to do was deliver another child after that. The doctor insisted, so eventually I gave in. She was born exactly 10 minutes after her brother, but she came out silent and purple and still. I was terrified. I didn't even notice what was going on with my own body, I was paying too much attention to what they were doing to my daughter. She was on the other side of the room in her little incubator.
A few moments later we finally heard her first cry, and gave a sigh of relief. She was 6'9 and perfectly healthy from that point on.
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
19 Nov 08
First of all, happy birthday to your twins, and secondly thank you for sharing your story.
I clearly remember the birth day of my son.
It was on a cloudy Tuesday on December 7, I was at home baby sitting my little niece when the pains started. I was alarmed because I was not due until December 26. I called my Aunt who is a nurse and my sister.
By the time they got to the house I was doubled over with pain, this was about one in the afternoon.
My sister thought if I would lay down I would feel better, but after two or so hours the pains were unbearable.
My sister drove me to the hospital which was not far away. My husband at the time was in the military.
After all of the insurance questions, they finally admitted me. I was in the labor room screaming from the pains because they were so intense.
Finally a nurse came in and checked me out, and broke my water. I continued screaming, and was yelled at by the nurses to be quiet, when a nurse came in to see me, she noticed the baby's head coming out and then they rolled me into the delivery room. Within 10 minutes my son was born. He was born at 5:42 pm on Pearl Harbor day.
Have a great day with your twins
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Thank you.
Nobody can master the art of a due date. They say full term is anywhere from 38 weeks to 42 weeks, it all depends on your typical menstrual cycle. So long as the child is born healthy, that's all that matters.
It's a shame nurses have to be so rude. I remember I had quite a few nasty nurses during my labors. They really should be nicer, and labor is the most horrific as well as the most wonderful thing a woman will ever go through.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Wow, katsmeow, you are a goddess! Those are two very healty sounding twins and you carried them for so long. I enjoyed reading the story of their birth.
I do relive in my head the day of my sons birth through out his birthday. That is just the kind of person I am. I was on line chatting with a friend this year when midnight rolled around on his birthday. I remember saying something like "four years ago I was about to have my first contraction in about 3 hours" and they were like "Ohh". Lol
Happy belated birthday to your twins.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Ohmigosh, I am surprised it didn't.
This is a personal question, but after five kids, do you have bladder 'issues' today?
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I see why most twins don't go to term. It was far too difficult. My body was litterally shutting down. I mentioned I could no longer go to the bathroom. I would literally sit on the toilet for an hour and all that would happen was a few drips. I could feel the pressure in my bladder, but it wouldn't come out, no matter what.
When the docs finally admitted me I begged the nurse for a catheder. She refused at first, but I insisted. So she inserted it, and after that she says "You were holding 2 liters of urine... I guess you really needed the catheder." Well, duh! I know my body better than any nurse or doctor.
If I hadn't delivered that day, I think my bladder would have exploded, literally.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Occasionally. Sometimes if I cough or sneeze, you know. Most of the time it's fine, but there's been times where I've had to wear panty liners while I've had a very bad cold.
You know how after a baby is born they tell you to work your kegal muscles? Yeah, those are very important. I still work on them from time to time now. The more I work them, the better my control problems are.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
20 Nov 08
Just like you, I don’t pick any particular day to remember my son’s birth or his growing years. Just seeing my sleeping, sitting at the table in a particular pose, an unconscious movement of his hands, a particular way he stares OMG every moment I am taken back to the moment a bawling baby, all curved up like a dressed chicken, was shown to me for the very first time. Those limbs that I feared to touch, they looked so fragile, how they have strengthened over the years, yhat particular left eye with an infection…how it twinkles with naughtiness now, like you I too am amazed at how time flies. I cant even remember clearly so many things which seemed so significant in their own moments.
I had a C-section for my child, sissy that I am, I could not bear to go thru manual labour. I was hospitalized the evening before and throughout the stillness of the night, I could hear horrible screams from the manual labour room and heard grisly details that made me break out in sweat. Next morning I begged my hubby to speak for a C-section but the docs would not allow (don’t know why they have to go ‘natural’ on this when medical science depends on so many scientific advancements on so many things) and tried to induce labour which made me more nervous and tense. After much persuasion and signing of bond papers, he was able to make them take me to the OT and I had full anaesthesia (my point being they can do anything with me as long as I am not conscious enough to ‘feel’ it)…not a very brave show on my part!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Honestly, natural labor is so much easier than a c-section. I was worried about needing a c-section for some of my kids. Part of me wanted one for the twins, had I had one, my tubes would have been tied and I wouldn't have my youngest 2 children. But the recovery time from a c-section is much worse than natural labor. There is very little pain after a natural labor, and it goes away quickly. My first had the most pain, just tenderness in that area for a couple weeks. I had to sit on a pillow, but that was from needing an episiotomy. After the twins I felt better than I had in months. The others there was little to no pain afterwards.
@kiwibee (240)
• New Zealand
20 Nov 08
That was a beautiful account. So many MyLot posts have typos and bad grammar, they are a trial to read, but yours was flowing and lovely. And I so felt for you!
I have three children, 1966, 1969, 1971. I remember each day very well. They were special days. I think we owe it to our children to remember those days. I don't celebrate birthdays, but remembering the circumstances under which each child was born is a matter of love and respect. And at times, although *not celebrating* I have spoken to my children of how it was on that day.
I can tell that you love your twins very much :-)
I believe that love in the family such as we are discussing in this thread, is at the basis of human society. I truly treasure my children.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
21 Nov 08
I remember each of my kids births but I really don't think about it during their birthdays. i'm usually to busy trying to plan a party and get things together. all of my labors went pretty easy though all were different. it's funny when people ask what labor is like because everyone's is different so i have to choose which story i want to tell. i'm gabby so i usually tell all 3 lol.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Each of mine were different too. Even the pain I felt was different for each one. For the twins I can't remember ever feeling a contraction. I felt them early in the morning a bit, but I thought they were braxton hicks. When actual labor began, I honestly had no idea because what I felt was a ton of pressure on the bladder, and it was constant pressure. I assumed it was just because I hadn't emptied my bladder. Once they finally admitted me and I got a catheder the pain didn't go away, but it still didn't feel like labor or contraction pains, it was just constant pressure on my bladder that got worse as the night wore on.
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I just gave birth. My baby is almost three weeks old now. Ofcourse, I would remember my child's birthday and I think even if I get alot of children and grow old already, I would still remember their birthdays.
My parents are on their 70's now and we are 9 children. But until now, they still know all our birthdays. They even give us a present during our birthdays even if we all have our own families now.
My parents are on their 70's now and we are 9 children. But until now, they still know all our birthdays. They even give us a present during our birthdays even if we all have our own families now. @katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I meant the day of their birth, not the actual birthday.
@1grnthmb (2055)
• United States
25 Nov 08
What we do is have one big birthday party for the three girls but one their birthday they still get one gift and get to decide what they want for their birthday dinner. The twins are a little harder but they still each get a special birthday dinner. Just not on the same day. They get to choose their favorite food and dessert.
@selina0625 (1379)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Of course I do remember my child's birthday..how could forget he's my only child hehe.I still remember the time that he was born, it was 12:30pm.:)
@Foxxee (3650)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Aww... Happy Birthday to the TWINS!
As for me... I always remember their birth day & like you, I always am amazed on how they have grown & sometimes can't believe I'm a mother.
I do tell my oldest who is 6 about her birth & I show her pictures & we go through the baby book together & it's pretty wonderful doing this with her...
My son is still kinda young to understand about birth & so on, but I plan on doing the same with him. I think it's a good thing to share the experiance.
Thanks for sharing your story... :D
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Happy birthday to your twins! What a great story. You were lucky to carry your twins to term. I know so many who have had twins and they were born premature.
I do tell my kids certain things about their births on their birthdays.
My oldest just turned 20 on the 11th of this month. I told him that I was going to call him at 11:36 pm, but didn't want to wake him up. He didn't get it until I told him that is the time he was born.
My second was born on Nov 1. I usually tell him how his dad had to take a shower before we went to the hospital, so I was having such hard contractions on the way to the hospital that when I got there, they brought me right in and he was born 15 minutes later.
When my 3rd son was born, the weather was horrible. We have photos of a huge snowbank covered with ice in the front of our house. With the windchill it was 40 degrees below 0. Every year on his birthday I think about the weather that day.
With my daughter, I wanted an epidural so bad, I went to the hospital very early. I begged the nurses for an epidural. I almost didn't get it because I was too far along by the time they would have gotten the paperwork done. I had one nurse running for me to the pharmacy in the hospital to get everything for it, so I did get one...she was the easiest delivery by far. And born on Memorial Day:)
@gemini_rose (16264)
•
19 Nov 08
I have no choice but to remember the day they were born as they love to hear about it and are always asking me questions! Especially my 6 year old he loves to hear all the stories about himself and his siblings. I lose count of the amount of times I have gone through it all. When it comes near to their birthdays I always think what I was doing at the time coming up to their birth or on the day it makes me sad as each year passes and the memory of their births drifts further and further away.
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
Who can forget each painful day they were born.Each and every one of them has a painful story.Is there a painless birth?Even when the term painless delivery is not slightly true.I have told to each one of them their unforgettable painful delivery to make them feel how much does it take to have a child.
It was nice reading your story of delivering to twins.You are very lucky you have them delivered normally and escape the big cost of caesarian delivery.And you are very lucky they have matured enough in your womb before they came out.
My twin grandchildren came out earlier.They have to stay in the incubator for two weeks and the medicine is very expensive.
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 08
I would tell anyone about about my baby. All the difficulties that I had makes him a miracle to me. I had to wait two years before we were told the good news. When I had my first dip and tell check I had a leg injury. Then I was misdiagnosed with diabetes. I learned to inject insulin myself but my body rejected and I fainted. The hospital controlled my diet and my sugar dropped under normal. Then I was misdiagnosed with high blood pressure. I had to stay at the hospital for 4 days. Then I was told that my baby was not ready yet. He was wrongly scan and not ready yet to go out. I was given some medicine to force labor. I had the contraction at 11 am but but they push me into the labor room at 2.00. In the labor room, a woman scream her lung out begging for his mom and husband to accompany him. Then the water broke, and my baby was too weak and they had to do a c section on me. I was really relief to see that my baby boy is finally out. I threw up on myself when the doctors put to much pressure when they stitched me up. It was a very over whelming experience but I am having another one next year.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Nov 08
If I've learned one thing from my induction, it's to never be induced again. You can't mess with nature. The baby will come when it is ready, and no sooner. The only way I'd ever agree to another induction is if there were serious problems with the baby's health.
@sourxgirl (73)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Aww..congratulations on your twins' birthday. I remember my daughter's birthday quite well. I went in for a checkup on Friday, and my doctor said that if I didn't go into labor on my own over the weekend, I was supposed to come back in Monday. Well, no baby came, so I went in Monday morning and he said that he wanted me to come back in the afternoon around 5pm because I was going to be admitted since he wanted to induce me. He was concerned because during the last month I started showing signs of preeclampsia (sugar in my urine, high blood pressure, and really bad swelling of my legs). So I went home, got my stuff ready, and came back to the hospital a little before 5 and I was admitted. My doctor came in a short time later and he inserted a small sponge that was supposed to help induce it, and he said that if I hadn't gone into labor by morning, he was going to start the pitocin. He also left some medicine to help me sleep because he said he wanted me to be rested. So I just rested and watched tv and my mom left around 10pm, saying she'd be back at around 7am. I ended up sleeping until midnight, and then the contractions started getting harder. It progressed until 5am when suddenly they started coming full force without much of a break in between. At around 6am I begged the nurse for some medication to help take the edge off the contractions because they were right on top of each other it seemed, but by the time she came back the doctor came into the room, did a internal exam, and started getting his tools ready for delivery. My mom showed up at about 6:30 and right when she showed up they had me start pushing. At 7:09am my daughter was born, 8 pounds 6 ounces. I ended up having a episiotomy because apparently I had started pushing too early (it seemed to be the only way to help the contractions and that's what my body was telling me to do). It was sort of funny though, my grandma had taken the day off of work and she came at about 7:30am with her coffee and a book, all ready to help me during delivery. She came in and I said, "They took the baby to get the apgar test," and she replies, "What??! You had her already?" She had wanted to be there when my daughter was born. She was quite shocked.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Nov 08
My mom was half an hour late for the birth of my first son. She did not expect my labor to go so quick. I also needed an episiotomy for the first, but not for any of the others. For the last the doc did have to tell me to slow down otherwise I'd tear myself, luckily I listened and did not tear. Healing is a lot easier without an episiotomy.
@23uday (2997)
• India
19 Nov 08
Hi frnds,
I have remember birthday of my uncle daughters birthday.My daughters twins were born one year ago.I can remember their birthdays.we had enjoyed a lot in my twins
sisters birthday.iam feel very happy and also my family members.we enjoyed a birthday party.
