No. of relationships you had before marriage...

@zemlene (354)
Philippines
November 19, 2008 8:00am CST
I am still single and in a relationship right now and i already have 4 failed relationships in the past few years and I'm on my fifth now... hopefully this will goes on through forever but i couldn't be sure if this is really the end of the chase. I am just curious to know how many relationships you have had before tying the knot?
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14 responses
• Australia
25 Nov 08
Well this gets a bit complicated for me lol. Ther were three actual relationships and a couple of quick flings before my first marriage. Between no 1 and 2 there were just a couple of relationships and a few more flings. Between 2 and 3 there were four de facto relationships, 2 other medium term, and a rash of shorties. Between 3 and 4 there was very little of anything. Since no 4 there have been 4 defacto and 3 other meaningful relationships and Lord alone knows how many flings. As my maternal auntie once said, I like the ladies lol. My current relationship is also my longest to date, and with an ounce of luck will make up for all the failed ones. She'll likely bury me. Lash
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@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 08
I am unmarried and i had 5 relationship and all of them ended up with some or the other problem, and i have decided i am really bad in it and i will just get married once and give everything to my married life. I mean wasting so much of time in these relationship and trying to be to be your best in that, this also does not end up in a good successful relationship then what is the use of doing all this. I think once we get married it would be atleast better than that..
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I am single and I have been dating this really nice guy for over three years. Before him, I went through 3 serious relationships. I guess it's fine cause it sort of gave me the proper perspective on dating as a whole.
@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Hmmm. Well I have been married twice, but counting my first marriage, I think it was 4 actual relationships. I was 17 when I had my first actual relationship (considered a boyfriend) and I was 22 when I married my ex-husband. I know this is going to sound hokey but you WILL know when things are right, you will be with someone you can look forward with and still see them with you when you're old. Now I DID feel that way with my ex for 6 years but then he went nuts and got abusive, and that's something nobody can see. It's really 'comfortable' when you're with the right one, not that everything is perfect all the time but it's secure. You know you can be yourself and it doesn't matter, you won't get tossed out on your head suddenly lol, and they know the same is true of you, that you won't toss them out either.
• United States
20 Nov 08
I've actually only ever been in one relationship. We've been together almost 5 years.
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
i did have 3 before i got married... having other relationships before marriage would make us grow and learn a lot about life...
• Norway
19 Nov 08
Just got married last month and weve been together as lovers for almost 6 years before we decided to tie a knot. Before him, I had 3 not-so-serious relationships since they didnt lasts that long. And I also have 2 flings in between my relationships with 2 of my boyfriends.. so naughty of me.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I date alot of guys when I was single. Before I finally met my husband I was probably in 3 serious long term relationships. Remember though, with every relationship you will learn so much.
@Blondie2222 (24268)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I've never been married yet. Ive had 5 bad relationships my whole life. But currently I'm in a relationship right now and its been 5 yrs 8 months and things our great. Yeah we fight but doesnt all couples? We our currently engaged hoping to get married soon. I believe that he is the one for me...Hes cheated a few times yes but I cheated too and it brought us closer and we trust each other more now. No more cheatin for us and hoping to move in together soon! Hope you can find that perfect somebody for you'rself and get married n be happy. Good luck with that!
• United States
19 Nov 08
I had 4 failed relationships before I got married. The relationship I was in before I met my husband was a 10 year long ABUSIVE relationship...my bad for wasting my time! I have been with my husband now for 3 years, and he is wonderful! I got a late start with a happy, loving relationship as I was 31 when we got married! Best of luck to you! :)
@diillu (5128)
19 Nov 08
I think in a relationship it's all about learning from the mistakes. Without experiencinf the failed relationship we wouldn't be able to determine or know the perfect man or woman for us. So, I think failed relationship helps alot for the succesful relationship. And as to talk about me, I'm also in a prefectly perfect relationship and i'm also hopeful that this is the end of my search for the perfect man and before this I had 2 failed relationship and the previous one was completely disastorous.
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
my first relationship lasted 11 months, my second lasted 2 years or more...i had a 2 year relationship with my third before we got married, stayed married for 7 years then we got divorced....i am now with my forth and hopefully my last...we've been together for more than 6 years now....
@Firefly99 (251)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I dated ALOT of different guys when I was younger But I was only in two serious relationships before getting married. (Well 3 if you include the relationship I had with my husband) My husband was actually my first real relationship, My first kiss, everything, But we were both young and it did not work out at that time. SO we both had other relationships. The guy I got serious about right after splitting with the hubby was really just a rebound and I was not reallt into him at all so it was over quick. After dating a few guys I met one that I thought was the one! We were together for almost two years and then my husband came back into my life. Things were not going well with the other guy and I and thats when the hubby and I started seeing each other again. We dated 4 years before getting married and have ow been married for 9 years.
• United States
19 Nov 08
I am 27 and currently engaged. I had dated many people before settling down. I didn't even know if I was the marryiing-type! Haha. I would say that of my relationships prior to the current one, I really only had 2 serious partners. And with those, only one was someone I would possibly consider marrying. I dated someone for 2 years and we had so much fun together, but realized in the end that we were better off as friends. The next long-term relationship I was in lasted 3 years, and it was very tumultuous and ended badly because we realized we just weren't good for each other. The third time was the charm. I dated my fiance for just a year before we realized that this was the best thing that happened to either of us, and he proposed on my birthday, exactly one year after we met. Funny thing too, all of our friends and family were shocked to hear the news. It seems like people aren't settling down before their 30's these days. The times have changed I guess. Love usually finds you when you least expect it. At least that was the case for me. Good luck in your relationship!